To mollycoddle PLB (Aged 249 months)

[ManchesterMum63]

As I was spraying Lavender Sleep Mist on my PLB's pillows earlier, having just prepared his 3rd "feast" of the day (even though the fridge is ALWAYS empty) I realised that I may be mollycoddling him I know i am to another level as he's the last one at home... On-demand sweaty foot rubs anyone? But he's only 249 months old and will fly the nest soon whilst i cling to his ankles

Whereas DH is told to 'help himself' in the kitchen / maybe try reflexology next year if his feet are aching

And I know I didn't always have the time/forethought/patience to always do the same for all the other 4 DC's... Who've all survived/flourished rather well...

What over the top crazy wouldn't tell the other siblings lovely things do you do to spoil your almost 6' little ones - my list is quite long come to think of it

This is a seriously weird thread. Adrian Mole was not 165 months old in his secret diary, he was 13 3/4.

fibonaccisequins - it's alright I'm no angel - i do 'normal' stuff too - and not expecting to be spraying PLB's pillows whilst he still lives here wearing matching buttoned pyjamas and wearing 'knitwear' I made for him when he's 420 months altho nothing wrong with those that choose that route

They just grow up soooo fast

on a day out recently SIL said she was thirsty, MIL pulled a juice carton out her bag, put the straw in and handed it to SIL, who is 436 months, bit later on she complained she was hungry, out came an apple. DD (121 months) asked me if I had snacks in my bag, I was able to scrape together half a pack of polos, 2 cough sweets and a chocolate wrapper.

SadOtter -

My PLB is 156.5 weeks old.

She owns me 😂

My sis, PLB —spoilt brat—, confessed that she’s never put air in her tyres. She drops a few hints and dad does it for her. She’s a whopping 552 months old.

PFB DD is 228 months tomorrow. She is off at uni, and so we had to disguise the cake we sent her to halls. She will get another when she comes home on Fri.

*Coddling your kids sometimes doesn't make them useless. My kids are capable people who at 151 and 187 months old are quite fit to make a dinner if requested too, but I still meet them at the door if it's been a rainy walk home,, help them off with coats and bags, and give them pyjamas from the tumble dryer.

It actually hasn't made them spoilt, it's made them kind. If I get in from a cold wet walk, I'm greeted at the door by fussing teenagers who try to put towels on my head and feed me tea. It's lovely.*

This is so lovely, and this thread is lovely. I like coddling my kids and can't imagine that changing.

Redcrayonsthat's another thread too... the 'maiden in distress' thing - i've never put air in my tyre/taken out the bins/changed a fuse🤪

I put air in my tyres if I really need to.....but I do prefer it when I happen to mention around my Dad (or partner) and off out they trot to do it for me

PS My Mum still bought my brother and I advent calendars every year until she passed - He was 30 and I 28 at the time.... lo and behold we both still manage to run businesses and support ourselves lol

As a 551mths PLB myself I confess I have never put air, oil and water in my car. I have also never changed my own tyre. I’m still a capable adult.

I also still get an advent calendar and Santa sends me a stocking full of chocolate (even though I buy it myself)

Sadotter my bag still always has snacks in. And a clean handkerchief.

At 618 months I am a mollycoddled PLB. DM and DF find new ways to demonstrate their love all the time. I think it keeps them young so I am helping them age slowly

Oh and I in turn (in competition with DGP) moddlecoddle all my DC (their DGC).

I was having a chuckle and reading this thread to my DH. I was at the post where the mother was cutting the crust off her DC sandwiches when DH pointed out 'umm i have to cut my wife's steak in small pieces so she doesn't have to do it!'
I blame my grandmother..she was living with my DM and me. I am her PLGB, she would always cut my food for me
Poor wives AND husbands, i say

At 270 months old my PLB brother lives at home rent free and has his meals cooked, his laundry done and everything picked up after him while he works full time in a good job. Before he qualified in said job my parents paid for all of his driving lessons (plus to theory tests and two practical tests), then subsidised his car insurance, his petrol money and even bought him cigarettes when he had spent the rest of his wages. They buy his clothes and toiletries, and basically let him use the place like a hotel.

My mum made me get a cash-in-hand job when I was 14 and I had to pay for anything I wanted outside of basic necessities like food or school uniform. I paid rent from the second I got a full time job after leaving school and she then made it clear that I was to move out at 20 - by setting up a flat viewing behind my back and telling me when to be there!

I know this is a lighthearted thread but your mollycoddling of younger children isn't quite so funny for the eldest.

I'd probably get ripped to shreds if I dared mention some of the small gestures the OH and I do for each other

amused that's blatantly unfair, I mollycoddle my youngest but equally I mollycoddle my eldest as well now and when they were younger so there is no resentment just teasing and eyerolling. So ds will complain I didn't use to cook him breakfast before school where I do for dd because she doesn't eat well and isn't in school. And dd will respond that on Fridays she has breakfast early so that I can go and clean his house.

This thread is seriously disturbing. Can understand making them tea and sending them nice gifts. But Carrying an 8 year old to the breakfast table? Washing a 20 year old's hair while she's in the bath? Why does a 20 year old want her mum anywhere near her while she's in the bath!? Rubbing sweaty feet?

fleshmarketclose

Nice name - fellow Edinburgher

It is incredibly unfair. He whinged when my parents gave me £1000 towards my wedding but I've paid £30,000 in rent since I moved out so I'm not going to feel bad for him. He's a spoiled, selfish twat at times and my mum actually has the audacity to complain to me about it.

Amused I could never be like that I try and be as fair as possible to mine and I make up the breakfast thing to ds by making him breakfast every time he visits. Can't imagine being so unfair makes for good sibling relationships either and I like mine to be friends even if there is a fair amount of ribbing and teasing between them.

I used to mollycoddle my PLBrother, so I also do it to PF&LBorn.

Carrying our baby 96 month olds to or from bed is just a great cuddling moment.

More seriously, it depends on if we do everything for them, or is it just a few gestures that show them they are loved and treasured.

AmusedBush - our PLB/FLB and the ones inbetween all worked from being young/buy/bought their own stuff (whilst studying etc) PLB works 3 different part-time jobs so he can do the same So yes it was/is light-hearted and am absolutely sure PLB would decry some of the perceived 'privileges' that the other DC's benefitted from that he didn't

The "child" is 249 months old, that's 20 years 9 months old not months old.

Gave up mollycodling when they all left for Uni. Did enjoy giving them their favourite foods and treats when home at holidays but foot rubs, no way not even DH.

I have only one dc still at home. The other 3 have flown the nest, but still live close by, nearest one is about 50 metres away.
Youngest says he is never moving out and is hoping that he will be left the house when we pass on. I do spoil him, staying up to ensure he gets a proper meal when he is on back shift. Home cooked meal waiting for him at 10.30pm. He does pay digs money, but gets all food and drink in exchange, plus toiletries, full sky tv in bedroom, room cleaned, all washing done. To be honest I can’t see any reason he would ever want to leave, unless he gets a serious girlfriend!
He’s 27 but still my baby.