To expect neighbours to come and collect their missed parcels?

[DiamondMine]

One of our neighbours orders a lot of stuff online (fair enough, so do we) however, they are out all day at work (again, fair enough) DP works shifts so is often around in the mornings when post/ parcels are being delivered. They always ask us to sign for them and then they pop a note through their door.

However, every bloody time they never come over to collect, we always have to bring their parcels round to them. Ive just arrived home from work, DP is at work and obviously signed for some parcels for said neighbours as there are 4 (quite big) boxes here and an ASOS bag.

WIBU to not go back out again tonight in the pissing rain and cold and just wait to see if they bother to come and collect?

AIBU? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind popping people's missed post round on the odd occasion but I’m not bloody Royal Mail and I’m inclined to think if it’s your parcel, it’s your responsibility to collect?

It’s taking up a lot of space in the hallway too

In the interests of all being neighbourly to each other, just pop a note through their door telling them to pick up their parcels and give them a convenient time.

Becuase you've always done it and never complained, I think it's a bit U to just stop. They aren't mind readers and may be thinking that you prefer to pop over rather than risk interrupting you when it's not convenient (or whatever, I'm sure there is some logic in their minds as to why they don't collect immediately).

So I'd recommend saying we need you to come pick up day of delivery, other wise we'll have to stop signing for your packages as we don't have the space to store them.

You take their parcels round to them, thereby giving them zero incentive to fetch them. Don’t moan that you’re delivering their parcels, nobody makes you.

I've only ever taken parcels in for one neighbour - an elderly woman that had some serious medical problems and couldn't always get to the door or was at appointments. Sadly, she has now passed away. I refuse to take in parcels for anyone else. It's too much hassle.

Clarification - I was happy to take the elderly woman's parcels in. She was lovely. But I don't want to take in parcels for anyone else, as it's inconvenient (and one of my neighbours is awful and I refuse to deal with them).

I usually get stuff delivered to work but a couple of times it's come to the house and a neighbour has taken it in. I leave the house at 7am and am often not home til around 10pmish if I go out after work so it can be a few days until I am able to call round. I do feel bad but people aren't always about.

Nothing to do with the thread - but that's a beautiful tabby point @limitedperiodonly

We've been owned by had two tabby points now. The current one is 15 and now a grande dame, being kept young by the two lilac point boys that we got to keep her company.

Going back to the point of the thread: we take regularly in things for our downstairs' neighbours and vice versa but we get on well and are always considerate to each other. If these neighbours aren't even polite to you, in future I'd refuse the deliveries - and tell your dp to do the same.

I think you're getting overly stressed by it tbh. I wouldn't take the stuff round and for now on if it stresses you this much make sure your husband knows not to take in parcels.

No need for ultimatums or time limits.

I never take in parcels now because of this. I just can't be bothered to chase people to come and get them when I'm trying to go about my day to day things.

Put a note through their door saying it's still with you and unless they come and collect it by such and such time, you'll be sending it back to the depot. Also add you will no longer take them in.

If you are good enough to take parcels in for them they should have the courtesy to get off their backsides and collect from you.

If they consistently expect you to run around after them then iiwu I'd refuse to take them in any more. It may seem petty but you're being taken for a ride.

I take in parcels for my neighbours but not in that quantity. I often have to take them round but it's not frequent enough for us to fall out over.

I watched our lovely Hermes lady trying to deliver to a house across the road today. She knocked twice. Waited for plenty of time. Wrote a card. Left parcel in a safe place (although I'd seen where ) and went on her way.

They were in as I could see the kids looking out of the window!!

We have the same issue! We've signed for a canny few parcels for the neighbours, often big ones that take up space in our little conservatory so take them round after a few days, but no one ever answers! Then they'll pop round late on an evening when we're settling down, having tea etc. So now I just tell the posty sorry we can't sign for them, problemo solvered

I'm constantly ordering parcels online, and most of the time I won't be in for the delivery (although with DPD there's an option to pick a timeslot sometimes which is a godsend). My NDN on either side are really great and normally take them in.

BUT, if I know i'll be getting a lot of parcels, I always tick the 'DO NOT DELIVER TO A NEIGHBOUR' box....and still, everytime, the driver delivers to a neighbour.

I can't have deliveries made to my office, and I have zero time to shop in the city. So unfortunately some people have no option but to shop online.

I don’t like going to collect as I always start worrying it’s an inconvenient time - are they eating? On the toilet? Sleeping? Whereas if they come to me it doesn’t matter if they come at an inconvenient time as they are already doing me a favour.

I would put them out of the way somewhere, wait for neighbors to collect them and then tell them that you are not taking parcels in for them anymore, so don’t leave delivery instructions to that effect anymore

I don’t like going to collect as I always start worrying it’s an inconvenient time - are they eating? On the toilet? Sleeping?

Who has the spare headspace or the energy to worry this much about things like this?

If it IS an inconvenient time they either won't answer or they'll come to the door looking slightly hassled. You might apologise, they might apologise, you'll have a very British awkwardly polite exchange and off you go with your parcel.

I'm sure I've knocked for neighbours at bad times, and they've certainly done so for me, but we're still all on the same friendly/nodding/whatever terms and we have not yet had WW3 on our street

Pretty crazy logic to worry so much about inconveniencing someone by ringing their doorbell when they are otherwise engaged, and instead inconvenience them much more by making them step over a bloody great parcel in their hall till you pluck up the courage to collect it!

Wen we lived in a fff, the neighbour across the road had a bike delivered but they were out, we took the fucking thing in only to discover they were away on their hols so in sat in our small hallway for over a fortnight.
Hey ho.

I will take any parcels in for all our neighbours except one. Another one didn't come for theirs so I took them over more than once . Last time I decided I wasn't going to take it for them and would check the postman put a card through and ask for another card to be posted. They finally got the parcel five days later (before I saw postie again. )

Why say if they are missing parcels check with you? Talk about pathetic passive aggressive.

Stop taking the parcels in! If they can't even be bothered to smile in your direction and are unfriendly, why are you bending over backwards to help them?

Sod that, by all means take them in but wait for them to come and get them. They'll soon be over!

I take in parcels for my neighbours and they do it for me, but I did have to have a stern word with my next door neighbour once. He started having stuff delivered regularly to our house and not picking it up or answering the door when I knew he was in. I finally collared him after three weeks to let him know we had one of his parcels. His response? "I know"! He then went to get in his car and drive off but stopped when I stood in front of it with the parcel in my hand and a raised eyebrow on my face. He has them delivered to his mum now (And I got a box of chocolates as an apology lol).

We live in a block of six and are the only house where one of us is in all day apart from dog walks. We call ourselves the Mill Cottages sorting office. We always expect parcels to be collected from us. When I take a delivery I always say yes I will, but only if you put a card through their door. It then sits there until it's collected. No way am I trotting round (almost) daily with parcels.

Good evening. HUGE APOLOGIES for intruding on the post but I would like to post something and for the life of me can not work out how to. Thank you lovelies