or are the school?

[mummy207]

Have had a phonecall this afternoon from DS school to say that he could be in very serious trouble and facing a day isolation as he said to a teacher to "add him on snapchat". The lady who phoned (pastoral support) said that he might be in isolation but I will be hearing from the head of year (still not happened?) and I need to have a serious chat with him about boundaries as this is totally unacceptable.

Now I get the chat about boundaries which I have done when DS came in, but he says he was just joking and it was stupid but there was nothing to it and the teacher didn't even react badly at the time she just laughed and said no! So I am very surprised school have rung me and said this, AIBU to say to the school that I think isolation would be unacceptable for this (small) mistake he has made? Or am I missing something and this is an isolation offence? Not sure if anyone who works in a school can advise whether this would be the usual punishment for this sort of thing!

I'm curious to know what he said he was doing this weekend to then follow up with 'add me on Snapchat miss and you can see!'

MissMarplesKnitting
I agree.
Minimising smaller inappropriate comments is the thin end of the wedge.

Nobody would allow more outrageous comments to be explained away and minimised as banter, but we are supposed to believe that it's wrong to sanction a 15 year old for inappropriate comments because they're 15 and it might be too harsh to point out that it's our of order

'Few detention texts and occasional behavioural things'
Can I be there one to say your 15yo ds sounds like a typical lads lad, self entitled little tw@t and you can't see it because your his mum and need to find any miniscule reason to justify his actions. At 15 years old he should have been taught by now how go respect a teacher. Joke or not she is above him, she doesn't need to and clearly hasn't taken his shit in class and it's backfired on him.
Sit him down and teach him about respect.

has in past ruffled his hair etc he says, and so he thought she would just take it as a joke but realises that he's probably been looking at her in slightly the wrong way as I suggested he wouldn't be saying that to the headmaster to which he said "it's different" and I said well it shouldn't be!

Oh dear it keeps getting worse. He was definitely flirting with her, thinking she was reciprocating and he was trying to take it further. Every 15 yo school boys fantasy.

BackforGoodI

You are absolutely deluded.

I’ve not had Snapchat for about four/five years so it’s not me doing it thanks.

Search Snapchat on Pornhub. Enjoy!

Another teacher here, your HoY will get in touch with you as soon as they can to give you more detail, will likely say that your son made a flirtatious/sexualised remark towards his teacher. If he's made her feel uncomfortable then she's right to report it, and then processes will kick in. Isolation will be (rightly) the corresponding sanction in their behaviour policy, which your son (and you) will have been made aware of.

I find the hair ruffling comment concerning. If true, it's not at all appropriate with a 15yo (unless in some very specific circumstance, like she is directing a school production that requires hair ruffling).

If you are looking at something called pornhub IloveAlexa then I guess you'd get a lot of weird, distasteful pictures of a sexual nature. What I'm trying to let you know is that there are thousands of young people out there (presumably hundreds of thousands, in truth) who just use snapchat to chat with people.

Well this is the second incident in a few months.

Even worse, the last thread was 7th Dec, so both incidents are just two school weeks apart!