...To not want to play taxi Christmas night just because I'm pregnant?

[OhMyGodIKnowHim]

I will be 37 weeks pregnant Christmas Day. We are having Christmas dinner at my parents house with extended family - there will be 20 guests in total. Very much looking forward to it.
Anyway - my elderly grandparents are coming (Nan has Alzheimer's if that's relevant) Anyway, spoke to my Mum and said ill happily take them both home later as my Nan will probably want to leave around 10pm and ill be able to take them home and get them settled and help my Grandad get her ready for bed etc. No issues whatsoever.

Then my Dad says - well i'll tell X and Y auntie you can take them home too. Now, I'm not saying I wont give them a lift (they are in opposite directions and wouldn't all fit in one journey so this would be another 2 journeys probably early hours of the morning as we play games and stay up late Christmas night) I'm just saying I'll see how I feel on the night. We are staying at my parents overnight so I can go to bed earlier if I want without disturbing DH's fun and drinking.

Should I just expect to be shuttling everyone around Christmas night at different times in different directions because I can't have a drink?

@Eilaianne

You've said what i was thinking.'Sure Dad if you don't mind the diversion to Maternity en route..'

Yes, let's see how keen Dad is at that prospect...

What does your mum think about your dad volunteering you to stay up until all hours and then head out in the car to drive relatives, who are perfectly capable of getting a taxi, home at 37 weeks?

Sounds like your dad doesn't really understand what he's doing, so maybe your mum could explain in words of one syllable.

I'd do a slight compromise. Say yes, but one journey, they go when the grandparents want to. Depending which side of family they are can either help or wait in the car. I'm guessing it'll be too early for them so will taxi.

I'd be straight into pj's after dropping off grandparents and cosy in for the night. No chance I'd go out again and sure they wouldn't ask.

That is a typical man who has no idea what being pregnant is like!!
But tbh I woyldn’t Be happy doing two taxi rides late Christmas Day pregnant or not.
Settling grandma could be difficult- she might be stressed having been out of routine!
You might have baby or even go in to labour. Who is your taxi to the hospital if you do go into labour? Someone else should be sober JIC you need them.

That's cheeky and presumptuous of your dad to just assume. If they just get taxis normally, then there's no real reason for you to drive them.
I'd say to your dad now that you won't be going out again once you've driven your GPs home.

YANBU. I couldn't even drive at 37 weeks. I was like a hippo!

Your dad is being unreasonable. You could tell him that due you definitely won’t be driving your aunts home.

How cheeky of your dad, take your gran and grandad, and tell your dad you cannot do the rest, he will have to take Auntie and Uncle or get a cab.

You do the driving that you want to do lmo.

I'd had both of mine by 37wks.

All the best, Op.

Adding to the pp who said at 37 weeks they couldn't drive.

I would tell your Dad no, you won't be driving people around all hours of the night. You'll be 37 weeks and exhausted. They can do what they would have done if you weren't available, because you're not.

Your dad's straying into CF territory here - stamp on this now, otherwise it'll be 'oh yeah, I told xyz you're okay to take in their deliveries for two weeks whilst they're away. You'll be in anyway what with the baby' or some such nonsense.

Why didn't you say it to him at the time? he probably wasn't thinking that you might want to go to bed earlier than other people

I wouldn’t be driving anyone home ffs you will be almost full term. They are perfectly capable of getting themselves home. Literally they are saying them getting pissed is more important that you and their grandchild.

Taxis are either double or treble time at xmas, so I bet your dad has asked because Aunt and Uncle don't want to pay this.
I'd say no to doing it and that they either have to drive themselves home, suck it up and get a taxi or stop at home.

Or charge them treble time?

Even if you weren't 37 weeks pregnant, I think volunteering you to be in and out driving people around half the night is out of order.

You kindly offered to drive your grandparents home at about 10 o'clock. That doesn't mean you should also be expected to head back out 3 or 4 hours later to do another round trip with a separate group of relatives.

Nope. My waters went at 36+5, there's no way you should be doing this.

1. I wouldn't be staying up that late
2. driving isn't exactly good for you when pregnant (it's uncomfortable, plus the risk of DVT etc if for extended periods) If you have to do it then fine, but no one should force you.
3. you might need to go to the hospital, then they would be stuck if they hadn't made other arrangements
4. it's just fucking cheeky of them to volunteer you for it.

I was 37 weeks last Christmas. I couldn't fit behind the wheel, so I wasn't driving anywhere by that point. Certainly no one expected me to give them a lift. I think your dad is being a bit of a cf really. If it matters so much to him that these people have a lift home, he could drive them surely?

YANBU but you should say a definite no now so nobody tries to pressure you on the day.

Even if you were not pregnant but just off the drink for some other reason, your Dad has no right to be volunteering your services to all and sundry as a driver.

TBH I think you should really have someone else with you to help when you take your GPs home. Would your Dad do it?

Two of mine were born at 37 weeks, one bang on and the other 37+1 Tell him they need to make other arraingements. You'll be shattered by then.

It's one thing to take Nan and Grandad home and help Grandad settle Nan in. People w/Alzheimer's are often confused or agitated when they've been out and about, especially at a festive, crowded party! Grandad will appreciate the extra help, and you don't know how difficult it's going to be to get her settled! This is lovely and kind of you in your condition.

The others (I assume) don't need that extra help and are perfectly able to ride in a taxi unassisted.

I'd explain to my dad that you will be tired and possibly a bit upset after helping your Gran get settled in and that you will not be doing any additional driving!!!

I was pregnant with my son two years ago at Christmas (7 months) and had a lot of back pain. No way would my dad expect me to be ferrying people around in the early hours of the morning. Christ, he'd probably have stopped me if I'd offered! YANBU at all. I struggled with driving at 37 weeks.

It's your Christmas as well. You could be tired/aching/sore etc and just want to go to bed. Tell them to get a taxi.

My Dad was fretting about me driving at all after 35 weeks, let alone ferrying people around, especially at Christmas.

YANBU. Tell them no now or they will be relying on a lift and you will find it more difficult to refuse on the day.

I hope your dad hasn't jumped the gun already and told your aunt and uncle that you're prepared to do this!

When I was heavily pregnant I was too tired to drive in the evenings full stop. Driving tired isn't safe for anyone.

That aside it's rude of your Dad to volunteer you. Very kind of you to drive your Nan and grandad but I can see why you would. Tell your Dad to jog on. Maybe he would like to offer a lift? Or your dh would?