What, if anything, is stressing you out at the moment?

[BryarTuck]

I feel like I'm always very worried or stressed about something in my life and even when that particular thing gets resolved I instantly start fretting about something else. I had heard a quote along the lines of "if we everyone put their problems into a common pot, most would choose to take their own home again rather than a share from it" or something like that- and in the interests of me trying to keep my situation in perspective I'm asking what it causing you stress at the moment?

(Hopefully some of you will be able to say "nothing"!)

For me it's the fact that DH went freelance about six months ago and it hadn't worked out so financially we aren't in a good position. He's now looking for a job but I'm scared of how long it would take to find employment. Our first (longed for) DC is due in January so I won't be working for a while (also self employed albeit successfully but don't get maternity pay). So we aren't going to have an income and although we have some savings I had earmarked these for my maternity leave and I'm worried about how long we can last. I'm awake each night worrying and doing sums.

Anyone else care to share?

@Steelesauce

DF had a stroke 5 weeks ago and am currently trying to find him suitable nursing home
DM with dementia is not coping with this and is more than usually demanding - plus then bad mouths me to all and sundry
DP lost his job last week
Xmas looming not in mood and not much money
Work very stressful I’m on the point of breaking and have now been told that I can’t take any leave until March due to excess work load

Universal credit , DPs wages are paid four weekly so one month a year universal credit won’t pay us. I thought it was January that there would be no payment but now I’m sure it’s december. Right before Christmas

Money.
Housework/DIY.
Trying to complete all my Christmas orders and shipped by the 15th with a toddler who has decided that midnight is a great time to finally go to sleep

I'm stressed about everything at the moment. We don't have much money and really struggle financially, I have so much to do and no time to do it. I have 2 part time jobs and my own business selling books, between those three, my 2 DC, my DD's school family and friends I feel like I am spinning so many different plates at they are all starting to fall and smash around me.

Money money money. Considering going to a food bank after the weekend. Union battle with ex employer for unpaid wages. Bladder infection so feeling pretty poorly too. I didn’t think it was possible to feel this stressed.

Wow what an eye opening thread

I'm off work having had an accident (at work)

I'm worried about sick pay - and pain

Sorry to everyone having a difficult time st the moment 💐.

I’m beyond worried about my dd(11). She’s recently been diagnosed with asd and is struggling. She’s found the transition to secondary school overwhelming and is self harming.

Ds1
DH
Brexit
Work
Money
Health
DM's glaucoma and developing cataract and DF's inability to look after her as needed post op

Abusive ex dragging me through the family court system.

My job. I hate it. I really, really hate it. My boss is a bully and is going through a personal crisis so he's being even nastier.

Worrying about going into hospital in the next few weeks or being rushed in before hand.

Making sure my DH knows where all the letters to DC and DSC are in case the worse happens. (It is a possibility)

Making sure everyone else is ok with everything and my wishes.

DP isn’t working many hours at the moment and we are struggling financially. It’s making me feel ill and resentful.

Upcycling a bloody doll house

Dd wants the lol house for Christmas. I can’t face spending £180 on it, so I’ve got a £30 doll house and currently glitzing it up. I’m just stressing as I’m not crafty at all and hope it comes out well

Am so so sorry to hear what everyone is going through, when you are in the thick of it ,you very much feel alone and despair that things will never improve, that's the way I feel just now .My DM has just come out of hospital, we go through various health issues with her regular and every time I see a bit of my old mum slipping away.My anxiety is gone through the roof ,I am terrified of how she will cope and losing her and terrified of this constantly continuing 😳I call it the hamster wheel of hell .

I got served court papers this week for debts with a student loan.

Money in general - single parent, don't own a house or have a pension etc.

My mum is having tests today to see if she has cancer.

I am currently undergoing tests for a health issue too (although not cancer that's been ruled out thankfully!)

I have a huge audit in work from Monday until the week before xmas.

