Basically, I have been the subject of gossip since my dd was in reception. One of the mums took a disliking to me, fair enough, I don't expect everyone to like me. Unfortunately she knew a lot of other mums, while I kew no-one. But still I minded my own business, came to drop off and pick up.
i got friendly with some other mums, and it came out that this mum thought I was flirting with her husband. I definitely was not.
Soon all the mums were gossiping about me in any way they could. My clothes, my hair, anything to do with my appearance.
My dd is now in yr 4, and it has never stopped, it has in fact become much worse.
The original school mum, is friends with lots of other school mums, they all know a group of the teachers that live locally and the gossip has spread to the teachers. The teachers that they know are quite significant because they are yr4/5/6 teachers and will potentially be teaching my dd. This is a lot of teachers, almost every teacher for every class. Two in my dd's year, and then three the year above and every single one in yr 6.
I feel that I can not get away from the gossip and malicious rumours, and need to pull my dd out of school for both her and my good.
The almost clan like atmosphere affects a lot of things. One example is the school council, the same child was chosen to represent, even though he was elected the previous year (this is against school rules) and without an election (also against school rules) because the teacher knows the mother. I actually complained to the teacher and was fobbed off with an excuse. My dd is aware of all of this, understands that school rules were broken, and wanted a chance to run for school council. But now says there is no point.
I made a complaint to the SLT about this and numerous other issues, including a teacher sexually harassing me by staring and making kissing gestures, looking me up and down etc. and lots of other male teachers generally staring at me. I complained along the lines of this being unprofessional behaviour. Now all the teachers scowl at me, so they know it was me that complained.
I really think I want to pull my dd out of the school before it affect her. She is a bright and confident girl and deserves a fair chance.