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To ask if there is anybody who is happy to spend Xmas with the in laws?

170 replies

sweeneytoddsrazor · 30/11/2018 22:01

So many threads about in laws and Christmas. Is there nobody out there who wants to see the in laws at Christmas.

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Kintan · 30/11/2018 23:03

We don’t spend Christmas with them often as they rotate between the 4 children, but we are spending Christmas and Boxing Day with them this year and I am looking forward to it - they are lovely. We go on holiday with them at least once a year. Most of my friends don’t have much nice to say about their in laws which is sad I always think.

Andro · 30/11/2018 23:04

I love my in-laws, they're all flying in for Christmas and will be staying for between 10 and 21 days (3 separate sets; PiL, BiL1 + fam, BiL2 + fam). Christmas will be utterly nuts, but DH and I both enjoy hosting.

missymayhemsmum · 30/11/2018 23:06

erm, was rather hoping that dsil was looking forward to Christmas, but perhaps he's just being lovely and polite and will do anything that makes dd happy.

ChilliMum · 30/11/2018 23:06

We alternate Christmases. We don't live near to either and they are at opposite ends of the country so we stay with one for Christmas and one for new year.

I prefer to have Christmas with my parents as my parents make a big thing of it, lots of lovely traditions and it takes all day. My Db, sil and nieces join us for the afternoon and my mum usually keeps back little gifts for the kids which are games or activities of some sort and then brings them out randomly throughout the day so there is always something happening and she is a great cook. Lunch is usually a long affair starting at 3 through till 7. The kids come and go but the adults usually stay at the table and talk and drink and eat.

However, I am happy to go my PIL too. It's a much quieter day and lunch is much simpler but its more relaxed. They are lovely people and adore my children and are loved very much in return by the dc.

We always enjoy Christmas whichever one we have Smile

Mammylamb · 30/11/2018 23:07

I love Christmas with my in laws! They are both lovely and good company. And mil is an amazing cook x

peachgreen · 30/11/2018 23:08

Me. Love my in-laws. MIL sadly passed away but FIL, SIL and BIL are all wonderful. Would probably rather be with them than my own family because my brother and his wife are nightmares.

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 30/11/2018 23:08

I love my in laws even call them Mum & Dad. Though they're far from perfect & have their foibles, but they're genuine, caring & very loving.
They're very calming compared to my bonkers but lovable & kind family.

Glaciferous · 30/11/2018 23:08

Nope. Don't like them and don't enjoy spending time with them. They're boring, stupid and brexit-obsessed. Christmas this year is going to be a nightmare. DH agrees, btw.

NotUsedBySomeoneElse · 30/11/2018 23:09

I’ll spend it with in laws and I’m looking forward to it. For geographical reasons (and work reasons I guess) it’s not practical to spend it with my family, and it always seems silly to just stay in on our own when in laws would like us round, and nephew who lives with them would like to see us. We don’t have kids of our own and it helps MIL out if we’re there for the nephew.

Merryoldgoat · 30/11/2018 23:10

Yes - I love mine. They’re coming to us and we’ll have a lovely time. We see them every year.

Elzbells · 30/11/2018 23:12

My in laws are coning to mine this year along with all my family.

I told them it wouldn't be as civilised as they are used too but apparently they are looking forward to being pie-faced by my 8 year old and cheated at in Monopoly.

sophisticatedsarcasm · 30/11/2018 23:12

My DP gets on amazing with my mum and I get on great with his dad. No issues here 😊

BlackeyedGruesome · 30/11/2018 23:15

we were planning to see inlaws this christmas. fil has just "opted out" though. dying is a bit of a drastic way to avoid the dil at christmas.

we are still planning to do christmas together, will be very different though, and it is touch and go as to whether my mum will make it and celebrate with us or will be joining fil, mil and df....

we have a funeral to fit in before christmas, then a birthday that is not going to happen now, and an anniversary of mils death.

TheHobbitMum · 30/11/2018 23:15

Me :D My inlaws are amazing and we spend every Christmas day with them (and my mum/other family members would join us in previous years she passed away recently). They are genuinely lovely people and I couldn't imagine hating them or having a shit relationship with them like some posters do

flumposie · 30/11/2018 23:16

Me and I've been separated from my husband for 7 years!! But all is amicable and I am invited to Christmas, New Year, Birthdays, Weddings - the lot! They are odd in their own ways but still treat me as family and I consider myself lucky.

youngestisapsycho · 30/11/2018 23:17

Would love a Xmas with my in laws.... so would DH. They’re on the other side of the world and the last Xmas he had with them was in 1999 🙁

afrikat · 30/11/2018 23:18

Yep, we spend over a week staying at MILs house and we all love it. My family are nearby too so spend time with them and they come to MILs house as well

ohtheholidays · 30/11/2018 23:19

My MIL and FIL are really lovely and I don't think they realize just how much me and our 5DC love them.

We don't spend Christmas together but that's because were a nearly 4 hour journey away from each other but I would love it if we could spend Christmas together.

My parents have both passed away and I miss them all of the time,I'm very like my Mum in that I'm Christmas mad and my DH was so close to my parents they loved him as much as they loved me and they always called him they're son and I know he's been as heartbroken as I have since we lost them.

If I could have one more day with them I'd choose Christmas day and I'd invite my MIL and FIL as well and I'd do everything so both of our Mum's could just sit back and enjoy themselves and enjoy they're DGC.

FallingForRosie · 30/11/2018 23:21

Me!! I have a wonderful (if slightly bonkers) MiL and a FiL, and I'm really looking forward to having them and SiL over for Christmas day.

AjasLipstick · 30/11/2018 23:23

I am. I quite enjoy Christmas at my DMIL'S house.

She's nuts but she loves us all....me included. Our DC also enjoy it so to me, that's the main thing.

funinthesun18 · 30/11/2018 23:25

I like spending it with my dp’s parents. I could quite happily spend all day with them.
His siblings are a bit too much though and I’ve had enough of them after an hour or two.

Stormy76 · 30/11/2018 23:26

My MIL is fine, I have been around for over 20 years so there are no major issues and when she has been for Xmas it's been fine......I can't say I have looked forward to it hugely, we don't spend a great deal of time together so I was apprehensive but we all had a lovely day.

Nonomore2 · 30/11/2018 23:35

CherryPavlova Your answer was lovely to read. Sadly so much around Christmas is ‘what do I want? What suits me?’

Nonomore2 · 30/11/2018 23:36

@CherryPavlova Your answer was lovely to read. Sadly so much around Christmas is ‘what do I want? What suits me?’

BonnieandHyde · 30/11/2018 23:38

No as we're now NC but I would absolutely love ILs who were good people. I desperately want that. I know that's sad of me, but I wish an elderly couple would adopt my nearly 40yrold DH 😂 just so he could have parents he liked and who were decent people that I could have a cup of tea with.