To mollycoddle PLB (Aged 249 months)

[ManchesterMum63]

As I was spraying Lavender Sleep Mist on my PLB's pillows earlier, having just prepared his 3rd "feast" of the day (even though the fridge is ALWAYS empty) I realised that I may be mollycoddling him I know i am to another level as he's the last one at home... On-demand sweaty foot rubs anyone? But he's only 249 months old and will fly the nest soon whilst i cling to his ankles

Whereas DH is told to 'help himself' in the kitchen / maybe try reflexology next year if his feet are aching

And I know I didn't always have the time/forethought/patience to always do the same for all the other 4 DC's... Who've all survived/flourished rather well...

What over the top crazy wouldn't tell the other siblings lovely things do you do to spoil your almost 6' little ones - my list is quite long come to think of it

Notveryadventurousname - Pillow Spray aaaaah... Something I do when PLB/DH/cats AREN'T generally around... Just a quick spritz of Lavender to soothe and calm after a long day...

To be fair... after starting this was supposed to be very lighthearted thread and seeing some of the replies, I happened to ask PLB if he'd ever noticed anything 'different'/nice smell ANYTHING??? at all in his room and his utterly non-commital reply no not really never why-- and-- the nonchalance in his shoulder shrug was probably visible from space

Tinkly I'd love DS1 not to live at home. The reality is that when we die he'll go into a hospice, if he's fortunate enough to outlive us. He can't even cook himself a meal, as it exhausts him.

i need to stop mollying my 18 year old but i dont know if i can hes my baby, he set his own alarm to get up for uni and i was mortified , thats my job, hes even learning to iron his clothes but thankfully hes not thst good at it . am i being made redundant as a mum haha

My PFB is also my PLB (POB?), she's only 107 months but this is a lovely thread, and I like to think that what's being modelled is a lot of loving kindness.

(I read a thread once where the OP was the mum of an 18yo who, through his own slightly doziness, was going to have to walk home 5 miles from his job at 2am and should she pick him up. In amongst all the 'no, of course nots!' from the majority of posters someone said 'well, my 18yo would and has picked me up in this situation' and at that moment I thought, that's what I want my family to be, one where we help each other out.)

PhilomenaButterfly

Gilld69 - yes it does feel nice to 'spoil' and BE spoiled... whichever DC/age...

RiverTam - here here!! Nothing wrong with that

Thanks Manchester. We've had a long time to get used to it. ☺

Just to warn you that my sil (PLB) didn't leave home until she was 35, had TWO entire rooms of the house to herself. Once I came along and started filling the house with visiting dcs she had a massive strop when I and DH asked if DS (then 20 months) could sleep in her 'sitting room'. This culminated in me having to carry the heater from that room back to her bedroom because she was cold, whilst I was 6 months pregnant with dd. Dd is my baby but is luckily very independent!

I lived with my DM until she passed away and was her PLB. Afterwards my Aunt rang me and asked if I needed her to come and show me how to use the washing machine, make me food, etc. I wonder sometimes what my DM was telling her as had been washing my own clothes for years. Cooking yes, not known for my skills but somehow I haven’t starved to death since.

Well this thread has made me feel a bit better - not just me then! Me and DH both mollycoddle our 118 month old DS despite having pushed for independence for our older child much, much earlier. I veer between panicking about how he'll manage at High School/life and running his bath, finding his socks and providing many 'suppers' and drinks that he could easily get himself. Clearly a part of me really wants him to stay cute, small and dependent ! It surprises even me because it goes against all my principles about child rearing !

Franberry - yes i sometimes have a word with myself, then ignore myself and carry on doing whatever little thing I was going to do anyway... Figuring it's a harsh enough world out there anyway😬which PLB isn't shielded from in ANY way with his studies/part-time jobs and social-life

manchester, your dc is lucky to have you.

Canary123 - Thank you😘

So true Colditz the kindness you show to children definitely rubs off on to them and you do receive it back from them. It’s lovely to be lovely to our children.

I love Beverly Goldberg

Love it! Leukaylove

This thread has made me feel better about the fact I changed my 228 month old's sheets for him today. I knew he'd be tired after a long day at work and wanted him to have a nice, clean bed to snuggle up in.

I also told my 204 month old 'baby' DS to be careful crossing the road yesterday

That’s so funny Bellatrix

WhoTookTheCookie sorry to hear that. You clearly had an amazing mum.

My 219 month old PFB, who's off living it up at uni, gets FaceTimed into the opening of the Lego Advent Calendar every evening. Wouldn't want him to feel rejected.

My Dcs call me Beverley Goldberg. I take it as a compliment.

I wish I was more like Beverly Goldberg, but I realised today i'm more like the dad, Murray Goldberg.

Hilarious! I carried PLB (aged 125 months) craddle style from bed to bathroom (trying not to whack his head on the door frame) to brush his teeth for him whilst he sat on my lap with his feet dragging in the floor. The whole time saying “come on baby, who’s mummy’s baby?” He went along with it laughing hysterically while his big bro aged 156 months asked “mum can you do that to me?” Errrr well you are 5’6” and about 6 stone so don’t think I can carry you

Pinkstripycat😂😂