To find it a bit upsetting that my Dec born dc gets shit presents...

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From relatives. I know it's an expensive time of year but it's the same date every year, hardly shocking.

I put a lot of effort into all my nieces and nephews birthday presents throughout the year and wouldn't dream of wrapping their present up in Christmas paper or spending £3 on a present "because it's Christmas soon". Every birthday so far this has happened!

I'm probably being unreasonable, but I just feel sorry for my dc!

YANBU. People have to see it from a child’s eyes and how it makes them feel. We have a niece with a jan birthday and she gets £15 at Christmas and £15 for her birthday. Just like her brother and sister so later in the year...

My DS birthday is Christmas Day (this was defo not planned!) but we just roll with it and do Christmas presents in the morning and birthday presents in the afternoon.

He's only 4 so hasn't quite grasped it's all on one day yet but I did order birthday cake this year. Mainly because I don't want to be baking on Xmas eve! Some great ideas on here though for future birthdays.

My DD birthday is 1stJanso although we have always tried to make it special (she’s 20this year) she gets rubbish/ no presents from many people and when she was little nowhere was even open on her birthday to have a party and the adults have hangovers from New Year’s Eve.

Mines in June... always ruined by Wimbledon tennis - this affects it greatly as my 2 best friends work there, Glastonbury weekend- 2 other friends “wouldn’t miss it for the world” and everyone else always ends up going to weddings over my birthday.... DD is in August so her friends are always on holiday so miss hers too.
There’s rarely a good time for a birthday it seems!

YANBU my DD is a dec birthday, I doesn’t dust much to be thoughtful. I hate it when they wrap on Christmas paper MIL used to do it until one year I snapped and handed the present back...never did it again

Cost not dust

That's not really the same thing, Need. Otherwise there are exam times and Halloween and Bonfire Night - none of those dates have the same impact as Christmas does on birthdays. I'd go so far as to say that most people don't even know or care when Wimbledon week is.

It's my niece's birthday next week. When she was young we did a conscious separate proper birthday wrapping paper and cards thing and then Christmas wrapping paper a week later. Now that she's older she wants to go shopping so it's more a money thing and that's ok as she can have it for both events if she likes - but not a chance of getting stuff at Christmas for her birthday as there are hoards of shoppers everywhere, so a new problem.

YANBU, my DM birthday falls on Dec 23rd, as if that wasn’t bad enough her DSis, younger by 2 years shares her birthday, small coincidence that it is almost exactly 40 weeks to the day after St Patrick’s Day and my Granfather arrived in the UK on a boat from Cork at the age of 19!
I always make sure to get them both separate presents and cards in proper birthday paper and take my mum out for the day, i’d hate to have a Christmas birthday.

I knew someone who was born 26th dec. Every Christmas night when the kids had gone to bed her mum would take all the Christmas decorations down and put up birthday banners and balloons to make her birthday special. Joint presents are awful and unforgivable.

My son is 23rd December sadly it means he has no parties as I am not made of money. Sucks.

That is awful and very sad for your DS. DM is mid 60’s and still very upset and bitter that she never had a birthday party as a kid as her birthday is shortly after Christmas. Your DS Birthday is the same day every year. If it was in Sept/Oct/Nov you would have to save for it so put some aside for him and give him birthday parties.

A mate I used to work with has the right idea.... his eldest is a Xmas day baby. They make it an occasion but family doesn’t, so every July they do a second birthday for her....

its just a day a year, it doesn’t matter what day, it’s yours, materialistic parents will make materialistic kids, my birthday is Boxing Day I have never had any idea or care what people spent on me. I have never had a shit Birthday

I really like my mid December birthday, everyone is up for a party. I think I get less presents possibly, and sometimes joint ones. Really don’t want to given loads of stuff so that suits me, I’d much rather go out for a drink/socialise which people are generally up for this time of year!!

December birthday here too. I deliberately started ttc in the autumn to reduce the risk of the dc having to suffer the same fate!
Too many presents in Christmas paper, combined Christmas and birthday cards as well as presents and days not taken off as I need to save my leave for Christmas.

People need to stop conceiving in March and April. No sex before Beltane

I have a Christmas birthday but my parents always celebrated my half birthday. In August, which comes with its own problems. But just pick another day that's maybe meaningful to you all and celebrate then. Tell all the relatives as well.

Two anecdotes...

1. I had my first ever birthday party at 40 because I asked my husband to organise me one for my birthday (we had it in the summer though). It was brill, and made up for all those years of no parties because Christmas/ summer holiday
2. I had my credit card stolen and when I went to report it to the police the almost-retirement-age-police officer said, ugh I have a Christmas birthday too. It sucks doesn't it, so many "joint" presents

I'm April and step mum would combine my b/day & Xmas gifts! Hard to sit a watch everyone else open presents on Xmas day and I had nothing

My aunt always gets me a "Christmas Birthday" card, which is so sweet, but the last few years she's had to get "December Birthday" as the specific "Christmas Birthday" ones don't seem to exist anymore :(

I am lucky - my birthday could hardly be further away from December 25th!

I know exactly how this feels. My birthday is in January though and people never want to do anything for my birthday even though its almost a month after christmas and people always buy me a small gift for both, it wouldnt be so bad for me if it was a slightly more expensive gift or does that sound spoilt?
My Niece was born on christmas last year though and I made sure for this year she gets two gifts, one wrapped in xmas paper, and the other in birthday paper.

Wow, readjng the comments here I think I've been very lucky. I've only ever had the positives of joint presents, ie being able to have something more expensive and as they're so close together it doesn't feel odd. Lovely extras bought in the sales. And fabulous friends and family who always want to join in and celebrate with me. I think I must be the exception rather than the rule...

When you live near the tennis and everyoneeeeeee goes or works there, it is a huge thing

Apologies for sympathising with you

I get it's tough for people with December birthdays but I have 3 close friends with December birthdays to buy for( including DP), 3 not quite so close who I may have to buy for if I'm invited to their "do" and my DS's best friend. To buy for. It's very stressful finding at least another four gifts that are " thoughtful" and not Christmasy.
It's incredibly hard to "buy presents in the year" stuff goes out of fashion, tastes change etc. Added to which cards and gifts are all in the shops from October onwards.

Conversely my birthday is mid Jan. I love it!
Loads of presents ( possibly regifted or sale stuff!! ),
People are back up for doing stuff because it's a dull month.
Lots of designated drivers on health kicks available.
Cheap flights and hotels abroad.
Lots of offers in pubs and restaurants.

I have a great time.

December is such a lovely time of year, everywhere looks beautiful, everyone’s in the celebratory mood!

This is how I feel about it. I have always loved having a birthday in December, even as a child.