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Bad teacher

126 replies

Mrsmumof3 · 12/12/2018 16:06

My son is in reception his teacher is awful ,always ignoring parents and on pick up time she will talk with other parents while im standing there waiting for her to call my child name. Whenever she want to speaks with me about somethinh concerning my son ,for example if another parent come she will leave me and starts talking to the other parent then come back to me . Like today school finish at 3.30 and i was there at 3.21 i was standing there with 4 other parents then she opened the doors call the other 4 kids and my kids wasnt called then lots of parents starts coming and i was standing in the front of her ,she just ignores me and call the other children names whos parents come after me and i was so mad i shout my son name to come out the class and my son didnt want to come because the teacher didnt call his name and all she did ignored me and she went back inside the classroom until i shout my son name again then the teaching assitant told my son to go then he comes. I dont really know what her problems because my son always on time ,never missed school since september and we always do our homework and readings .does this happen a lot or is this unusual?

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RedHelenB · 12/12/2018 16:08

Just say something to the teacher!

RedHelenB · 12/12/2018 16:08

Like I've cone for Johnny or is Johnny ready,

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Mrsmumof3 · 12/12/2018 19:05

Ok thanks i will say something tommorow

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Believeitornot · 12/12/2018 19:07

I don’t think she seriously has a problem with you.

Maybe she’s got seven million other things on her mind, maybe she’s trying to get certain kids out first and needs to pass on messages etc.

MaisyPops · 12/12/2018 19:13

Have a chat with them.
Being busy over pick up is hardly worthy of deciding they are a bad teacher.

Julianaa · 12/12/2018 19:14

Could she have forgotten whose mum you are?

I mean she should just apologise and ask who you're waiting for so it doesn't excuse her rudeness but it sounds like it could be that rather than a personal issue with you.

VashtaNerada · 12/12/2018 19:14

As a teacher there are one or two parents who look really similar and I dread calling the wrong child. Could it be that? Or does she definitely know who you are?

BackforGood · 12/12/2018 19:15

Good grief. Your poor little boy.

RolyRocks · 12/12/2018 19:23

always ignoring parents and on pick up time she will talk with other parents while im standing there waiting for her to call my child name.

She can’t be ignoring parents whilst simultaneously talking to them!!!!

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Mrsmumof3 · 12/12/2018 19:29

Thank you everyone she knows me very well and every time she needs to talk with me she called me by my son name (mummy) but i just dont understand why she will ignored me , it been going on since my son started school i keep ignoring it but today i just had enough because i cant just keep standing there till my son come out . I also have 2 other children to pick up at different school

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NC4AntiOuting · 12/12/2018 19:39

Not really commenting on the specifics of the original poster but....

I’ve noticed a curious juxtaposition of “the school did this” with “I’m run ragged because I have two young DCs to look after”

Now, of course there’s some who are better at their jobs than others but it seems to me that if having one or two DCs is sometimes difficult (which it often is), try to imagine having to deal with 10-30 of the little blighters and their loving parents.Shock

Probably not a job I could do.

ChesterGreySideboard · 12/12/2018 19:46

There are some parents that I simply can’t remember. They stand and stare and it sometimes takes a minute or two for me to remember who they want. It’s nothing personal, it’s just that each child has about 3 people who potentially collect, mum, dad, Nan, childminder, and I forget.

IHeartKingThistle · 12/12/2018 19:50

She's probably not ignoring you. And you know, even if she is, that doesn't make her a 'bad teacher'. Her job is teaching your kid, not talking to you.

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Mrsmumof3 · 12/12/2018 20:41

Ok thank you but i dont need her to talk to me all i want is for her to call my son to come up the classroom on pick up time .

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Believeitornot · 12/12/2018 22:12

And she will call your kid when she is ready to do so.

She will call your child when she is ready.

Just wait until your turn?

Wolfiefan · 12/12/2018 22:14

You realise that none of that actually makes her a bad teacher? Confused
Teachers need to plan and teach and assess progress and ensure students are safeguarded. That’s the actual job.

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Mrsmumof3 · 12/12/2018 22:14

I always wait for my turn and im always early but why does she ignore me and calls children whos parents come after me ?

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Wolfiefan · 12/12/2018 22:16

Does it really matter in the grand scheme of things? And it certainly doesn’t make her a bad teacher.

MehhDays · 12/12/2018 22:17

Just wait your bloody turn. Maybe your son is not ready and other children are (he might be faffing/misbehaving/talking etc). Maybe the teacher is letring certain children out because she needs to give specific messaged to certain parents. It's not the teachers problem you have other children to pick up.

Don't try and call your son out before he's been allowed to leave. That's really not fair on him and could get him in trouble.

PathOfLeastResitance · 12/12/2018 22:19

Maybe you’re really annoying and needy and she does it to annoy you? Or maybe she’s a professional who isn’t doing it on purpose so just calmly explain that you need your son quickly at pick up time as you have to be at another school?

OwlinaTree · 12/12/2018 22:19

Maybe your son isn't actually ready to leave yet so she doesn't call him?

MehhDays · 12/12/2018 22:21

Do you really expect the teacher (whilst prepping children for home time) to keep and eye on who arrives first to pick up their children so they can let then out in the right order???

ImAChaiseLongueGetMeOutOfHere · 12/12/2018 22:22

I was so mad i shout my son name to come out the class and my son didnt want to come because the teacher didnt call his name and all she did ignored me

Delightful

ThisIsNotARealAvo · 12/12/2018 22:24

Teachers don't know which parents arrive when because they are teaching. I had a parent like you in my class last year who seemed not to understand this and used to get annoyed when I didn't call her child out first because she had got there first.

Believeitornot · 12/12/2018 22:24

Unless your son is never called out (unlike), just wait.

Unclench and wait.