Morning drinking

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I'm curious to know thoughts on this. I'm completely okay with it but interested to see what people think.

Once and sometimes twice a week at 10am I will crack open a bottle of wine and have 2 or 3 glasses over a few hours. I'll Read, catch up on some tv and other stuff and just relax and enjoy.

I do this because this is the only time I get to myself while the kids are in school and before everyone gets home around 4. I don't drink in the evening or at the weekends. Probably having around 16 units a week.

I know if I was to tell anyone this they'd think I had a problem and needed a drink first thing in the morning, but I don't.It's about 4 or 5 days before I'll have a glass of wine again since the last one.

What are you're thoughts?

Why do people drink wine then or drink at all. Why not drink a nice alcohol free drink that is just as good?

I'm not drinking to relax. I can relax without wine but yes I do enjoy that nice little buzz I get. I am relaxing whilst drinking wine.

I dont drink alcohol at all but I dont see the problem. Some people have a cooked breakfast and a sandwich for main meal, I think thats back to front to what I do, but it is still normal. Surely its what you do over 24 hours that count? Who wrote the rule that says drinking alcohol or eating certain things is an evening only pursuit?
OP if you had evenings to yourself, say if you were single with no kids, would you do this in the evening?

Some people enjoy the taste of it. So what. It's hardly shooting heroin.

I agree.

But someone upthread said you shouldn't be drinking in order to get a buzz. But if people didn't enjoy the buzz from wine surely we'd all just be drinking tea?

I have no problem with someone drinking alone. As pp says if you’re a single parent you can have the odd glass at home like other people

It’s purely the 10am or during the day timing, I don’t think it’s good

I think it's the fact that you regularly do this not a one off or a occasional treat like a boozy lunch with a friend would be .
Your argument that your not going over your weekly limit and you go days without a drink so yes you are unlikely to cause any damage. The thing with alcohol is the pattern you take start drinking at 10 am is very early. I admit I have a couple of glasses in the evening usually after 9pm then I'm in bed if I drank any earlier I wouldn't get anything done . But yes as others have said it would be a cause for concern if you were called into school at 1pm after a couple of glasses of wine . Your argument that if you met a friend for boozy lunch is ok no that would be a concern too if it was regularly done .
I'd maybe cut it down if it's once or twice be careful it's not 3 or 4 times a week .
If it was a post saying I occasionally have 1 glass of wine in the day I don't think anyone would be concerned it's the fact you are having the best part of a bottle of wine from 10am so just take care .

It shouldn't matter that it's 10 am (not least when she gets up at 5 am) rather than 8 pm but the reaction on here shows why she probably doesn't advertise to her partner that it's 10 am and not 12pm. Actually, the earlier she starts, the more time she has to process the booze out of her system.

Most people who have a drink after work now and again do it because they have had a stressful day and it helps them relax and wind down. What are you doing between 5am and 8am that winds you up enough to makes you feel the need to relax again?

And why ARE you getting up at 5am if you don’t have to be out at work early? 3 hours is a very long time by anyone’s standards to need to get ready for the day.

And you say you don’t get any time to yourself any other time? What does this mean? most people who do drink are happy to do it in front of others? I feel like you want to be a bit secretive if you only want to do it when no-one else is there.

I am happy to drink alone, DH is Away a lot and I work full time in a stressful job. I like a gin and tonic or a glass of wine As I’m preparing dinner and might have another one wirh my meal. My kids are early teens and see me doing this. I don’t feel like I can’t drink because they are there?

I don’t get the link between “only time I get time to myself” and drinking alcohol.

It’s quite concerning overall. You just don’t sound very happy in all honesty.

Ooh. I work from home and I also paint as a hobby, which I tend to do with a glass of wine on at least one of the days.

But if people didn't enjoy the buzz from wine surely we'd all just be drinking tea?

DECAF tea.

It's a bit mad to think it's ok to drink in the evenings because you are stressed but not ok to drink in the daytime because you enjoy the buzz

To be honest I'm not sure.

Would it be OK if I was doing vodka shots for breakfast but I didn't go over the recommended weekly unit allowance? I don't drink, so I don't really know.

I personally think what matters is the whole feel of it, why you're doing it, not some rules about time of day, on your own or not, etc. What about people who live on their own, they will be lone drinking by default if they have wine with their evening meal once a week.

You could try cutting it out for a few weeks and see what happens. If you can't cope or you really crave it to the point you give in despite not wanting to, I'd say that's more indicative of a problem. Personally I'm not sure time of day makes any difference just evening drinking has become more normalised.

My question is OP, why alcohol? Why does it need to be alcohol for said relaxing mornings.

If you're not drunk, and you aren't doing it for the alcohol effects, then why are you choosing alcohol?

You know OP, I supported you but with that last comment, I'm beginning to wonder if you're goading people. Quite honestly, your replies say you're totally ok with it, which begs the question 'why are you posting?'

I am thinking it would be nice to do this while wraping presents or something like that, not a weekly thing.
And knowing my luck the first time i did it would be when school called and askd me to collect a sick dc.

You work from home and you’re drinking while working?

This is sounding worse and worse.

It’s worrying. I’m sorry if I sound patronising or sanctimonious.

You are coming across quite defensive.

I don't think the odd drink to relax is bad in a morning but you don't seem to be relax equally with a cup of tea. This makes me feel think you are more reliant on alcohol than you want to believe.

It's a strange drinking pattern to most people, but it's not excessive quantities so it wouldn't worry me too much tbh.

I drink in the mornings on special occasions - Christmas (Bailey's while I have a bath with my new smellies) and maybe prosecco on the train for a day out in London with my sisters.

I'm pretty happy. (DRUNK MOST OF TH TIME ) Usual amount of worries and stress. Lovely kids and partner, good school. Can't complain but I like to. Third world problems and all that.

I'm up early as I can't just jump out of bed and I do a few hours work in the morning.

eh? Fruitshot - you can enjoy the taste of wine and the gentle relaxing effect of alcohol without getting drunk. Just like you an enjoy the gentle stimulation and taste from an espresso without needing to give yourself the jitters.

When I had PND I often considered cracking open a bottle of wine at 10am, never did it though.

I dunno, it feels wrong but logically I don't see anything wrong with what your doing OP. And I find MN is really anti alcohol generally so probably not the best place to ask.

Also what's this about lone drinking being against the rules? I love a glass of wine after the kids are in bed while DH is at work. I watch whatever I want on tv, enjoy a nice glass of wine and relax. Pretty much what you do OP but at a different time of the day.

I've only read your first post OP. I can't see a problem with it. Who the heck came up with rule that no alcohol should be consumed before 1pm or whatever. Some people are so restrictive with their behaviour. For no good reason as far as I'm concerned. I usually get up in the early hours, so 10am is lunchtime for me

I never said I drink while working. I never have. Not even sure where you got that from.

This thread has made me say yes when just offered wine.

You’re a bad influence, OP!

Iv been known to do this. If I have nowhere to be and kids at dads. I get up early and might have been awake 5 hours by 10am. If I drink at night I don't sleep and feel ill in the morning.

Sometimes I read a book, relax, get some of my fave music on and do a bit of pottering jobs / ironing and a good film. and have a few drinks, later might make some food or walk up to the Chinese.

I'm not talking daily here and obviously never when I'm going to drive etc.

About once a month I meet a friend, we have a dog walk to a pub, lunch with about the same number of drinks, and walk home again.

Is this more acceptable because...?

My father would be utterly horrified and think this is a serious matter 🤔 tho he puts away a bottle of wine and shorts each and every evening without any exceptions...

Bbcessex Just say no. It's not wine o'clock yet