Morning drinking

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I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

Not read all this thread, but personally I believe it’s all to do with perception. What OP is doing is no worse than doing the same thing in the evening.
I used to live in Australia, sharing a house on the beach with several doctors. One used to arrive after a night shift and sit on the beach drinking a beer from a can. Anyone walking past may have thought he was a drunk or homeless. He was actually just enjoying a beer after work and before bed.

Sorry, somehow left out it was around 8am.

I think it's odd, but having thought about it, only because of the time of day and drinking on your own.

Ninjawife when I worked nights occasionally I would go to an early bar with a Co worker. We were unwinding after a difficult shift. We would have 2 and go home. But that's entirely different. Firstly, our body clocks were topsy turvy. It WAS out evening time. Secondly, it was specific to that context, when we had days off we did not drink during the day at all.

Actively choosing to drink from 10am at home alone the best part of a bottle of wine to "relax" is something else.

Posters who think that drinking in the morning is unusual have obviously never had breakfast in Wetherspoons.

This is a very interesting thread OP, I used to finish work at lunchtime and occasionally would have a few glasses of wine in the afternoon whilst watching TV and chilling out alone. I would never drink in the evening afterwards, never wanted to. I've never upped my drinking, in fact the opposite, and never been secretive. I don't enjoy social drinking at all, I like to keep my wits about me in public.

I think you're a responsible drinker OP, not someone who's glugging it down mindlessly, but someone who actually tastes it and enjoys it. Can't see a problem.

OP

You have a problem. You know it. You changed your user name so no history because you knew that this was not a lighthearted thread and knew what the response was going to be.

You simply hoped, clutching at straws, that may be we would have made you think this was ok and normal behaviour.

My mother died of alcoholism. I know what I’m talking about

I would say that it is a sign of a person with a drink problem.

What would you do if you got a phone call to come and collect a sick child from school if you've been drinking?

OK if you stay within NHS daily & weekly limits,
say 1-2 glasses daily and keep 3 days without alcohol

Culturally unusual in the UK to drink in the morning, but not so unusual on the continent:

I live by the Rhine path, in Germany
The cafe along the way does delicious weekend breakfasts from 9 am which include optionally a glass of prosecco.
Packed with people, sitting with a glass, looking out over the Rhine, watching the boats go by
Delightful

I choose fresh orange juice instead, as I rarely drink, but nothing "wrong" preferring a glass of wine

Elspeth has articulated brilliantly why this isn't the same as having a drink after a run of nights (only ever after the last nightshift)

I thought from the thread title that you were going to say that you had a drop of whiskey in your tea in the morning as older generations did. However you are drinking quite a lot of wine starting early. You say that you only do it every four or five days but if you are drinking 14 units a week that means that you have a lot in one you which isn't health anyway but if it is in the morning it must make you really lethargic. The fact that you say you feel "groggy" in the morning if you have it in the evening also suggests that you have too much. I think that you have a problem.

As a (very early days) recovering alcoholic myself, I’d say the fact you’re even asking coupled with the fact you’ve spent time figuring out and optimizing you’re best drinking time means you probably do or are on your way to having an issue with drink.

Alcoholism is usually a process, nobody set up camp on a park bench or door way intentionally. It’s like a lift and up to you what floor you get off.

I guess it doesn’t in theory matter. But I have 4 children and quite often get called into school as one has been sick/said they had a headache/trapped their finger/period pain and being sick (this is what has happened in the past year). Maybe I’m unlucky but given that probability on one of those days you would be over the limit to go and get them if that was you and how would you explain that? Yes, it could happen in the evening but if you needed to go to minor injuries in a taxi at 9pm would, I imagine, not be really noticed but turning up to school at 11.30am in a taxi because you were over the limit may lead to someone reporting you as a safety precaution?? That’s why I wouldn’t do it, your drinking itself isn’t too much it’s just an odd time imo.

I go to bed around 10.

Again. I don't do it to relax. I suppose it did sound like that. I do it when I am relaxing. I'm fairly relaxed when the evening comes even if I haven't had wine, which is why I don't need to have anything 4 or 5 days out of 7.

Can anyone else here who has a few drinks answer me a question--why do you drink? Is it to help you relax, do you like the buzz e.t.c? If you are not getting any kind of buzz / something from it then why not drink alcohol free. Becks blue is very nice, some of the others not so much.

Op, I can see you've marginally changed how much you drink. You start off by saying around 16 units a week, and once sometimes twice, and then you move to 14 as soon as someone posts that's the recommended limit, but you also move to it is always two days a week.

Only you know how much youre drinking and how honest you're being here, what you want to admit to, but no, starting drinking at 10 am isn't healthy. And then stopping before anyone gets home and not drinking in front of them, not being honest about when you start drinking.

If you have a problem then don't look for people on here to validate it, based on lies. If indeed you are only drinking less than a bottle and a half of wine a week, then yes the timing is irrelevant. Odd but irrelevant,if you need a bottle of wine to get you through the day, then yes you have a problem.

which is why I don't need to have anything 4 or 5 days out of 7

And now you've moved to possibly three days a week.

Op, only you know the truth here.

I can totally see your logic and I would love to do this as a treat one day.In fact I think I might!

Why do you need a drink to relax first thing? I couldnt stomach alcohol at that time. I just have a cup of coffee and some toast if i want to relax.

Some of these responses are hilarious. I bet most of you telling the op she's an alcoholic ect are the ones who drink a whole bottle every night, but because you wait until 6pm, that's absolutely fine.

Op, as long as you aren't craving alcohol or doing this every day, you're fine. I say this as someone who hardly ever drinks.

Do you drive, OP?? I'm presuming not.

For me, it would be wrong to drink that early in the day as it's a way of getting away from yourself. If you want to think less clearly when you're on your own, that's a warning sign.

I see alcohol as a way of winding down after a day, or a way of giving a boost to social occasions. Maybe solo drinking on a special day or when out in a particular place etc. So champagne at a fancy breakfast would be ok, or a Bloody Mary for a hangover.

What you're doing is making your days a bit hazier. That's not relaxing, it's avoiding thinking clearly because something is making you unhappy. Why not try to stop it for a few weeks or months, then you'll work out if it is a problem or not?

My usual view is that that drinking alone in the afternoon / evening is ok (e.g wine with lunch or dinner). And drinking socially in the morning is ok (e.g weddings).
But if one finds oneself drinking alone in the morning, there's a problem.
That said if it's once a week and you could go without it's unconventional but probably fine...

As a SAHM who loves a glass of wine or three too much and can easily polish off a bottle, no I couldn't drink at 10 in the morning when they're at school and DH is at work. That's not a road I want to go down, sounds a slippery one to me.

I don't drink, I don't like the taste and I'm not interested in socialising with drunk people. That's abnormal, but I don't care what other people think.

It doesn't matter if what you are doing is considered abnormal by others as long as you're not hurting other people or yourself. If you are sure you're not lying to yourself or trying to justify your drinking habits, then it's all fine, don't worry.

Drinking a whole bottle a night isn’t ok either

I don’t drink much, only a couple on the weekends or socially and still don’t think it’s ok