Breastfeeding pic

[Neoflex]

Doing a photo book of my daughter's first year. Will make a copy for us and give copies to my parents and pils for Christmas. Aibu to put a breastfeeding photo in? It's a black and white close up, mostly baby's face but also two boobs, no nips. It is a really tasteful photo that celebrates motherhood. I know my own parents won't bat an eyelid but they are also likely to want to show the book to visitors and neighbors etc.

I think we need more breastfeeding pics out there. But I don't want the book to be hidden away at the back of the cupboard because it offends my pils.

Wow... No wonder BF rates are so low in the UK... Breastfeeding isn't private, or equivalent to dirty nappies... Pretty certain most posters would not blink an eye at a picture of a baby with a bottle!

OP, if you like the picture and are happy then include it. I think it sounds lovely.

I wouldn't have any issue whatsoever bf anywhere, or seeing anyone else.

Bf rates are certainly not low as a result of everyone not sending pics of themselves bf to all their rellies.

This thread is throwing up some interesting contradictions.

Is there any other activity that people think is acceptable to do openly in public, but not acceptable to share a photo of?

I can't think of one off the top of my head.

@LaurieMarlow I wear a two piece at the beach but I don't have full body pictures of myself in a two piece around my house. As an example.

Would anyone bat an eyelid at a picture of someone in a two piece being included in a photo book? I know I wouldn't.

Depending on the style of the swimsuit and the cultural/religious background of the recipient - yes some people would.

I view it as an intimacy I guess.

A parallel might be to send a pic of you and your dp kissing perhaps

People to both in public all the time, absolutely nothing wrong, just feels not the same as other pics. Tbh I dont tend to send peeps pics of me in a bikini, or topless sunbathing either, but they're not contradictions, they're just appropriate settings

*do

If I ever decided to make a photo book of my son's first year my boobs would be all over it-my son was attached permanently for the first year! Having said that-you know your audience-if the pic is going to result in pearl clutching,and the book shoved in the bottom of a drawer somewhere because heaven forbid you can see your boobs in it,then don't include the pic x

Depending on the style of the swimsuit and the cultural/religious background of the recipient - yes some people would.

Presumably these people would also object to the swimsuit being worn in public in the first place.

Whereas in this case we have people saying it's fine to breastfeed in public but not fine to capture and share this in a picture.

A parallel might be to send a pic of you and your dp kissing perhaps

Yet people do this in wedding photos all the time.

Tbh I dont tend to send peeps pics of me in a bikini ... but they're not contradictions, they're just appropriate settings

Tbf I don't either. But that's because I wouldn't be comfortable with making this image public. In the OPs case she is comfortable.

If I did share a picture of myself in a bikini, I can't imagine anyone lecturing me that this image should be private and for my own private album only. Or would they?

You want to show off? Why not if you think your dc won't mind. But then you don't know that yet

No I do think they would, its a personal thing. I wouldnt, not if it was just a picture. I certainly wouldnt put it in an album to send to people, the same as I wouldnt put it on Facebook, although some would.
I do however think fb is a good place to post a statement pic on bf, and I have done that

*dont

Agree with RustyShackleford, that’s definitely a boob @Ewan. What else could it be?!

I think it's fine, I think tasteful bf photos are beautiful. Depends on the audience really, I know my parents would like to see such a pic as part of a "babies first year" photo book (they were devasted that I didn't breastfeed).

@Shriek

You missed the point.

Likening BF to changing nappies and being private makes it sound like it is something that should only be done behind closed doors.

@Butteredghost

My 3month spends so much time there... It would be odd to have no pics.

I have quite a few.

I wouldn't change a baby's nappy at the dining table...is that the point?

Ah.just reread.. Tired I think!

As for the bikini comparisons, it's a bit hard to compare baby photos to anything else. I wouldn't normally take photos of my family in just a nappy, with food on their face, sleeping, or next to a little cardboard sign saying their age in months. But these are all common baby photos.

@Shriek

I would feed a baby at the dining table. Baby needs to eat. Baby eats. So breastfeeding is something which happens publicly. Equating it to changing a nappy... Which is usually done out the way... That's weird.

@Shriek

Cross post.

I see plenty of pics of babies with bottles, or babies eating at a highchair. I just see BF in the same category.

Presumably these people would also object to the swimsuit being worn in public in the first place.

Maybe not the parents/PILs but extended family and friends that they'd want to show the photo album to.

I don't have any problem with bikinis or BF in public (I BF my children everywhere) but I just personally am not comfortable with so much of my body captured in photograph for time immemorial.