My neighbour appears to have stolen a parcel containing a high value xmas present and I can't seem to do anything about it or afford to replace it.

for everyone

I'm also due in January.
Lots of family drama, my gran is very ill and all on her own, some family members are just after her money which is being eaten up by her care anyway.
My house is small and cluttered I'm struggling to work out where any stuff can go never mind another person. I don't qualify for any kind of maternity pay and DP is self employed in the building trade and work will dwindle soon if not dry up all together. All building works in our house are half done think no radiators, holes in the ceiling, bare walls. By the time he's not working enough to get anything done he will have no more income to do it. The circle goes on.
Things do tend to feel worse this time of year in the cold and dark mornings but I try and look for the good in life for my children.

Worried about DD’s current mental health relapse after two previous suicide attempts by hanging. Grieving at the 27th anniversary this week of DH’s early death, and trying to pretend to be cheerful for my birthday the following day, so as not to further depress DD. Struggling to find the enthusiasm for Christmas prep.
I don’t think anyone gets an easy ride in this life. What matters is that we all support each other through it, with practical help, advice, and prayers, and ask for God’s help when we’re not coping.

About to start my second round of IVF after a year of 4 IUIs, 1 previous round of IVF, one miscarriage at 10 weeks with D&C, and an ectopic pregnancy.

It's been one horrible year and I don't know how long this torture is going to continue. We could be on this infertility treadmill for years still. It's so all consuming and on my mind constantly.

My lovely DS is likely to be moving across to the other side of the world with his job. His oldest brother already lives there and is settled with a family that I have only ever met once, and can't afford to fly home to see us. I cannot fly due to heath issues so face a future when I can rarely see them. I know about skype, and we use it, but you can't hug a loved one on there, you can only see their face - and when their face reflects any hard time they are going through it is unutterably vile to not be able to touch them. It makes me so sad I just want to cry all the time (though I'm trying to be upbeat in front of my DS it is killing me inside).

My DD is self harming due to stress and is probably going to lose her job due to her inability to turn up to work on time and too much time off. She will lose her flat if this happens and have nowhere to go but here - and much as I love her, she is so hard to live with as she has no respect for how we like to live, she smokes, and takes drugs I'm sure.

My dad has dementia, my mother is physically frail. I had an abusive childhood that no one else saw and so am now judged as heartless because I am not visiting them every five minutes "after all they have done for me" - makes me want to scream out the truth but no one will believe me

I have cancer that is currently in remmission and I am terrified all the misery and stress I am living through will cause it to come back

@MoneyTooTight

I got served court papers this week for debts with a student loan

Do you mind me asking how that has come about? I have two student loans that I'm in no position to pay back yet and I worry about this often. One of them is from around ten years ago and has high interest. I am currently paying back a student finance overpayment though.

I have always been a worrier / stress head but as I've got older it seems to have increased ten fold. I run my own business in a fairly litigious industry so am constantly stressed with work. Two DSs in different schools with the normal pressures that come from pre -teen and teenage children, a DH who works long hours and thinks I'm his home secretary , ageing PILs and the death of my own DM recently and dealing with her estate, bolshy neighbours who have cut down my beautiful hedges and holly to stick up the ugliest fence panels in the world and all the other daily grind stuff that goes on and on and on. I find it exhausting tbh.

@MoneyTooTight under £20k? If so look into a DRO.

I'm stressed about money too. Dread the postman coming with his hate mail overdue bill notices every day.

Money. Always money. I’m currently on mat leave with DC3, and we’re struggling. I have to go back in Feb when she’s 6 months old, and that makes me sad/stressed. We live overseas and have family visiting which is exciting but stressful too.
DS1 and DS2 are constantly arguing. Literally every waking hour. I shout at them a lot which is not helpful and i’m sure i’m failing them.
DD is refusing to feed during the day, unlessshe is in our room alone. Which means she’s up a lot feeding in the night.
I had PND last time around and i’m trying to keep calm so it doesn’t hit again.
Wow, that was long!

@darkriver198868

Good luck for your op!