Breastfeeding pic

[Neoflex]

Doing a photo book of my daughter's first year. Will make a copy for us and give copies to my parents and pils for Christmas. Aibu to put a breastfeeding photo in? It's a black and white close up, mostly baby's face but also two boobs, no nips. It is a really tasteful photo that celebrates motherhood. I know my own parents won't bat an eyelid but they are also likely to want to show the book to visitors and neighbors etc.

I think we need more breastfeeding pics out there. But I don't want the book to be hidden away at the back of the cupboard because it offends my pils.

I think it would be lovely, personally. If you’re fine with it, why not?

Honestly I wouldn't want my PILS or parents having a picture with my boobs in it, even if it celebrates motherhood.

Do you think it will offend your PIL?

It shouldn't, but it might, so if you think it will then i would leave it out. Like you said, it shouldn't be left at the back of a cupboard because of it.

I wouldn't - I/DH have taken quite a few pictures of me breastfeeding but I think of them as very private - but then I also wouldn't give a whole book of pictures of DS as a gift to anyone, even his grandparents! Are you sure they wouldn't prefer one nice framed one? And don't you think you're being a bit cruel to the friends and neighbours who will apparently have to sit and look through it?! (Half joking - but only half!)

I don't think it's being unreasonable, but I probably wouldn't want pictures of someone else's boobs in any photo book given to me, however tasteful. I'm sure you've got lots of other lovely pics you cam use to make the photo book really lovely.

I'm sure the gps would love a book of their grandsons first year. Why wouldnt they? It's a kind gift I think.

As for the breastfeeding photo I would keep it as a private pic. I know it needs to be seen as normal but I'd feel weird about putting it in. Not sure why. I just felt that feeding was something just between my babies and me. I dont think people need to feed in private but a photo specifically of you breastfeeding is really for your eyes mostly I reckon. Lovely idea though for a gift

Personally I wouldn't include it. I've recently made a similar book for my son and chose the photos that I thought he would like in it to keep as he grows up...and I'm not sure a breastfeeding photo celebrating motherhood is one he'd particularly want to share at 4, 14 or 40. I'm with the other poster who suggests a nicely framed picture might be better as I think the photo book is likely to remain at the back of the cupboard/bookshelf anyway by anyone other than the parents.

I made some pics of DD's first year, plenty of boobs in there. When I made the book it seemed unremarkable as I had my boobs out all over the place, now it makes me cringe a little bit if other people see it, to be honest.
Maybe put those in an album kept just for you and immediate family?

Some books, not some pics

Include it if you want to. Up to them if they feel 'offended' really and I f they're that uncomfortable about a picture they can just not look at it.

That's really for you to ooh and aah over. As much as they wouldn't find it offensive why would they want a picture of that. Cant you make a separate book for the ones you want to give out.

If you're asking the question, I think you know the answer.

I breastfed all three of mine and was happy to breastfeed in public. However, I wouldn't want to include a picture like this of me in the album.

I've been breastfeeding nearly 3 years (2 babies) so I'm very open and positive about breastfeeding but I personally wouldn't put a picture of my boobs in a book to send to the grandparents. You might be fine with it but your dad/fil might find it odd staring at a pic of your boobs. I don't go out the room to feed and never have but I keep my boobs covered if I'm feeding so they aren't staring at them.

Each to their own though, if you are fine with it and think they will be go for it.

I made a different photobook for me and each set of parents. In-laws picture had more pictures of my husband and pictures of his family with the baby, my parents had pictures of their family. Mine were favourite pictures of mine. I used the same basic template and then spent about 30 minutes "tweaking" the 3 books to fit the other people. I thought it was worth the extra effort to make it special for everyone.

It's about the baby not the boob! If it's a special photo to you then totally include it! People who have issues can move onto the next one!

Only you know the people you're giving the books to - we don't.

If you think it's going to offend them, just leave that pic out.

I’m very pro BFing, but it’s like when you’re on Instagram, flicking through pictures of nice scenes, and then someone’s tits float into view.

I’m sure it’s a beautiful picture but I wouldn’t include it in the book.

I did this, and now a few years later I look back and the books and wish I hadn’t! It was too personal a photo to include, and it makes me cringe a bit now to think I shared it with wider family.

I personally would not, I know that my PILs would not like it or my mum. But you know that they will be fine with it, than I would.

Tbh the thought really makes me cringe, but then know your family and whether they’d like it or not better than we do.

*you know

If you’re celebrating motherhood, leave it in. If you’re celebrating your child, leave it out.

I did this for PIL's last Christmas but I honestly wouldn't consider putting a bf pic in- why would you want to waste a page/why would they want to see a pic of the back of your baby's head?

it's about the baby not the boob! If it's a special photo to you then totally include

This.

I'm guessing baby spent a good proportion of its first year breastfeeding. I don't see why you should edit that out.

DD is 18. I did a photo album for her 18th birthday and included photos from the 12 week scan to year 13 prom. I didn't include any breastfeeding photos, not that I had any anyway, but DD would have been absolutely mortified.

I was pretty open about breastfeeding DD, but I feel that breastfeeding photos are not for public consumption as they are too personal. Not rude or offensive, just personal.