Breastfeeding pic

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Doing a photo book of my daughter's first year. Will make a copy for us and give copies to my parents and pils for Christmas. Aibu to put a breastfeeding photo in? It's a black and white close up, mostly baby's face but also two boobs, no nips. It is a really tasteful photo that celebrates motherhood. I know my own parents won't bat an eyelid but they are also likely to want to show the book to visitors and neighbors etc.

I think we need more breastfeeding pics out there. But I don't want the book to be hidden away at the back of the cupboard because it offends my pils.

I don’t see why not unless your parents and PILs find feeding a child distasteful.

but I just personally am not comfortable with so much of my body captured in photograph for time immemorial.

Sure. Neither am I.

In this case though, the OP is comfortable with this image and capturing it for time immemorial.

Her in laws have seen her bfing in real life and are comfortable with that.

So I see a contradiction with objecting to capturing and sharing an image of something that everyone agrees is fine to do in public and the OP herself wants to share.

I do agree with pp, If you were bottle feeding would you add in a photo of your baby with a bottle in their mouth? If no then probably don't add breast feeding picture! I have also breastfed and have photos but I wouldn't share them with my fil.

@LaurieMarlow have I said OP shouldn't do it? I'm just giving my perspective and asking her to consider how it may be viewed by others. If she considers it and decides to do it anyway then good on her.

So I see a contradiction with objecting to capturing and sharing an image of something that everyone agrees is fine to do in public and the OP herself wants to share.

But it probably isn't quite the same as it looks in public, is it? OP describes it as a close-up. If it's how it looks in public then she shouldn't include it for a different reason - it's a picture of OP with the back of a baby's head, so it's not really a picture of the baby. If it's of the baby's face then that is a lot more intimate that what you see when someone breastfeeds publicly - unless you start peering to get a better look, and I think we can all agree that wouldn't be ok because it would feel intrusive and exposing for the woman feeding?

But it probably isn't quite the same as it looks in public, is it? OP describes it as a close-up

Sure, but the OP herself has control of the image so presumably she wouldn'teven think of sharing if she wasn't happy herself with what's visible.

I think she clarified no nipple is visible for example (?)

I've taken pictures of my baby bfing and I can get an angle of his face without revealing much else. For clarity, I've never shared these, but I wouldn't have a problem doing so.

I breastfed my DC and look back at photos taken during nursing very fondly.

If you was selecting this image for a Christmas card for example I'd find it bizarre that it was chosen over lots of others. But as part of a photo book I see no harm. However, although I would find it lovely I would be selective about who I would gift this to as I'm sure some receivers wouldn't be so keen.

Glad you saw reason op. Its special only to you. Totally inappropriate to be sending this out assuming that everyone else will feel the same as you. Besides it will be a picture of the back of the head so what's the point of that.

God it makes me laugh how phobic people are about breastfeeding. DC will be embarrassed when older? Fuck's sake it's how children are fed. Will DC also be embarrassed when older about pictures of him with yoghurt all over his hair because that's not how he eats any more? Well, probably yes because baby pictures are inherently embarrassing. But there is no rational reason why a breastfeeding photo should be more embarrassing than a 'bath in the kitchen sink' photo or any other photo depicting activities restricted to early childhood. There is just warped societal projecting, and thta won't ever change if everyone keeps hiding breastfeeding as something 'embarrassing'.

Go ahead OP, bung it in!

I breastfed DS and have photos of it.
I breastfed in front of parents, inlaws, family, friends and out and about.
If I was making a photobook for Grandparents (and I’ve made a few) I wouldn’t include those photos because quite simply they’d like photos of their Grandchild not of my boobs! They’re not pearl clutchers, not remotely offended by my feeding but I just think it’s completely unnecessary to put that in a photo book and certainly don’t feel like their friends need to see my boobs in photos either. There’s far nicer photos of DS to include!

“DC will be embarrassed when older?”

It has nothing to do with being phobic about breastfeeding, but just how easily teenagers are embarrassed by their parents. I take it that you don’t have any teenagers?

Nearly all the photos of DD that we have have been taken by me. It never occurs to OH to take any photos of me or DD. The only ones of me and DD in hospital are because I asked OH to take some pictures. It wouldn’t have occurred to him otherwise.

I wouldn’t like a breast feeding photo in my photo album present.

Hi everyone. Just catching up with a wine.

Just to clarify, it is not an everyday boobing photo. It's kind of saucy. I only realized when I put it next to another black and white photo of my bump that it was saucy though.

You can see the baby's face. She's lying on her side. It's mostly her face on two big boob cushions.

I would post it here but a lot of people said they wouldn't want to see boob, sooo...

Hope I described it well enough

I wouldn't include photos of your naked body. Just not appropriate. I fully support breast feeding etc etc but you wouldn't get your boob out for any other reason, so it is a still a private area (in our culture). Same goes for naked bump.

To be honest I would be a bit taken aback if someone got out their boob at a restaurant table as well. I have lots of friends with young babies and they are all discreet about breast feeding when out, ie. they do it without exposing themselves. If someone wants to get out their boob for all to see in a restaurant that is fine but I don't think it's normal for breast feeding mothers to do this, therefore it may well be uncomfortable especially for older male relatives to see this sort of picture. I also wouldn't send pictures of me in beach wear to my father in law either though so maybe I am just a prude!

I've been getting my boob out everywhere to feed my baby and I would never think twice about doing so.

I printed out a load of photos of DS as a newborn and automatically sent copies to GFIL without thinking about it. Realised later just how many photos of breastfeeding/baps etc there were! He didn’t care - it’s just a natural thing and not trying to be flashy about the boobs so 🤷🏻‍♀️

It's a saucy photo?

Saucy?? umm. I’m not sure that word means what you think it means. You took sexy breastfeeding photos?! That’s a bit weird, and weirder still that you’d consider sending them to your PILs.

Yeah I mean saucy as in there's naked flesh, it's a bit artistic, all black and white and side boob.
I was all caught up in a moment of photo book developer creative madness.
When it all died down it and after wise advice of my ladies it was clear I should not include it in the book.

Mn ladies it should say but I guess my ladies also works

I personally wouldn't... As natural as it is I think it's just not needed and not something I would want to include for my parents and pils, I'm not sure they would want it either... I'd save it for my own personal one.