To ask if you’ve ever been flamed on AIBU?

[Calvinsmam]

Just reading AIBU and wondering if you’ve ever been flamed for something you posted?

I once got crucified for sharing that I was tired from geting up in the night to let me cat drink from the tap. It was my first time at the rodeo and I was a bit thin skinned about it.

I’ve been here years now and I couldn’t give a shit anymore.

What have you been flamed for??

[Eliza9917]

I only call boiled eggs dippy eggs now after seeing it on here.

[SymphonyofShadows]

Yes, years ago with a different username. I can’t even remember why. It was a more considered sort of flaming back then, not the ‘only brave because I’m behind a keyboard’ type you get now. I’m much more upfront in RL than I am on here, which I don’t believe is the norm after Penis Beaker.

[WaterBird]

The Night Watch are volunteers that work at night. People can report suspicious threads on there. The Night Watch hide it and then HQ look at it.
I suppose it's not the worst thing in the world to end up there... just might be a little embarrassing.

[ethelfleda]

I got flamed when I posted asking for advice as I was worried about sending my child to nursery full time in the new year... not for sending them to nursery full time but for mentioning that my boss had agreed I can ‘work from home’ one day per week (he knows I won’t be working whilst providing childcare but would make up my hours over the weekend/evenings)
Wasn’t even the point of the post!!

[thighofrelief]

Pussy use your dog's emerald collar to dry your tears. So glad we solved the Batmobile/poo dilemma, that was a tough one.

[ApolloandDaphne]

I have been around here for years and have had a few flamings. One i recall when i posted something lighthearted about my DH doing something annoying. I was called a controlling bitch and a horrible wife! I obviously forgot that you need to put LIGHTHEARTED in bold in the title of such threads.

[AntMoon]

@WhyDontYouComeOnOver

You haven't made it til you've pissed someone off enough they make multiple accounts on here and Reddit to complain about how atrocious you are

As a newbie, good to know! #goals

[KismetHardie]

@ethelfleda I remember that, it went sooooo off-topic! Didn't someone accuse you of imperilling everyone else's WFH privileges because you would be unable to fulfill your duties, thus dragging down the whole setup? You selfish cow!!!! and so on.

I do think there are some great communication lessons to be learned on AIBU-include everything relevant, but ONLY that which is relevant; anticipate questions beforehand, and accept that sometimes you just can't tell how things are going to land....

[Somewhereovertheroad]

Yes get flamed regularly for being a Catholic. Apparently there are mass murderers who are less evil

[needaduvet]

Joining the been flamed club, another frequent name changer. It really is a pot luck, as I've seen loads recently of very similar situations getting unanimous you are not being U, they are CF. I got viciously flamed and it just spiralled out of control, with imaginary scenarios being created and then presented as real by other posters . Surreal. I shut my account for some time after that, as it was just weird as hell.

[GunpowderGelatine]

@Somewhereovertheroad I posted about how being Catholic and attending church I feel has made us, particularly the children, kinder more considerate people.

Someone commented "hahaha yeah because priests raping boys is so kind, you idiot"

They didn't answer when I asked if they also assumed every Muslim was involved in terrorism 🧐

[LahDeDah]

Many names ago when I first joined I was being pedantic and corrected someone. I know, I know. I was a dick

[Runningishard]

Yep, and I still do what I was flamed for doing

[tierraJ]

I remember once posting quite reasonably in defence of an OP on aibu & getting nasty comments made about me from a particular poster; unfortunately my MH was unstable at the time & it made me ill.

So now I'm more careful. I comment on sone threads in Chat, the litter tray, travel, s&b, mental health but not aibu.

I did start a thread in Feminism recently & felt very brave, luckily the comments were supportive on the problem I had.

