What, if anything, is stressing you out at the moment?

[BryarTuck]

I feel like I'm always very worried or stressed about something in my life and even when that particular thing gets resolved I instantly start fretting about something else. I had heard a quote along the lines of "if we everyone put their problems into a common pot, most would choose to take their own home again rather than a share from it" or something like that- and in the interests of me trying to keep my situation in perspective I'm asking what it causing you stress at the moment?

(Hopefully some of you will be able to say "nothing"!)

For me it's the fact that DH went freelance about six months ago and it hadn't worked out so financially we aren't in a good position. He's now looking for a job but I'm scared of how long it would take to find employment. Our first (longed for) DC is due in January so I won't be working for a while (also self employed albeit successfully but don't get maternity pay). So we aren't going to have an income and although we have some savings I had earmarked these for my maternity leave and I'm worried about how long we can last. I'm awake each night worrying and doing sums.

Anyone else care to share?

Worried about DD. Doing her GCSEs next year. She has no self confidence and thinks she's going to fail everything. I'm worried the stress of exams is going to lead to a serious breakdown for her. She has SH in the past and is seeing a counsellor.

Worried about DS. He's year 8. Not sure if he's happy at school. He never tells me anything and seems to use gaming as an escape from real life. Don't know how to get him to talk and open up.

Always worried about money. Have to pay for a shower leak to be fixed, plus other repairs, all unexpected costs we haven't planned for. Have got loads on credit cards, how we're going to pay it all off. I earn just above min wage but only do 20 hours pw so not much.

Can I stress about how stressed I am????

Money

Reading this though my worriers aren't anything. My career plans are on hold due to a massive easily avoidable fuck up. But I can bounce back from it. On the whole I'm ok. Although now I'm worried about that cause when things are going ok the universe sends a shit storm your way

I agree about the worry hole, we just replace the old worry with a new one.

Wishing everyone a positive outcome for what you are dealing with

Spent years stressing about my terminally ill DM, her care, health, pain, time etc since she died my loss is huge but I worry about small things I can't control (worry way too much) think it's just all part of grieving and filling the worry hole we get so used to carrying with us

Divorce
Where we will live
How tight it will be financially
How the kids will cope generally
Will stbex continue to try to abuse afterwards
Getting a better job
Caring for elderly parent

@Clarich007, I'm a vet. You asked for advice re your cat.... sounds as though she has feline immune-mediated gingivitis-stomatitis - a condition where her immune system overreacts to the plaque on her gums. It can be incredibly painful.

www2.vet.cornell.edu/departments-centers-and-institutes/cornell-feline-health-center/health-information/feline-health-topics/gingivostomatitis

Has she been tested for FIV and FeLV viruses? If these have been ruled out, a trial of steroids (either tablets or a monthly-ish depot injection) is needed. They could be transformative. Yes, long term steroids can have side effects, but in cats with this condition, the benefits usually outweigh the risks. They could be weaned down to the lowest dose which is still effective.

As for the root canal, what is the reason for doing this rather than just removing the offending tooth? Sounds cosmetic to me? Just removing the tooth would be a lot cheaper.

Hope that helps, feel free to @ me if any further questions.

I am very worried about my baby's sleep. He isnt getting enough and is awake frequently at night. I sm plagued by worry and guilt over it

Work. Just started a new job and not sure I’m very good st it.

Best of luck to those who have proper things to worry about.

Mine are just the usual:

New baby due in new year and nothing ready, have loads to do. Also high risk so regular appts to check growth and on alert for pre eclampsia

Potential for us both to lose jobs in Brexit (bloody Brexit!) and how will we pay our 2k a months mortgage especially if we end up in negative equity and can't sell

DD school applications

Christmas presents for everyone

Having seemingly a million things to think about and sort out which all fall to me

Actually Brexit is my biggest worry, o can't believe the people that have put us all in this position

@BrazzleDazzleDay
There is no shame in talking to your family about your struggling with university course. After what you’ve been through, no wonder you’re finding things tough at the moment. More importantly though, you need to talk to someone at the university. A few years ago I was having a difficult time while doing a postgrad degree and was on the verge of pulling out. Admin staff arranged for me to talk to someone who came up with very good suggestions and I ended up with my degree, albeit a year later. So please see if it’s possible to talk to someone before things get harder for you. I would have thought that my university was an impersonal institution with no real interest in its students apart from their fees but the reality was the complete opposite. It provided support and encouragement when I most needed it.
To everyone else, the burdens you are bearing are really really hard. Life can be appalling sometimes.

