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Should I pay for this damage?

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whaaatthe · 26/11/2018 01:53

Last night I had a few friends round for drinks that I’ve known for a long time. This morning I’ve woken up to messages of a neighbour saying they have CCTV footage of 2 of the people I had round smashing their car mirror and demanding I pay for the damage. I’ve spoke to them and they are adamant they haven’t done anything and why would they, They aren’t like that whatsoever and it was just a quiet few drinks. They said they would love to see the CCTV because they know it’s not them, I’ve asked neighbour and they have said they don’t have my friends on camera damaging their car. But another neighbour has a camera that’s seen them stood outside my house? I don’t know what to do, I’ve suggested they call the police they replied that wasn’t an option you need to pay for it, as I've brought trash to my house apparently Shock like I've said I've known these people for years I certainly don't associate with people that do shit like that.

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SuchAToDo · 26/11/2018 01:56

Seal to neighbour, show them the message saying they have CCTV footage of your friends doing the damage....say until you and your friends actually see footage you and your friends won't pay a penny as there is no proof it was them,

SuchAToDo · 26/11/2018 01:57

*go to neighbour...not seal to neighbour

ILoveTreesInAutumn · 26/11/2018 02:02

Tell your neighbours not to be so bloody ridiculous, that your friends wouldn’t do that & to stop trying it on. If they carry on, tell them to take their CCTV showing you’re friends standing outside your house and see what they say...

🙄

Aquamarine1029 · 26/11/2018 02:04

Tell your neighbour to go to the police with their "proof." There is nothing you can personally do about it.

Original poster
whaaatthe · 26/11/2018 02:05

I just can't believe how they have messaged me demanding I pay and almost trying to intimidate me. The last thing I want is drama with my neighbours but all they have is 2 people stood outside my house on camera.

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Gitfeatures · 26/11/2018 02:19

I’ve suggested they call the police they replied that wasn’t an option

Presumably because the CCTV shows approximately fuck all.

steff13 · 26/11/2018 02:31

There was damage done to get car. She needs to call the police and her insurance company. I wouldn't engage any further with her.

steff13 · 26/11/2018 02:32

Her not get. 🙄

LondonLassInTheCountry · 26/11/2018 02:37

Crap!

Do not pay

Say you want to see the cctv and if you can't then you dont pay.

Tell him, if he has a problem, then to go to the police!

kateandme · 26/11/2018 02:46

start with you want to see them doing it with the proof.
then just a "no" In reply from then on.dont get emotive with them they don't deserve your time and energy. just keep saying no.
worst that can happen is they go to police and they giggle at them for wasting their time with this.and what,they come to you and you go "oh no that's awful,we didn't realise and will pay them obviously" either way they look like tits.

BlancheM · 26/11/2018 02:49

Absolutely not. How bizarrre

PrettyPurplePanda · 26/11/2018 02:54

whaaatthe Create a new email account with a strong password, message them the email requesting them to send the CCTV footage, if they refuse, it's simple, a person should never have to prove they're innocence, but a person must prove a person is guilty and they are not by not providing you with sufficient evidence against your friends.

Even if your friends did damage the car it is your friends debt to pay not you on their behalf, but it looks like your neighbor just saw some new faces and put 2 and 2 together and got bullsh*t.

You have nothing to worry about, either your neighbor is an opportunist or just simply a bit cuckoo.

ExFury · 26/11/2018 02:57

I’d want to see the CCTV to see how much of your house is caught on their cameras!

Counterpane · 26/11/2018 02:58

You have their messages claiming they have CCTV of your friends doing damage, and demanding money from you. Tell them if they don't go to the police, you will. Then do it. They are attempting to extort money and that is a criminal offence.

They sound like chancers. Nice little pre-Christmas scam to get their beer money.

AjasLipstick · 26/11/2018 03:17

Don't go to the neighbour and show them ANYTHING.

Not your problem. They have no proof of anything. They'd go to the police if they did.

Completely ignore them.

Bullnoway · 26/11/2018 03:24

Surely the point is, even if it were your guess who damaged the car, it would be them that paid. There are no circumstances in which this is remotely on you.

ApolloandDaphne · 26/11/2018 03:24

Tell them you are absolutely not paying for anything. If they believe you friends have damaged their car they can go to the police and their insurance people with their 'evidence'.

MrsFoxPlus4 · 26/11/2018 03:27

Tell them you’ll go to the police yourself

KeiTeNgeNge · 26/11/2018 03:28

I’d ask to see the cctv of this other neighbour. I wouldn’t pay without proof, and if there was proof my friends would be stumping up the cash

Bluerussian · 26/11/2018 03:55

Tell your neighbour to go to the police who will see all the CCTV and pictures, will interview your friends and come to the conclusion that there is no proof (& most likely think your friends are innocent). It isn't your fault anyway, your neighbours are being unreasonable.

Monty27 · 26/11/2018 03:59

Tell them to report it to the police and their car insurance ppl. Fecking trying it on they are Angry

Labradoodliedoodoo · 26/11/2018 03:59

Tell them you need proof of the incident. Of course they were stood outside your house because they they had just visited you. You’ll happily get them to pay if guilty

CanuckBC · 26/11/2018 04:04

No CCTV no pay. I wouldn’t pay either way in all honesty. It’s not your responsibility. I would call the police and report their extortion attempts. See what they say.

LoudJazzHands · 26/11/2018 04:21

Are you in Lowestoft, OP?
I've read a similar thing from the other POV on a FB group.

flumpybear · 26/11/2018 04:21

Tell them to either prove it or you'll report them to the police for harassment if you hear another word from them and you're keeping all the evidence of their harassment

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