Aibu in thinking that sexual preference is not shallow

[Randomusername01]

Not a taat (or maybe about lots of threads over the years). Having a sexual preference is not shallow, be it for blonde/brunette/tall/short/vagina/penis/intellect/humour/black/white/asian etc. What turns you on turns you on sadly I feel I need to qualify this by saying children and animals are obviously not included before I get jumped on by the what about brigade. Non animate objects are but I'll secretly judge you a fucking weirdo🤣. I'm not offended or think it's shallow that as a fairly flat chested sombreish average Asian woman that I don't tick the boxes for people who fancy say Pamela Anderson or rachel Riley or Chris hemsworth. If they said they'd never date me then there is no hard feelings. It doesn't make them shallow.

I probably would shag someone if they were a nice person, and wanted to shag me, and I had the time to spare. But then I don't think sex is such a big deal that it has to be Special and Mean Something.
But then that's up to me. It's not that it's wrong to refuse someone who asks you for a date or a shag, it's wrong to insult them when you refuse them.

Also, in a general, speculative way, why is it more 'polite' to tell someone that they are the wrong sex for you to want to date them, but outrageously rude and bigoted to say that the person is the wrong ethnic group for you?

But it's not insulting to tell someone you're a lesbian, or you're a straight man. It's more insulting to attempt to deny someone the right to their own identity.

Shallow or not? Mmmmmm🤨
I have a definite preference, it’s
Clever
Funny
Smells nice
Has ambition
Is caring
Is loving
Is thoughtful
Warm eyes
Animal lover
I could go on but I think you get the picture.
Not sure I’d be too concerned about the wrapping all the above came in tho

"Also, in a general, speculative way, why is it more 'polite' to tell someone that they are the wrong sex for you to want to date them, but outrageously rude and bigoted to say that the person is the wrong ethnic group for you?"

Because sexual orientation is about sex not ethnicity.

And I would not tell anyone they were the wrong ethnicity for me because for me there is no such thing. If others have a preference they can choose to make it known or not. But I do feel saying you are 'too short' or 'too ugly' or whatever is pretty rude.

A simple no or no thanks should suffice.

But if a person wants to make their orientation known, they can. It's not shallow IMHO to have an orientation or a preference - but they are not, by definition, the same thing.

"I WOULD shag someone" - it's a hypothetical, if the situation arose, then it wouldn't be a possibility but what would absolutely happen."

Not necessarily something that would definitely happen really. IMHO.

Here would, like will, is being used more as a possible, IMHO. I'll eat my hat if I'm wrong!

Who would really expect me to eat my hat?

Sexual preference is just that preference. I consider my self straight but Find myself turned on watching other females with tight bums in Lycra in my spinning class and in the showers. Ethnicity is not important.