To ask 20yr old DD to contribute now she’s earning?

[Poppyploppy]

Am I being unreasonable to ask DD to financially contribute to the household?....my mother thinks I am.

For background; DD has been living back home for a year since dropping out of university (long story mental health related). She’s been unemployed for over a year but has finally secured a full time office job paying £20k pa and she/we are delighted.

Since being back home, my bills have doubled (heating on all day whilst i’m at work, plus lights and appliances on etc). Food obviously (including when she has friends over) and the 25% council tax increase equates to £600 per year. I’m forever driving her everywhere so an extra £20+ in petrol not to mention giving her money to socialise etc.

Does anyone else have adult DC’s living at home and do they contribute financially?

I'd take a minimum of 100 per week.
Ask her to look around and see what comparables she can find for 100 pw inclusive if she moans.

I would say YANBU, as she's now working full-time. It will be good for her self-esteem that she had a job and is paying her way.

Havn’t RTFT, but I think it’s fair enough. DM (who was widowed by the time I left university) charged us 1/3 of our net income, which she said was what we should always budget for housing costs. She took some expenses, but also gave us a lump sum when we left for good.

This was before student loans/debt though!