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To ask if there is anybody who is happy to spend Xmas with the in laws?

170 replies

sweeneytoddsrazor · 30/11/2018 22:01

So many threads about in laws and Christmas. Is there nobody out there who wants to see the in laws at Christmas.

OP posts:
Yura · 01/12/2018 07:44

Mine are lovely :)

Creatureofthenight · 01/12/2018 07:44

Yes I’m happy to, though we aren’t this year as we alternate. Of course I prefer being with my family, most people have certain traditions and routines at Christmas and it feels odd not to do them. But my PIL are nice people, always welcoming, and we’ve had nice Christmases with them.

fibonaccisequins · 01/12/2018 07:45

Mind you, let's not talk about BIL and SIL. I'd be dreading it if they were coming... Which they are most definitely not. Boundaries innit Wink unsure how 2 brothers can be so different!!

needtoshutupandlisten · 01/12/2018 07:45

I much prefer my in-laws 😊

Oogle · 01/12/2018 07:46

Me. I love my in laws. My MIL is terminally ill and I can’t think about what’s inevitably going to happen very soon without breaking down. She’s been amazing to me since the first day I met her.

My own mother is difficult, maybe that is why I’m so grateful to have such a lovely MIL 😄

RhiWrites · 01/12/2018 07:47

Me. My MIL is recently bereaved (having lost both her parents). I asked my parents (their turn for us to go to them) if we could have MIL and FIL join us. They were happy to host.

My in laws are lovely and I’m looking forward to seeing them and planning nice things for them to have.

PumpkinPie2016 · 01/12/2018 07:48

Me! My MIL is lovely (FIL sadly died before I met DH although I think we would have got on well). She is coming to us for Xmas dinner as she is elderly now and can't host. Her friend also comes to us as she would otherwise be alone.

DH gets on well with my parents too and they are also joining us for Xmas day!

SilverbytheSea · 01/12/2018 07:48

I’d love to have Christmas at my in laws! FiL is an amazing cook 😁 as it is, since my own dad died, my mum now comes to us as she has no-one else.
Although we now stay a 5 min walk from in laws so will probably still see them at some point on the day 🙂

Girlsworld92 · 01/12/2018 07:54

We had our in-laws here for the first time last year and had the most lovely day. Usually we are racing round to see everyone but we refused last year as its not fair on the kids. MIL said it was the best day of her life. BIL (single, no kids) came along & he was happy as we plied him with loads of food & drinks We are hoping to do the same again this year but FIL is quite poorly as he has cancer so we will have to see. But yes I get on well with my in laws. They are lovely. We had a gorgeous relaxed day.

Sparkletastic · 01/12/2018 07:54

My DH loves spending Christmas with my folks. Particularly since my dad treats us to a Christmas holiday in the sun all together on alternate years. Left to DH we would probably lose contact with his parents. They are very difficult people.

GoJetterGirl · 01/12/2018 07:57

Mine are a fucking nightmare... without fail, every bastard year:
MIL complains that she “doesn’t like the way I cooked XYZ...
MIL sits on her fat arse while I host and cook and tidy up after their lazy arses....
Last year I was expected to do the same but I was 8.5 month pregnant... my ankles were the size of an elephants the day after....
MIL without fail, has some sort of complaint about her Christmas gifts from DH and FIL, even going as far as to accuse them of trying to ruin Christmas by purposely buying her something she didn’t like!!! (Baring in mind DH and FIL routinely ask her specifically what she wants months before, the fact she never gives a definite answer is not their problem!)
FIL throws a massive strop if I ask him to —get the fuck out the kitchen— keep out of the way because I need my postage stamp sized kitchen clear while I cook...
FIL then goes to the fridge demanding to have a snack (having totally ignored the canapés and assortment of other goodies on the sideboard in the front room 🙄)
MIL has a go at DH for marrying “a crap girl who has her own ideas not in keeping with our family’s about the right way to do Christmas”

So, yeah, Christmas with a pair of cunts (not limited to Christmas either if you cate to read my previous threads)

So this year we are having dinner out, (“she’s not cooking, lazy little bitch!”)

I now have planned to buy ready prepared stuff to eat or only needs throwing in the oven for 20 minutes

Am working Christmas Eve and Boxing Day!!! And they’re pissing off home on the 27th!

And finally, DH has been fully briefed that next year it will be just us, or he would no longer have use for a penis beaker!!!

Vampiratequeen · 01/12/2018 07:58

I am, we usual go to my DP's on Christmas day and My in laws on boxing day but have done it the other way round too.

MrsJamin · 01/12/2018 07:58

My in-laws are fab. Lots of them, now they have cute babies to coo after now mine are getting gangly.

BarbedBloom · 01/12/2018 07:58

My in-laws are fab, but sadly we can’t see them this year as they live a distance away and my H is working right through. There are things they do differently and I do wish they laid on more food, but they are lovely people

MrsMWA · 01/12/2018 08:26

Used to love going to DH1’s parents for Christmas. They weren’t together and had both married again and I got on with their new partners too. Unfortunately DH1 wasn’t that happy and loved going to my parents’. I don’t get on with DH2’s parents so we don’t see them for Christmas. They are far away so it’s all fine. I don't get on with mine too well either so we just have the day to ourselves. Would have loved a big happy family but I am too old now to ‘fake it till we make it.’

Singlenotsingle · 01/12/2018 10:26

Yes, I love seeing my ddil, my son and the kids. We all go out for lunch together.

ID81241 · 01/12/2018 10:33

I don't mind. Don't love it or dislike it. It's just a bit dull that's all but pleasant enough (no drama or meanness). I'm used to very lively Christmases but now I've adjusted my expectations it's fine.

ID81241 · 01/12/2018 10:35

@GoJetterGirl they sound horrific Confused good luck this Christmas!

GoJetterGirl · 01/12/2018 10:39

@ID81214
They’re in a fucked up league of their own... I just keep telling myself that they can’t live forever...

But DH is slowly adapting to my new found confidence and my not putting up with their shit...

DoAsYouWouldBeMumBy · 01/12/2018 10:57

I never knew my FIL, but my MIL was just so lovely. I miss her every day, though she died almost ten years ago.

I love reading all these posts about your nice PILs, but I should stop, it's making me sad!

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