A bit stressed out that DH has a rift with his parents right now, and he doesn't want to see them, or them to see our kids, until they've been to counselling with him. And I'm with him on that, I can see that we don't want to get on a slippery slope where we just end up making nice and his parents' behaviour towards him carries on the same way. Only he's not overtly told them he doesn't want them to see the kids and now they're tapping me about it and I'm just having to avoid their calls until he tells them, as I've told him it has to be him who breaks this scenario. I think crunch point will have to come today.

My adopted dc has behavioural issues and is spiralling our of control, I’m concerned for my birth dc as she gets the brunt of my adc anger and violence, (not to mention issues at school) we’re talking to SS about moving my adc to live with my exdh and split the siblings up for the majority of the week. It’s so sad

WhoknewBeefStew That is very tough. I hope it works out for you all

Name changed. So my dh could go to prison. Dd has autism and struggling with school. I don't sleep more than 4 hours a night. My job is making me ill. I'm depressed and in pain constantly. I don't know how much more I can take. Stressed doesn't cover it.

Being overdue and something happening to the baby because I'm overdue.

I'm moving 100 miles away following dv.

My oldest dd has high functioning autism and my youngest daughter aged 9 is depressed.

I'm a carer yet probably have to work due to universal credit and I lose most tax credits and child benefit next month as eldest will be 20 but still at college till end of academic year. My caring responsibilities don't suddenly disappear.

My mum has cancer and not really recovering, it's just a slow decline.

I don't sleep and I've only just curbed my over eating as being so fat is making me feel worse.

for everyone.

I’m getting married tomorrow...stress!!!
And have an 11mth old baby who’s picking up every virus known to man since he started nursery 3wks ago and the stress, anxiety and worry is just constant.

This thread title made me smile, thank you so much

Yes I am stressed to my limit BIG time, way too complicated to share

Anyway for some reason seeing this title made me answer (in my head) how long have you got for me to say?! And smile and actually feel the tension go

Elderly parents: dad hates me for placing him in a care home. The guilt for trying to help a 96 ( nearly 97) year old is immense. He has dementia.
Elderly mil , 92, can't see that well any more snd she keeps falling over ( lives miles away on her own).
Money always worries me. My sons worry me too. Life can be tough.
Sorry to read how bad things are for people on here. I wish you all well. I hope things improve for you all.

I am not that big but I constantly feel anxious about my weight. I can't really explain it but it almost feels like if I was a size 8 I would feel calm. I feel constantly anxious about status and how other people see me. I am constantly hungry for advancement but sometimes I wish I could just chill out. I have very low self esteem due to dreadful things that happened to me in the past and this seems to spur me on to constantly look for new challenges and ways to appear brilliant. I always push myself forward out of desperation but often just want to huddle in bed. I just want to make sure that I am 'somebody'. The idea of fading into oblivion fills me with fear. I am used to only being able to rely on myself but i wish i could trust people. I am very strong but i think i get labelled as undesirable because i am so strong. I am not put down easily but that seems to make me less popular.

People who don't check and treat their children's hair for headlice! 😡

I had a health scare a few weeks ago. Copious tests show in physically ok, mentally I'm a ball of anxiety and keep imagining I have the same symptoms
I had which led to the scare. I hate this. Sorry to hear of all the tough times others are having.

Just wanted to say to those with money worries - as a child my parents were v poor and one Xmas I got no presents - but my mum in particular was the kindest woman you could have met and made Xmas so fun that I don't look back and think how awful my Xmas was. Love always wins through so don't let Xmas spending get you down. But big to those with money worries.

I am worried about my family - dad has mental health problems and some of my siblings are out of work so find Xmas hard

I'm a single parent with no other income other than what I earn so I always find Xmas a bit stressful.

I'm getting stressed with everyone expecting me to fit in seeing them before Xmas when I hardly have any time and I find socialising exhausting when it's one after the other (and also expensive!).

I have to go for a check about a suspicious lump in my breast - mammogram was inconclusive so I need an MRI and I haven't booked it yet

Generally lots of things

Work. Don’t know what is happening with my job. Not enough money in the budget to keep me where I am so I will have to move. How to get kids to school, will my car be reliable enough?

I am unfit and unhealthy and worry why I can’t get motivated to do something about it

I just finished a very long course of low dose roaccutane (2nd go) and my acne is already re emerging. I can’t even begin to deal with how this will affect my mental health again. I felt so confident and finally able to face myself in the mirror/not be embarrassed to talk to people and now i start over again? I know it could be worse but 15 years of adult cystic acne, horrendous periods, excess facial hair etc - still can’t get a diagnosis of PCOS.