Breastfeeding pic

[Neoflex]

Doing a photo book of my daughter's first year. Will make a copy for us and give copies to my parents and pils for Christmas. Aibu to put a breastfeeding photo in? It's a black and white close up, mostly baby's face but also two boobs, no nips. It is a really tasteful photo that celebrates motherhood. I know my own parents won't bat an eyelid but they are also likely to want to show the book to visitors and neighbors etc.

I think we need more breastfeeding pics out there. But I don't want the book to be hidden away at the back of the cupboard because it offends my pils.

I'm guessing baby spent a good proportion of its first year breastfeeding. I don't see why you should edit that out.

I'm also guessing the baby produced a good number of full nappies in its first year too . . .

@Hillarious

I wouldn't feel comfortable with it.. I would rather keep them pics for me..
each to there own tho..

Personally I'd swap to another photo. Different scenario, but I did a DIY photobook for our wedding photos for each side of the family. It's so easy to swap images that I changed the family group shots to reflect each "side" more and personalise a thank you/dedication at the back. It'll take 30 seconds.

I'm sure both sets of grandparents have seen you BF and are pleased it's making both mum and baby happy, but they may not wish to share that with their friends or wider family when showing off their photobook of their PFBGC. That photo to you might be lovely and bring back great memories, but it might equally feel a bit intrusive to them.

No. Not appropriate.

I’m trying to think of all the zillions of things time spent bfing your child could be compared to, time spent pooing is not one of them. We photograph them sleeping, awake, eating their feet, lying one way, lying the other way - let’s face it they don’t do that much early on.
OP is it cheaper to get three identical books rather than one tailored to the individual?

Such a brilliant idea. Id love a pic of me feeding my DD but i wouldnt give one to my mum and dad, and id rather eat a raw eel than give one to my FIL (i dont know which would make me vomit more )
It really truly depends on whether they'd appreciate it. Defo have one for yourself though.

I think you should put the photo in.

If someone is offended or embarrassed by a picture of your baby feeding/eating they have a problem.

I'd be sorely tempted - if I thought someone was going to have an issue- to put a picture of a feeding calf on the page before it with the words "trigger warning"

If you bottle fed would you have felt such a need to put a pic in? Lovely for yourself but a bit cringey for the grandparents and possibly embarrassing for your dc in years to come.

As it is a book fir old people they may find it distasteful, so no.

My response sounded a bit short, sorry. I bf twins and a singleton. Have lovely pics but would be mortified to
gift those pics to older relatives. Enjoy them yourself.

Good to get everyone's opinion, especially how "it was a good idea at the time " but turned out cringeworthy later on.
I would like to have the picture somewhere but instead on something personal, alongside a picture I have of my pregnant belly. Simply because they are the positive of reminders of why my body now looks like it was run over by a truck. But get it. It's not for fil and friends.
The GPs will definitely want a photo book. She's the first and only gd, we live overseas and they don't see her much. They have a collection of these books, from my wedding, bros wedding etc. And Pils don't use technology so don't have smartphone pictures. Fil is over 80 and is amazed how we have our photos "published" the cute old fella.

Have you bf in front of them? If do, it's nothing they haven't already seen.
I have a black and white shit if me bf my Dd, framed in my bedroom. My parents have seen it, as dd ran up to get it to show them her picture. I also had it on my fb cover for a while - it was quite a discrete shot.
I also accidentally sent my parents a photo of ds, with my nipple (no boob) photobombing the bottom corner 🙈. They didn't mention it!

Ffs I need to proof read.
I do not have a black and white shit 😂.
SHOT!!

Wouldn't necessarily know it was a boob.

If you think they will wish to show the book to friends and neighbours then I'd probably leave it out, because the reality is a pic of your breast could make some folks a bit uncomfortable. And yes, likely your kids will look back and think WTAF were you thinking. 🤣

I wouldn't because those photos would be too personal to me and OH.

Black and white shit

I'm also guessing the baby produced a good number of full nappies in its first year too

Oh great, the people comparing bf with taking a shit have showed up.

I think a photo book of your babies first year is a nice idea. But perhaps not with a breast feeding photo. Not that it would offend anyone, but its just a personal thing for you and your baby, for you to look back on over the years.

Maybe I'm a prude but I have no interest in sharing photos of my pregnant belly or myself breastfeeding with anyone. Those are for DH, my children, and me. And I'm a pretty committed breastfeeder - currently feeding DC2 and both DC1 and DC2 fed for more than 12 months.

Wonderful pic for celebrating motherhood, but stop there. Its not wonderful for celebrating child or others, it belongs as part of a book of your wonderful memories of child and motherhood. Can you not do a book for you at the same time, with that, and other more personal memories, just for you as a special keepsake of that time?

Depends on the grandparent. Old hippie or nun

“RoboticMary

I did this, and now a few years later I look back and the books and wish I hadn’t! It was too personal a photo to include, and it makes me cringe a bit now to think I shared it with wider family.”

Really agree with this. I think in that newborn fug this seeems like a nice idea but when your son is 4 you’ll be wondering why on Earth you thought breastfeeding was such a big deal. It would make me cringe now too.

Ewan, sorry, but there is no question that there is a boob in that picture.