What, if anything, is stressing you out at the moment?

[BryarTuck]

I feel like I'm always very worried or stressed about something in my life and even when that particular thing gets resolved I instantly start fretting about something else. I had heard a quote along the lines of "if we everyone put their problems into a common pot, most would choose to take their own home again rather than a share from it" or something like that- and in the interests of me trying to keep my situation in perspective I'm asking what it causing you stress at the moment?

(Hopefully some of you will be able to say "nothing"!)

For me it's the fact that DH went freelance about six months ago and it hadn't worked out so financially we aren't in a good position. He's now looking for a job but I'm scared of how long it would take to find employment. Our first (longed for) DC is due in January so I won't be working for a while (also self employed albeit successfully but don't get maternity pay). So we aren't going to have an income and although we have some savings I had earmarked these for my maternity leave and I'm worried about how long we can last. I'm awake each night worrying and doing sums.

Anyone else care to share?

My granddad raised me (With my Nan) from when I was 11. He was diagnosed with dementia just over a year ago and has deteriorated rapidly these last few weeks and is now in hospital and not expected to go home. It breaks my heart seeing him, he just isn't someone I recognise anymore and I feel so helpless.

We have £74 to buy food and petrol until Tuesday but that nothing new!

Relationship
Family
Money
Returning to work after mat leave

Oh yeah, an ex getting out of jail soon

I hate my job, can't wait to leave but struggling to find something else. A couple of my colleagues are huge arseholes, and I hate working with them. I actually feel sick in a morning getting ready for work. I can't just quit because I wouldn't be able to afford my mortgage.

I find life boring at the minute, and I'm struggling to enjoy anything, even things I used to love.

I had an eating disorder when I was younger and i feel like it's coming back. Or rather I can't keep controlling it. Logically I know I'm not overweight and I look fine, but all I see in the mirror is fat. I'm skipping meals, and have a major urge to make myself vomit when I do eat. I like the feeling of being hungry, and feel like I've failed if I eat.

Huge sympathy for everyone on this thread thank you for sharing I do think it helps to "talk" about these things. We should as a society be able to be more open about our problems and worries and support each other through life, I always feel like I have to save face and pretend everything is great to everyone else which I'm sure doesn't help as it always seems to me that my friends etc are all having a great time and I'm struggling.

Thinking of you all.

I’ve sold my house but can’t find one I can afford in the area I need to move to
Do I pocket the money and live in my motorhome until the market picks up ( tiny motorhome and it’s winter) or call the sale off and potentially not manage to sell again for ages and also letting down my lovely buyers

Non existent respite care for severely disabled ds. Particularly pressing at the moment because it is impacting on my health.

think it was Karl Pilkington who came up with the worry hole theory. Your brain has a worry hole that must be full. Once you empty it then something else pops straight in.

People believe he is stupid but this is a fine example of his intelligence , it’s so true.

I had my fourth DC four weeks ago. I’m stressed about the state of the house but can’t seem to get on top of it. DP was in charge for the first week postpartum as I had a c-section and basically couldn’t move. He isn’t the best housekeeper so ever since then I just feel I’ve never been able to catch up. He obviously returned to work a fortnight ago and DS often nurses right through the night but will sleep during the day so once the other DC are at school I’ve ended up having no choice but to nap. As a result the housework falls even further behind. It’s not a total disgrace anymore since we spent the full weekend blitzing the bedrooms (the DCs bedrooms were fucking atrocious!) but it’s still not to my standards. Every time I look at it I feel the rage bubbling but am quite often stuck nursing DS so unable to do much about it.

Dd1 being tested for leukaemia. She's 10. With in the next 2 weeks my world may be completely changing and I'm emotionally on a knife edge.

(Nursing atm hence being on MN instead of cleaning ).

Also worried about our relationship. DS won’t sleep unless he’s in our bed so we’ve been putting him in the sleepyhead between us both. We’ve always been very affectionate, particularly at bedtime and that’s now ground to a halt. Realise it’s only four weeks in so still early days but I’m also so bloody knackered and resentful of him getting to sleep through the night so that isn’t helping. Sometimes sit cursing at him at 3AM when he’s snoring . I’ve been snapping a fair amount at him lately. I feel resentful that he not only gets to sleep but also doesn’t do much housework to help the mess it’s in. E.g I asked him to move some boxes to the recycling bin before he left for work yesterday and when I came downstairs he’d moved them.. onto the floor? May seem petty but it’s just getting to me.

