DH left me at the hospital

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Woke up early hours of Saturday with lower abdo pain. Spent 6 hours in A&E last night. Finally discharged at 0330. Never really settled and still in pain (sharp stabbing) so asked DH to bring me back to A&E. We have DD(5yo), only child. I asked him to come with me (I was alone overnight as DD at home asleep), no other local relatives to help or come and keep me company. Anyway, he’s told me he’s not staying aaa he doesn’t want to sit in A&E with DD! If it were him (and it has been in the past, dislocated shoulder then surgery) there’s not question I would sit with him with DD and keep him company.

I feel like i don’t matter to him. I’m a grown adult and capable of sitting in A&E by myself but I’d asked for his support and i don’t feel I’ve got it.

He’s not a bad husband. Can be a bit selfish at times but we loveeach other very much. It just seems like everything is too much trouble.

I’m in pain, not slept for over 24 hrs other than cat naps, tearful and scared. AIBU?

Thank you so much to all of you for the well wishes! I’ve had a very long hot bath and I’m starting to feel a bit less uncomfortable. Still having some sharp pains. I know I was BU and I agree I think I just felt a bit neglected. He’s eaten my brownie out of love apparently so I don’t have to see it there whilst I can’t eat 😂. Omg! I’m so hungry-the fat girl in me (im chunky but funky) is really In need of some dinner. Never mind I will enjoy my supper lol ❤️

I'm with you OP for the pure reason that you'd done the same for him so why the hell can't he do the same for you?!

You sat in A&E with him and you had your 5 year old DD with you so why can't he do the bloody same?

It shouldn't be one rule for how he's treated by you and then a completely different rule for how he gets to treat you.

How's that equal or fair?I can't believe some of the replys you've had on here!

I hope your feeling alot better soon

I'm glad you've got some answers OP but sorry that's what it is,my Mum had that and I know it wasn't nice.

Take care of yourself and I hope your meds start kicking in soon.

Hope you feel better soon OP Agree that A+E is not a great place for a little one though my own kids have been to children's A+E many times and seen/heard some distressing things. He could have stayed with you for just half an hour just to give a bit of moral support. It's shit when you feel like you don't matter.

I'm sorry you don't feel well. But juts because you would put your husband above your child's comfort and have her sit in a scabby A&E to support him and gaze adoringly, doesn't mean he has to. I wouldn't want a young child out at night, and in fact it irks me when the whole family turn up with tired kids for one adult who isn't acutely u well- always struck me as a tad selfish. It sucks you still have pain, it sucks you're probably tired and emotional, but no. He is being very reasonable by declining to stay.

That sounded much harsher than I'd actually anticipated- I'm sorry about that. I'm glad you're home and a diagnosis, I'm sorry you were feeling vulnerable and alone, and hubby did make the right decision- although he really should have some understanding/knowledge of your medical conditions- that seems a bit selfish of him not to.

Yes "gaze adoringly" was a step too far

I want to say "of course I would send my husband and child home" but let's face it, I have no idea if I actually would be that grown up if I was scared and in pain. Glad you know what it is and have appropriate meds. I hope you feel better soon.