What, if anything, is stressing you out at the moment?

[BryarTuck]

I feel like I'm always very worried or stressed about something in my life and even when that particular thing gets resolved I instantly start fretting about something else. I had heard a quote along the lines of "if we everyone put their problems into a common pot, most would choose to take their own home again rather than a share from it" or something like that- and in the interests of me trying to keep my situation in perspective I'm asking what it causing you stress at the moment?

(Hopefully some of you will be able to say "nothing"!)

For me it's the fact that DH went freelance about six months ago and it hadn't worked out so financially we aren't in a good position. He's now looking for a job but I'm scared of how long it would take to find employment. Our first (longed for) DC is due in January so I won't be working for a while (also self employed albeit successfully but don't get maternity pay). So we aren't going to have an income and although we have some savings I had earmarked these for my maternity leave and I'm worried about how long we can last. I'm awake each night worrying and doing sums.

Anyone else care to share?

Money. Always money. I'm not destitute by any means, but I'm a single parent and paying for Christmas on top of everything else is always a struggle.

DaffoDeffo - i know that is an awful worry but please get it booked asap. Even if it is bad news, which hopefully it won't be, the sooner you find out the better.

My son being bullied out of his job...currently suspended. He lives in an employment blackspot
My daughter in law having had her little children taken from her and given to their father .through the courts ..despite having good reports about her
Utterly heartbreaking

Not stressed...but very concerned

Thanks sunhill I will. It's a long MRI and they didn't have slots this week so I will make sure I book one for the week after x

Blended family strife. My stepdaughter is very passive-aggressive and her dad doesn't notice or pretends not to. Hope we can make it to New Year in tact.

I’m doing my masters part time (while working full time) and my coursework is all due in two weeks yet I can’t stop procrastinating 😩😩

I am stressed because this week my dog killed my kitten and I think the solution is for my dog to be pts. So what with the grief and the guilt it’s making what I find a stressful time of year even worse

Everything really. I start uni in February, have a lot of career related volunteering commitments, my crap sleeper 1 year old, DH being deployed for a few more weeks, and balancing my shitty job (where they seem to actively discriminate against me for having a child despite KNOWING I'm on my own, hundreds of miles from any family or friends, they refuse to let me take DS to get his vaccinations next week. Won't even allow annual leave). I just feel shit and stressed at everything. I can't even keep up with washing.

I think I've taken on too much I'd be less stressed if I dropped a couple of things...

Sorry to all of you undergoing so much stress. It literally eats you up from inside. Op, i wish your oh luck in finding employment soon.
For me, its
Work. I still don't know my role fully but they're moving us 2 weeks before Christmas. We'll have no support and we pay folk weekly. It has to be done and done right.
Losing my manager. She's a diamond. The proposed Managers are ghastly. I may be forced to leave with no job to go to.
My DD- health concern. She's fab.
Partners work do. Our childcare option involves several long, shitty drives. There, back and coach elsewhere to the do.
Then coach back, few hours drying out, then drive far to collect and back again.weekend before Christmas.
Boxing day . Ive told dh mil and fil welcome but sil not welcome. He is shuffling about telling them.....guess that shitty stick will be passed to me.

Worrying about my DIL's visa will she be able to get over here this side of Christmas, its been so long and Ds3 hasn't seen her since their wedding in June.
DS2 is distraught, out of the blue his long term DP has dumped him and moved out. They were supposed to be getting engaged this Xmas, and her reasons for going are very vague, and somehow do not ring true, I haven't said to DS but I suspect she has met someone else.
Ds1 and DDil are having a very tough time( can't go into details) but I am constantly worrying about them, they could be on the verge of making a decision , that in my opinion , will have life altering repercussions.

DH has had a relapse with his MH. Totally expected at this time of year though.

Worrying about not passing my exam. I am just finding studying full time, working and family life a big stress. At times I feel like I am drowning.

Worrying about my son not being happy.

My bad skin is stressing me out, even though I know the end of that is in sight.

Money, tax credits and CT benefit.

My anxiety is stressing me out.

to everyone.

Whether my 'dad' will live up to the blueprint of the rest of life and be a selfish enough bastard not to pitch up for my Mum's funeral. Highly likely that he won't as he dislikes funerals and everything is all about him and how he feel, sod everyone else.

Personally I don't care if he's there but my disabled sister will be bloody gutted if he doesn't go. She is finding Mum's passing incredibly difficult to understand. Doesn't help that she has lapses of memory and forgets what's just happened so keeps having to experience it over and over again never mind that her main source of day to day contact, the closest person to her in the world has just died,

Rant over.

ds1 and his future prospects - has dyspraxia, dyslexia, sensory processing disorder, generalised anxiety and finds school hard. He is of normal intelligence but basic literacy, maths has been very challenging and he finds the whole school experience a sensory and anxiety overload at times. I hope life will work out for him.

money

my weight

work, career

YouveCatToBeKittenMe fgs don’t have your dog pts for something it finds natural. That would be criminal.

I tried to join the military this week - they picked up something at the medical which I have to have a consult for next week. Chances are i’ll be medically disqualified. I’ve been wanting to join the military my whole life and I’m not sure what i’ll do now if I don’t get in - plus it would have paid for all my college and given me the opportunity to travel so I’m feeling incredibly stressed out this week

@HelpPleaseHelpMe

I have no personal experience but have heard of NAPAC which supports adults who experienced abuse as children

napac.org.uk/calling-our-support-line

to everyone

My worries don't come close to some on here.

I worry about how isolated I am. Also what a terrible daughter I am.

I also broke my ankle which is still painful. My choice is whether to go back to the surgeon but I'm worried because he may recommend surgery to re-break and pin/plate the ankle. The surgery doesn't worry me but the recovery period, dependence on parents and crutches do.

Everyone's troubles are so awful I really feel for you. Life can be so difficult. I identify with the mums dealing with adult children with mental heath issues.

My DD 21 has had mental health problems for a few years. Today she drank vodka and walked into a river this evening. She came back out and was taken to A&E. The police rang me and I went into the hospital. She was ok for a bit then told me I don't care. A row broke out so I left.

She has bpd and can be very aggressive towards me. I left so she wouldn't kick off. The police have just rung to say she's trying to leave. I said it could get worse if I go back. The police woman just gave me a hard time saying it's because of her illness. I know that but I've almost reached the end and I can't face going in. When will this ever end?

Guilt and more guilt.
DH is from New Zealand and we need to move there, probably next summer - ILs have their own, successful business in the same field as his, and are desperate to retire and ‘give’ it to him, not least because FIL is showing signs of dementia. At the same time his job is turning to shit here so logically it’s a no brainier. We would have a very comfortable life there.

But DF is in the later stages of Parkinson’s and can barely speak or stay up for longer than 2 hours at a time, let alone travel.
I have 2 brothers, one who met a narcissist online and is in a controlling and coercive marriage and has all but cut us all off, and another who has a ‘big’ job that eats up a lot of time but who is also a selfish twat in how he treats my parents.
DF’s illness has made my parents pretty antisocial and isolated. My kids are their world.

i know it’s the right thing to do for us, but the guilt is literally eating away at me.

So many really awful worries. I feel really lucky.

I’m up because the youngest has a vomiting bug, more of a pain in the arse than a worry.

Dh is doing up the house and the mess made is indescribable. It was meant to be finished two weeks ago, it’s really starting to get to me.
I’ve been made redundant, so that’s fun.

I’m considering training to become a teacher but I’m really concerned about the workload and stress involved.

YouveCatToBeKittenMe

Do NOT kill your dog, ffs. That shouldn’t even have entered your mind