To find it a bit upsetting that my Dec born dc gets shit presents...

[grinchmas]

From relatives. I know it's an expensive time of year but it's the same date every year, hardly shocking.

I put a lot of effort into all my nieces and nephews birthday presents throughout the year and wouldn't dream of wrapping their present up in Christmas paper or spending £3 on a present "because it's Christmas soon". Every birthday so far this has happened!

I'm probably being unreasonable, but I just feel sorry for my dc!

And....for his 13th birthday my MIL bought a My Little pony cake for him as it was the only one the shop had....

In my family I have... Ddad - Boxing Day, db- 27th, dsis- 31st - Mum - 10th jan

YANBU in the least.

My childhood best fried was a Christmas Eve baby AND a twin. She always resented that nothing was ever hers, alone. (Sharing a bedroom with her twin brother was bad enough, IMO.) I remember getting her a Barbie doll for her birthday one year,, and how pleased she was to have a birthday present AND a Christmas present. :(

And clearly I can't spell, today. *friend (also, please ignore that extra comma...ugh)

Another early Jan birthday here who has forever had "joint" birthday and Christmas. My sis has a birthday a few days before xmas and has always had the same. Funnily enough, August birthdayed bro never had joint ones

YANBU my sons birthday is Christmas Day & his birthday presents are wrapped in Christmas paper cos nobody has any bloody birthday paper through the whole month of Dec, my SIL is the worst one yet her DD has a birthday in early Jan & I’m so tempted to wrap her present in Christmas paper nxt yr for her! We do Christmas presents in the morning for him then his actual birthday presents in the afternoon & it’s sad that they aren’t wrapped accordingly!

Yeah I hear you dd birthday is on 27th dec

YANBU. My husband is Christmas Day. His presents from most others are shit or non existent. His parents have even forgotten to say happy birthday one year 🙄

Mine is in December, it is a first world problem but it's still pants.

Last week I said to DH for your birthday August we were in a luxury hotel in Paris, the highlight of my birthday this year is the Christmas food shopping delivery.

Your poor DC. Yanbu. A friend of mine has a DC born on the 19th Dec. They always have a Christmas party at the beginning of December which started life as her birthday party. It marks the beginning of our season, very much Xmas themed, secret santa for the kids, a visit from the FC (one of the dad's) when they were little, elves/drama students etc now they are older. but it is still also her DCs birthday party. We all ALWAYS get her her own gift wrapped in birthday paper and we are not even family. So much so that they moved the party closer to the begining of the month because when they had it nearer her birthday she was overwhelmed with gifts. I wonder if it's less being tight than not knowing what to get? But my sense of fairness would not let me scrimp on a birthday pressie if this was one of my neices just because it was close to Xmas although I might be tempted to get one larger gift.

You have to lead from the front. My DSis makes a huge fuss of her DS's Christmas Eve Birthday - we all get invited and she (also a December baby) has told us no joint Christmas/birthday presents!

My birthday is at the start of January. Everyone’s fucks have been given by then. There are none left for me. Presents aren’t joint any more; they’re either something Christmas-scented or Totes from the sales, or non-existent. There is no fuss. No one wants to leave the house.

Nothing makes me feel more childish, demanding and petulant like thinking about my birthday. Total first world problem. And yet.

My dad's is boxing day, my nephew is the 8th, a friend's daughter is the 9th and my SIL and best friend are very early January. I make sure I put the same effort in as I would if their birthdays were the summer. It's an expensive month but not a surprise that it's coming.

Tell everyone not to do birthday as you will.be celebrating in June this time.Have family party then.

My son is a Christmas Eve baby. Reading this has been really helpful in things to think about for the future. So far family have been really good and determined to ensure he doesn't get joint presents or Christmas paper on his birthday.

We do a Christmas Eve box in the late afternoon after cake on his birthday and he always has a birthday gift from Father Christmas in it too, it's just something small that I hope helps him feel important that day. I just hope he doesn't grow up being sad they're so close.

Finding birthday day outs on his actual birthday that aren't too Christmassy is difficult though!

I was born on my mother's 21st Birthday (I was early and she should have been having a party!)

3 days before Christmas, so I have to share it with my mother (and she with me) and everyone is really busy and everywhere is full of Christmas stuff.

However, you get used to it. Thankfully my parents were great and I always had separate presents (some relatives did the combined-present-for-the-price-of-1-trick) which narked a little but overall it was ok sharing the day with my mum.

Now I have one DS with a birthday on 19th December and another DS 3rd January. Combined with Christmas and mine and mum's birthdays it can be quite busy and a logistical nightmare. I use lists to make sure I haven't forgotten anyone's birthday.

And then we go out and celebrate all 4 together in the middle of January. It blows away the January blues!

I have a late December birthday and seemed to have bucked the trend as I like it! My mum was always slightly militant about making it special and separate from Christmas. There was no Christmas wrapping paper allowed! I've never once had a joint Christmas and birthday present. My friends and family are all of work and it fills the lull between Christmas and New Year. DD is early January and I haven't encountered any issues with hers either.

DS is a Christmas Eve baby. We are in Germany, where presents are given on Christmas Eve and usually Santa comes to visit and hand out presents.
We've started to celebrate his half birthday in June. He gets presents then. I also insist on having the 24th December as his birthday. It's about him. He might only get a few little things and his cake but no Christmas wrapping paper. We do Christmas presents on the 25th in the morning.

I think it’s awful I’m late November so just barely missed the on heres one present I used to know if I didn’t see some family members in November it would be heres your one present it annoyed me so much I have been so careful when planning pregnancy to avoid nov-feb birthdays so yadnbu

Early December baby here. And yes, it’s been the same all my life - Xmas & Birthday combined. I never minded if it was an abnormally expensive gift (which my dad did before he died - ie he bought me an iPhone one year, camera the next and laptop the next as he received some money after my mum died and wanted to give me something nice) because they were totally awesome, but otherwise I’d sometimes go without on my birthday because relatives had just bought a Xmas present.

Early January here- I get the shit people didn't want for Christmas. Or sale stuff (which I don't mind as long as they stick to the actual agreed budget. Not what it would have been full price).

The only upside is that mine is the first in the year so I can reciprocate.

What do you call a shit present OP?

Ds birthday is on the 16th Dec. He's not had any joint presents yet but we have to have his party quite early so it's before the end of school term.

At his party- 1st Dec he got plenty of presents wrapped in Xmas paper from
His school friends which annoyed me. It's not that close to Christmas. Guess he will
Need to get used to it. Fortunately none of our family give joint presents yet.

My nephews birthday is Christmas Eve, he's only 1 right now but I wonder what will happen with that in the future.

I think birthdays before Christmas are better then after

Dh's bro and SIL are the worst for this. Both of us have birthdays in December. We pulled them up about whinging about our birthdays. They aren't going to change and organise themselves ever. So we just don't invite them to anything which pisses them off.

I hate having Xmas cards and birthday together with a tree.