To ask if you’ve ever been flamed on AIBU?

[Calvinsmam]

Just reading AIBU and wondering if you’ve ever been flamed for something you posted?

I once got crucified for sharing that I was tired from geting up in the night to let me cat drink from the tap. It was my first time at the rodeo and I was a bit thin skinned about it.

I’ve been here years now and I couldn’t give a shit anymore.

What have you been flamed for??

Asked if I should get a cat despite my ASD DS being averse to cats. Got told, no way, don’t do it, you cruel nasty person you. Am laid in bed now cuddled up with one of our two cats. DS coped just fine and it was great for DD to have two furry friends!

I asked what I thought was an innocuous question in style & beauty about nails, and boy did I get pasted!
My nail polish colour was 1990’s ( the horror!), it was unflattering and my nails were far too long at natural medium length, (just over the end of my fingers, never had extensions), and the rounded shape was the most unfashionable thing ever!!
Apparently I should only wear navy polish, nails should be ultra short, and the shape should be something mine aren’t. One poster even mused how on earth did I attend to my sanitary needs or wipe my children’s faces with a baby wipe with nails so long!
I told her I could manage totally fine and I’m not sure my 14 yo teenager wants me to wipe his face for him any more 😁
some posters were actually helpful though!

For saying I don’t care if trans people use the appropriate toilet regardless of what’s in their underpants.

@dizzydaisies we call them dippy eggs - why on earth would anyone have a problem with it? Oh God, is it offensive in some way?

@IHeartKingThistle it's offensive because it's such a childish thing to say apparently 🤔

dizzy - I didn't read the thread where you were flamed, but it's a brilliant term, and I adopted it this week when having dippy eggs for dinner, which is one of my favourite meals.

Not flamed but I was called "highly sanctimonious" on AIBU the other day by someone who just came on just to post that and nothing else, which I thought was a bit odd. I suppose it made them feel happier for the day. Made me feel a bit shit though. Fair enough. But it upset me because I was trying to defend someone who had written something unfortunate in their thread title but their op wasn't half as bad, and poster after poster were piling on to put the boot in (hate those sorts of threads). But it's AIBU so it's supposedly ok.

Far better if I keep off AIBU altogether. I'm ill and waiting for an op. Dh is having tests for a mystery illness. Life is a bit hard-going ATM and silly stuff like this can get you down when you wouldn't give it a second thought in ordinary circumstances.

I got long paragraphs from one poster calling me a vile disgusting bully and telling me to go back to eating pot noodles and rocking in the corner because I laughed at somebody on the Mrs Hinch FB page who had stockpiled about 50 bottles of Zoflora. Makes me laugh remembering it actually, it descended into quite a good discussion about best pot noodle flavours

Started an ill-advised, lighthearted thread about my neighbour opening her curtains naked every morning. Oh my word, I was crucified for it. My DH is a predatory sex pest, apparently, and I am a small-minded harridan who needs to mind her own business.

I'm probably about to be. Just admitted I'm an aisle seat person on trains. There'll be 8 posts decrying me as a selfish cow next time I check, I bet!

I would say sitting on the aisle seat comes somewhere below sitting in priority seats and not standing up for elderly / pregnant ladies etc in terms of selfishness.

I'm probably about to be. Just admitted I'm an aisle seat person on trains. There'll be 8 posts decrying me as a selfish cow next time I check, I bet!

No flaming from me, as long as you don't plonk your bag on the seat next to you and refuse to get up to let another passenger get in past you.

I started the thread about sitting in the aisle seats.

I have 2 children. One of us will be in the aisle seat. Sorry.

Well that’s fair enough. I must admit that I was a bit surprised that thread took off as much as it did.

@Lizzie48 my bag is rarely on a seat, and is always moved to let people sit.

@CruCru, I was as well. Weirdly, I was discussing my aisle seat theory with friends the day before. *Goes off to see who's joined MN...

I was flamed on a thread I started on how more support is needed for carers who also have other jobs, especially those looking after their own family member. I was called entitled by most. I think my mistake was comparing UK to another European country, which some people may have taken personally.

Oh yes, on my first AIBU .

It was all over sending a Christmas card. I was accused of being uncaring.

I came off MN totally for a while, then rejoined with a brand new email logon and have name changed for every post I've commented on since.

Overkill, I know, but so what?

Oh, and I notice several similar threads on AIBU currently, where the OP is getting a lot of sympathy .

In that case, @DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops you definitely don't deserve to be flamed! (I love your username, I'm also a fan of the the Lewis films.)

I meant to add an emoji.

@Fluffyears
I got told off for the same thing. ie. Not liking my mum filling my small house with crap. My mum even bought me curtains I didn't want. I said that if the poster gave me her address I'd send my mum round to drop junk at her house and choose her furnishings for her. She went quiet after that!

@leafcutterant we may have met the same poster....now I just need to dispose of a light up bottle and a plastic wreath.