AIBU - Feel like a control freak!

[Fupsakee]

Need some sound advice here ladies as I feel like a total control freak and I hate it!!

DP, myself and 2dc’s (from a previous relationship) always spend Saturday together doing something as a family - even if it’s just staying in and having a movie/duvet day. DP sees himself as stepdad, he has a great relationship with DC’s and vice Berra. 2dc’s are NC with their biological father (his choice) I’m currently 5 months pregnant.

Myself and DP don’t live together yet but he’s moving in at the end of the year as he rents and I own. He stays at mine 4/5 days a week, I do all the chores and cooking even when he’s here, which I don’t mind as he’s usually spending valuable time with dc’s doing homework etc. He doesn’t contribute financially but will when he moves in.

Today DP got a new laptop. He called me and said he was just going to stay at his own place this afternoon to set it all up etc, then go to the gym with his friend but would see us “about 7pm” I was really pissed off as we always spend Saturday together as a family.

He said I’m totally over reacting - am I?

OP, the fact is, you and only you drew attention to the fact you do all the chores, even when he is at your place and that he does not contribute financially, even though you are 5 months pregnant and he’s at your house most of the week.

These are your very words in the OP. Nobody this is the set up as you presented it. What do you expect people to think? Really?

Nobody is having a go at you. It’s AIBU and obviously many people would not put up with a man who contributes nothing financially to the pregnant mother of his child. Again, what reaction do you expect if you post something like that ?

If you had come back on and said, “Well he’s paying for x,y,z” then fair enough. But you haven’t!

Based on no other assumptions as demanded by other posters, based on the OP which contained all this detail (why include what you now claim is irrelevant detail if no one is allowed to comment on it) YANBU that he dumped the family plans off to fix his laptop. But at the same time YABU to be annoyed when this set up you have with him allows him to shrug off his responsibility to your DC so easily