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AIBU?

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...To not want to play taxi Christmas night just because I'm pregnant?

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OhMyGodIKnowHim · 12/12/2018 15:47

I will be 37 weeks pregnant Christmas Day. We are having Christmas dinner at my parents house with extended family - there will be 20 guests in total. Very much looking forward to it.
Anyway - my elderly grandparents are coming (Nan has Alzheimer's if that's relevant) Anyway, spoke to my Mum and said ill happily take them both home later as my Nan will probably want to leave around 10pm and ill be able to take them home and get them settled and help my Grandad get her ready for bed etc. No issues whatsoever.

Then my Dad says - well i'll tell X and Y auntie you can take them home too. Now, I'm not saying I wont give them a lift (they are in opposite directions and wouldn't all fit in one journey so this would be another 2 journeys probably early hours of the morning as we play games and stay up late Christmas night) I'm just saying I'll see how I feel on the night. We are staying at my parents overnight so I can go to bed earlier if I want without disturbing DH's fun and drinking.

Should I just expect to be shuttling everyone around Christmas night at different times in different directions because I can't have a drink?

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Jeeperscreepers69 · 12/12/2018 22:17

Put a end to.it and just say u can't drive your feet don't reach pedals because of your bump. Simple.

BeanBagLady · 12/12/2018 22:18

“He says he would do it if it were him, but it isn't, and it never will be, because he wouldn't not drink at Christmas so it's easy to say knowing he'd never be in the situation. “ Let alone the fact that he’s never been and never will Be pregnant!

Your Dad is being outrageous. Really outrageous. I can’t believe he would offer up his heavily pregnant Dd as a multi trip taxi driver in the early hours of the morning, freezing cold weather... my Dad would have physically barred the door to stop me doing trips like that to save someone a taxi fare.

He needs to cop on to himself.

Is your Mum involved and watching this happen?

I am so angry on your behalf.

Also surely your DH is outraged at the idea?

Bibijayne · 12/12/2018 22:24

My baby was born at 36+6. I'd want to minimise journeys!

Bringbackbertha · 13/12/2018 05:31

Beanbaglady has a good point. The.weather is likely to turn bad in the next few weeks.... I am suprised anyone in your family would let you leave the house carrying such precious cargo and be ok with it!

Ninabean17 · 13/12/2018 06:26

My 2nd DD was born at 35 weeks with no warning at all. Glad you've put your foot down on this, you're supposed to be enjoying Christmas and relaxing, not ferrying everyone else around!

Trinity66 · 13/12/2018 10:25

I told my dad all of this and he was really annoyed- but I will reiterate I meant it and that it's an absolute no

So he's happy for his heavily pregnant daughter stays up till whenever to ferry around his relatives? I know he's your dad and all but what a dick

DarlingNikita · 13/12/2018 10:27

He says he would do it if it were him, but it isn't, and it never will be, because he wouldn't not drink at Christmas

Plus he'd never be heavily pregnant. He can be as annoyed as he likes; you ain't doing it and that's that and he'll have to deal with it.

grimupnorth1 · 13/12/2018 11:43

I would put my foot down and say no. I'll be around 30 weeks at Xmas and I've told people I'll give them a lift if I feel up to it but if I'm tired, I'll be going to bed.

timeisnotaline · 13/12/2018 11:52

Drinking aside, your dad will be 9 months pregnant exactly never. I’d have told him that. He’s a very cheeky fucker. Can’t you volunteer him to spend Saturday shifting heavy things somewhere and go off at him if he’s not pleased and say for god’s sake it’s not that much to ask I’d do it if I were strong enough!!

delboysskinandblister · 13/12/2018 13:45

I think your Dad needs a gentle reminder about the whole point of Christmas....

Mary and Joseph, pregnant and weary from travel, stopped at the Inn for Mary's comfort not so Joseph could catch last orders.

Fundays12 · 13/12/2018 13:52

No you should be taxi service. I understand you wanting to get your grandparents home but everyone else can pay taxis unless your dad wants to stay sober and drive. You could have had the baby by then. My youngest was born at 37 weeks so you have no idea what’s going to happen.

dulcefarniente · 13/12/2018 14:17

I spent my engagement party ferrying guests home and I wasn't quite as far along as you are. People were quite happy to suggest that I leave the party and get them home to save the cost of a taxi even though it was after all my party.

This is one of those occasions when a white lie about the midwife not allowing it is your saviour.

loubluee · 13/12/2018 14:23

Just going to point out I was 37 weeks to the day when I went into labour- 3 hours later ds was here. So have an alternate plan! Congratulations and I hope you had a lovely Christmas.

Lonecatwithkitten · 13/12/2018 16:01

If the baby is breech what is the delivery plan I would have been 37+6 on Christmas Day and the section was booked for Christmas Eve.

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OhMyGodIKnowHim · 13/12/2018 20:18

@Lonecatwithkitten
I have midwife appt next wed (36 week one) and midwife said they will go from there depending on position. She's confident baby may still turn, I however am not haha x

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Wasywasydoodah · 13/12/2018 20:30

YANBU. I have a ‘I’m not leaving ny nice warm house’ rule for Christmas Day. It’s great.

Bringbackbertha · 13/12/2018 20:39

Have you been on your bouncy ball or getting on all fours?

My Baby was flipping between face down and face up.... I couldn't get her to turn. She ended up face up and caused me to have a long and difficult birth did and naturally though

ambereeree · 13/12/2018 20:43

Tell them no. At 37 weeks it's not the worth the risk driving around when you don't have to.
You are going to be far too tired anyway.

littlemeitslyn · 13/12/2018 20:56

No,look after yourself x

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