Money/clutter/not having enough space at home. All linked.

I have frequent recurring dreams in which we move to somewhere bigger, or find another room in our flat and I feel so happy- and then I wake up and remember that I live like a battery chicken.

I’m travelling cross country but train tomorrow and am a bit anxious about getting my connections.

I’m organising the Xmas party at work and am worried that it will be rubbish, plus the stress of chasing cash off people for it.

I woke up yesterday with drops of blood on my duvet but couldn’t find anywhere obvious it came from (and my partner was away) – so I’m anxious I have something wrong with me!

We rent at the moment (SE London) and I think our landlords are going to sell up soon. They have been doing a few more inspections and checks lately.

I am 30 and my friends are starting to have babies but I don’t feel ready. But I’m starting to stress about my bio clock and wonder if I should start…

Finances.

Work - I feel constantly sick and so overwhelmed I feel frozen.
TTC - we haven't been trying long but each period feels like a punch in the stomach
Money - we're not uncomfortable but a little bit more would take some of the pressure off. Feel so ungrateful to even say that.
General feeling of inadequacy.

I'm not having a very good week!!

My 3 dc seemingly catching every bug going. And then sharing.

I’m 40+1 weeks pregnant with my second baby. My first labour was horrendous and I nearly didn’t make it. Ended up with ptsd and now recovered but worrying about the same thing happening again. The thought of leaving my babies without a mum is preying on my mind a lot.

I have been constantly ill lately. Nothing major, but I had bad flu 3 weeks ago and now today been told I've got a nasty throat infection. It is getting me down being ill all the time.

This pales in comparison to what others are going through though.

We have just lost an order that equates to 40% of our business, from a person we have dealt with for years and considered a personal friend as well, dh helped keep them going when they were literally on the bones of their arse. Worse they did it without a word and we heard it from the person who has the order first, that they previously fell out with (punchup level) and stated they would never do business with if life depended on.

We have 2 employees who we need to find teens of thousands of something to grow/sell to continue to employ and it's unlikely to be possible as all ideas are small amounts.

We have actual gaps in our back door and driving rain leaks in the upstairs window double, glazing in January will no longer be an option.

My eldest dd has severe dyslexia and ADD and is being assessed for ASD and possibly PDA and is struggling massively, however she is beginning to turn a corner with communicating worries. This was highlighted when she was assaulted at an activity which has now brought up a host of safeguarding, communication and safety issues on the part of the activity which other parents are now also stressed over.

My youngest dd (3.5) has migraines which are getting more frequent and more severe but she's too young for preventative treatment.

I have several chronic conditions and worry has made them worse and I've got so run down I have a constant cold on top of how crap I normally feel.

On the plus side I'm good at sale shopping and had Christmas finished in July before any of this happened so at least dds will get a last hurrah.

I'm 18 weeks pregnant. It's my first pregnancy after nearly 5 years TTC and two rounds of IVF. I thought I'd stop worrying after 12 weeks, but if anything, the further the pregnancy progresses, the more worked up I'm getting! Very anxious about my 20 weeks scan in just over a fortnight.

Secondary to that, I'm also worried about money, our savings were wiped out by IVF, I'm the main earner but my work is not flexible so it's return full time or nothing, plus we are about to start a restructure and I wouldn't be surprised if they find a way to make me redundant. I'm facing the prospect of debt when baby arrives and I reckon I'll be job hunting whilst I'm on maternity leave.

So many people on here coping with so much, you're doing amazingly well holding it all together.

I really relate to the "worry hole" analogy too.

@room32 I'm similar about this pregnancy, the worry hasn't stopped for me (34 weeks) but has eased somewhat and I found I was much happier after the 20 week scan. I hope you are also.

moving to another country without a job to go to and investing my savings into a half built house with my partner. Leaving my adult dc, my home and my life behind and basically resting all hope for the future on my relationship.

I've said I'll go now and I 'm scared.

Husbands business
Debts
Shitty leaky house
Building work nearby
Not sleeping
Bloody Christmas and expectations from others
Acid reflux caused by the above

I'm worrying about my DP who's lost her job and might have to go back to living 12 hours away from me because she won't have money to pay her rent. She will also have to leave graduate school.

My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer yesterday, she will need chemo and will lose her breast. She turned 37 last month, and lives 4hrs away. I'm a single mum that works, with two kids in school, so can't just go down there 😥