to quit my job after house completion?

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My job is giving me major stress and anxiety. It's never been the job for me, but I've stuck it out. However, they are not getting me to do things I find very hard to do due to my mental health.

I know it's supposedly easier to get another job while you have a job, but in this case it isn't. I am not allowed any time off during the week 9 - 6, and if I want holiday then six weeks notice is required. Seeing as most companies conduct interviews during the working week, it's impossible to go to interviews too.

I want to quit but I can't as we are in the process of buying a house. If I quit, we will lose all the money we've paid for solicitors, surveyors etc, as the mortgage would be withdrawn.

Would it be stupid of me to quit after we've bought the house? My partner probably won't like it, but I am putting £10K more than him into the deposit and I will have around £10K after too.

Advice would be appreciated, as would tips on how I could possibly go to interviews without feeling guilty or getting caught.

Leave him, live with your parents, quit your job and get agency work.

he was really cross about me losing my job and not being able to apply for a mortgage.

I was made redundant, and that night he shouted at me for hours,

Why would you continue with the process of buying a house with someone who treats you so badly ?

As you describe your life, your employer treats you very badly as does your partner. How bad would it be to leave both and go back to your parents? Could you find a new job from there, with an employer who values you and supports you.

And find a new boyfriend who does the same. Find a partner who can discuss things and come to an agreement which you are then both signed up to. Shouting is not OK ever.

Tbh OP, it doesn't sound like your job is the biggest issue. Your partner sounds like an unsupportive bully - do you really want to be tied into owning property with someone who spent hours shouting at you after you got made redundant!!?

See if your parents will let you move back in for a few months, call off the house buying, ditch your arse of a "partner", quit your job and find one where you are happier.

If I were in your situation OP, I would probably quit my jobas soon as I’d completed on the house and live off my savings until I found another job. As long as you’re sure that you’re happy to spend your savings on that, rather than holidays or work to your new home?

My last employer made me redundant. I found out on the day my partner was offered a new job after months of being unemployed.

All he said when I told him was "swings and roundabouts"

Your DP sounds like a bullying prick, and I don't think you've mentioned any good points. I'm not convinced you should buy with him.

Sounds like if ever you have a tow with your partner, you’re going to be saying ‘I paid £10k more than you!!’. Not a great way to start your life owning property together tbh. Also, doesn’t seem great to buy a house with someone that you don’t want to share your future plans with. Doesn’t bode well to me.

Its not about what your partner would like. This is about you no one else. Do you always let him dictate to you.
All these people who say 'You should never give up ypyr job are probably as happy as a pig in mud in their jobs.
As pp says life is too short to be somewhere that you're unhappy.
Its not like you're leaving with out a penny, is it. Also if your house is paid for ypull always have a roof over your Head no matter what, even ifvyou have to live on paste butties for the rest of life