In not liking DP evening attire

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DP is 45. Wears quite trendy clothes. I think he looks great.
However. He has taken to slipping into something more comfortable in the evenings! Oh my goodness! He has got himself some tracksuit bottoms from primark. They are BAD! A plum colour, all baggy round the knees and bum. He came into the room last night wearing an old crumpled sweatshirt and the bottoms. My DD 12 was laughing and saying Dad you look like a hobo (light hearted, he was laughing aswell)
He has agreed for me to get him some 'loungewear' for Christmas. Budget is low! Any ideas? What do your DH DP wear for relaxing?!

Jeans these days have lycra, not like in the 80s when we had to use a coathanger to do up the zip. If I sat around in Minnie Mouse jammies (WTF?) a la one poster on this thread, I wouldn't expect to get my jollies - who can get a stiffy at a 50 year old woman in kids jammies, it is quite a disturbing image.

There is plenty of casual attire that doesn't make you look like an disturbingly aged child or graceless slob - I do want to maintain some allure to my DH & vice versa. Some posters seem to take a strange pride in gaining as much weight and looking as awful as possible and daring their DH's to care.

There seem to be an awful lot of comments about putting weight on on this thread. Not really necessary. My DH put a lot of weight on a couple of years ago due to a long term injury, I didn't stop fancying him because of it. Weight gain does not always mean that someone doesn't care about their appearance.

Of course Harry it's entirely different if it's due to an injury, or if my DH got kicked in the face by a horse tomorrow I wouldn't leave him because his face would look different. But if he just stopped caring about his appearance and health, and would pile weight on knowing I didn't like it, that would absolutely put me off

There seem to be an awful lot of comments about putting weight on on this thread. Not really necessary. My DH put a lot of weight on a couple of years ago due to a long term injury, I didn't stop fancying him because of it. Weight gain does not always mean that someone doesn't care about their appearance.

Well, yes. Quite different than just giving up on life because you're middle-aged, isn't it?

I wouldn't expect to get my jollies - who can get a stiffy at a 50 year old woman in kids jammies, it is quite a disturbing image.

😂😂😂

I do find it weird when adults want to wear Disney pyjamas. It's what I'd wear if I wanted to avoid sex TBH

Quite different than just giving up on life because you're middle-aged, isn't it?

Or any age.

I do find it weird when adults want to wear Disney pyjamas. It's what I'd wear if I wanted to avoid sex TBH

Agreed, I find adults wearing Disney others very weird, full stop. It's most odd IMO.

Don't get me started on adults buying Harry Potter clothing or assigning themselves a Hogwarts house

OMG what have I just read

Speechless

People often phrase incorrectly. The kind thing is to educate and move on. What a complete lot of bullies you lot are. I am sure the original poster was hoping for a light hearted thread. Well you showed her didn't you.

Oh, bit awks Gunpowder- I was literally just about to post re: My Gryffindor tshirt from Primark.

I didn’t assign myself the house though- the sorting hat on Pottermore did it for me.

(My patronising is a field mouse if anybody cares)

*patronus. Fuck off autocorrect

I haven't read the entire thread, but my DH usually slopes around wearing ancient jeans at the weekend and looks really ratty. I think it's a reaction to having a responsible job during the week- he can finally let go and be a slob. Plus, he's less likely to be mugged in that outfit (we live in a city and he's been mugged before in work clothes.

Pre-teens/young teens are v. judgy- I'd let it go and embrace the tracky bottoms. They're comfortable and don't change who he is inside.

I'm currently wearing running leggings and a cheap tunic top....I'm sure it looks crap, but it's perfect for a cold Sunday evening!

Lol @SaucyJack - do you notice that no one ever assigns themselves to Hufflepuff

Although I Am DEFINITELY having PatronisingFieldMouse as my next MN username!

H&M do nice reasonably priced loungewear

Jeans have not ever been and never will be "comfort" clothing

They often have nice men's leisurewear in TK Maxx

"throughthickandthin you mean to say you don't? I always take my bra off when I get home. "

A lot of people on MN do. I think they must all be wearing the wrong size because your bra shouldn't be uncomfortable. I'm only a small size, but am more comfortable with the bra on than off.

/completely missing the point here - but if your bra is restrictive and uncomfortable and you take it off the minute you get home - you are probably wearing the wrong size.

Lounge wear from M&S/ Debenhams/ Next

So you and your DD are bullying him? Nice . Imagine if, after a long day at work, you just wanted to get into your pjs or some leggings and a T-shirt but your DH and DD were taking the piss out of you calling you a tramp. It’s so unnecessarily harsh, leave him alone.

My DH wears a string vest a la Rab C Nesbitt and a banana thong.

Pic, please!

Wow this thread escalated quickly.
OP, we're a "comfy clothes in the evening" house too - but I think you're right that you can be comfy without looking like you don't give a shit (whatever that looks like in your family). My DH wears jogging bottoms, pyjamas bottoms, or loose cotton trousers with a fitted v-neck jersey top to relax. I wear jersey harem pants and a fitted top, or leggings and a cropped jumper, or a jumpsuit (with leggings and a fitted top underneath if it's cold). Neither of us owns any Disney-themed clothing or anything made from fleece
We're on a low income, and i wonder if that's part of it. I'm (overly?) conscious of the stereotype of poor people slobbing out in front of the tv in their pyjamas in their filthy houses while they make assorted poor lifestyle choices, and feel like looking presentable at home helps me not to slide into that stereotype.
Sainsbury's is quite good for nice, affordable clothing. Also H&M. Even M&S / Next if they have a sale on.

I’ll probably get flamed for this but I hate tracksuit bottoms with a passion.

I'm not keen. I think the ones with cuffs at the bottom of the legs are worse than the ones that are just straight, like a normal trouser.

Of course, DP prefers the ones with the cuffed bottoms. He says the cuffs keep the draughts out. I take the piss and tell him he'd look like Max Wall if only he grew what little hair he has left.

Me and my DP joke about how attractive we look when we get changed into our 'slobs'

I would hate to live in a household where I got genuinely criticised for wearing comfy clothes in my own house.

Have a word with yourselves!

Jesus Christ what a post op! Leave the bloke alone... My dh ranges from his MMA shorts bare foot and topless (oooh baby!) to some god awful old tracksuit bottoms (and I mean old scruffy, stained and a hole in them! ) that he can't bear to part with because they are so comfy and I dont actually care because i have something very similar, and he is at home relaxing he works extremely hard and trains even harder, he deserves to couch potato it now and then, he wouldn't be seen dead in the pants in public though, and, who care what someone wears at home as long as that person treats people with respect and dignity...have you seen MN video on coercive control by the way....dictating what someone can wear is a for of abuse! Also even though your dd made the remark in jest it's still a pretty mean thing to say