[FascinatingCarrot]

@triwarrior I am crying at your post

[GraceMarks]

I don't normally start threads in AIBU because I'm not in the best of mental health and if people were unkind to me I would take it badly. I did get some horrible responses in Relationships once, under a different name, for talking about having MH issues and having a whinge because I didn't feel like I had any friends I could talk to about it. I was accused of being self-centred and attention-seeking, and told that my friends probably avoided me because I'm a bit of a drag to be around (I'm paraphrasing but that was the essence of it). Like pp have said, the first couple of responses can often set the tone, and I'm sure I was just unlucky, but it's hard to keep that in mind when people are being shitty to you for no reason.

[Somewhereovertheroad]

Weirdly someone then posted similar a couple of weeks later and the thread went much better for the op - more empathy and better advice

I see this all the time. One thread gets loads of supportive posts and the next one in a similar vein is told to "get over it!"

[needaduvet]

The trolls get everywhere, not just AIBU. Someone is trying to turn a very helpful Financial board post the other way into a flaming judgement session - not going to happen, but that sort of thing can stop people asking for and getting useful pointers/advice.

[Lizzie48]

I'm often shocked at how downright nasty some posters can be, they seem to develop a strong dislike for the OP and make all sorts of assumptions about them; it's weird because they don't know them from Adam so why make it so personal???

[LondonLassInTheNorthPole]

Keyboard warriors.

They wouldnt dream about being so horrible in real life to strangers cause someone would smack them and rightly so

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

I have majorly toned it down
I never start threads
And if I dont agree I am civil

But some of the trans threads agree with the Lion antelope analogy

They are brutal !

[ethelfleda]

remember that, it went sooooo off-topic! Didn't someone accuse you of imperilling everyone else's WFH privileges because you would be unable to fulfill your duties, thus dragging down the whole setup? You selfish cow!!!! and so on

Yep - the very same. They also said there was no way my husbands company would say yes too as ‘two companies can’t be that stupid’

[brizzledrizzle]

Yes, when I AIBU to be annoyed with people parked up collecting from school sitting with their engines running whilst waiting for their children - in summer it's horrible because you want the windows open and can't because the air is full of car fumes, according to MN it's so people can listen to the radio or charge phones. I got well and truly flamed because it's apparently more important for people to be able to listen to the radio, charge phones or have the air con on than it is think about the environment.

[SalemBlackCat4]

Oh more times than I can count. Two particularly stick out as they really quite upset me and I felt it personally. One was where I suggested a woman who in summer was sick and very dehydrated, who couldn't really walk far in her house, she could barely make it out of her bedroom! call an ambulance. IIRC her child either had a Drs appt for frequent ear infections or needed to see the Dr but she had no transport. I suggested she call an ambulance as A) she seemed very ill and dehydrated herself, and B both her and her child could both get seen too. I thought that was logical. Apparently though, it is not done in the UK. I'm in Australia and calling an ambulance if you are severely dehydrated (bearing in mind summers here can get to 39 degrees Celsius and on rare occasions 42 deg C, along with humidity and sub-tropical to tropical climate in a few states so dehydration is taken very seriously as it is a major issue considering our climate) and very ill and cannot walk far at all would simply be a matter of course. I was laughed at, mocked and abused and had posts reported. All because of a different understanding based on geography/culture. I honestly thought I was helping and I felt really depressed and quite hurt after.

Other one is, again, I suppose you could call it a cultural difference, was an offensive slur (I felt) being used to call, say, cigarettes. I was shocked people were even allowed to say it on here, said how offensive I found the term because of a relative who was gay, and was again mocked, hounded, abused etc. It wasn't that so much (although it was a culture shock, let me tell you), but one poster deleted in tormenting me and said they were going out for a ... (smoke), then came back and said the was going out to smoke another ... . There was no reason at all to say that, it was just a childishly spiteful thing to say. I really nasty and deliberately spiteful twist-the-knife type of thing.
Disagreeing is one thing, but some posters on here seem to be very hateful and unnecessarily cruel and spiteful and will goad/upset you on purpose, just to rub it in. Though I can be verbose and have strong opinions, I always post in good faith and expect others will do the same, which is naive.

[SalemBlackCat4]

*deleted, should be delighted.