Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Original poster

To expect neighbours to come and collect their missed parcels?

175 replies

DiamondMine · 20/11/2018 16:45

One of our neighbours orders a lot of stuff online (fair enough, so do we) however, they are out all day at work (again, fair enough) DP works shifts so is often around in the mornings when post/ parcels are being delivered. They always ask us to sign for them and then they pop a note through their door.

However, every bloody time they never come over to collect, we always have to bring their parcels round to them. Ive just arrived home from work, DP is at work and obviously signed for some parcels for said neighbours as there are 4 (quite big) boxes here and an ASOS bag.

WIBU to not go back out again tonight in the pissing rain and cold and just wait to see if they bother to come and collect?

AIBU? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind popping people's missed post round on the odd occasion but I’m not bloody Royal Mail and I’m inclined to think if it’s your parcel, it’s your responsibility to collect?

It’s taking up a lot of space in the hallway too

OP posts:

PinkBuffalo · 20/11/2018 17:13

I have also been the neighbour not collecting when I didn't gave anything to say the parcel had been delivered. I now have a box through the side gate and a notice on the front door saying please can all parcels be left in box through side gate. They can then padlock gate from the outside. Works much better as I felt awful at my poor very elderly neighbour feeling obliged.

Amazonian27 · 20/11/2018 17:14

Ooh dear round here we all take in each other’s parcels and it varies whether we each collect them or deliver them etc. I wouldn’t get worked up about it. Sometimes I have gone round to neighbours to try to redeliver parcels and they haven’t been home (a couple of times) or to try to collect our parcels and neighbours have been out. I wouldn’t get worked up about it. If you think they are being CF’s you can always refuse to take parcels in for them life’s too short for agro.

Original poster

DiamondMine · 20/11/2018 17:15

Well I asked DP that last time and he said the post man went back over, wrote one of the little note things & posted it through their letterbox so I assume they know? I’ll take them over tomorrow and say that, as they probably know, we take in a lot of parcels for them so if they’re missing parcels please check with us!

OP posts:

Oysterbabe · 20/11/2018 17:15

They expect you to drop them round now as you have been doing. Why don't you say when you take them round that you'd prefer if they'd come and collect them? Maybe they don't want to disturb you so think it's better that you pop them round when it suits you.
Most problems on this site could be solved by having a conversation.

Original poster

DiamondMine · 20/11/2018 17:18

The thing is they’re really not very friendly or approachable Whenever I see them I smile and say hello (or try) but they just avoid eye contact or give me a dirty look, get in their car & drive off etc

OP posts:

HoleyCoMoley · 20/11/2018 17:20

I,think you are being very generous, I would stop taking them in if they have a card from postie and still don't bother coming over. They can find an alternative collection, we put a note to say put in the box which we leave out when we're expecting something.

wwwwwwwwwwwwww · 20/11/2018 17:20

I find this weird. If it bothers you or you don't have space don't sign for them.

Leeds2 · 20/11/2018 17:22

I would put them in the garage, so that they are out of your way, and wait for them to come and collect. And then refuse to take anymore!

My next door neighbour has probably taken in two parcels for me over the past year. She has emailed me to say that she has them, and when she will be in for the rest of the day. As soon as I got the email, I went round to collect, which I think is the polite thing to do.

percheron67 · 20/11/2018 17:22

Diamond. I had this problem with newish neighbours. I stopped taking in their post.

Seafour · 20/11/2018 17:25

Go round and tell them you have some parcels of theirs, go home and wait for them to collect them. Going forward either don't take in the parcels, ask them to collect them promptly or take a contact number and drop them a text saying "please collect your parcel, it's on the doorstep"

Lizzie48 · 20/11/2018 17:26

I regularly get asked to take in deliveries for our neighbours to our left, they have sometimes waited to be picked up for several days. I've started to say no, something I've never found easy to do. But I have 2 DDs and 4 cats and I got sick of having to keep parcels safe from being knocked over and damaged.

sackrifice · 20/11/2018 17:30

I’ll take them over tomorrow and say that, as they probably know, we take in a lot of parcels for them so if they’re missing parcels please check with us!

What are you their staff?

Stop it. Just let them come and ask for them themselves, and next time tell your partner to not take the bloody things in.

ScienceIsTruth · 20/11/2018 17:30

We have neighbours that live opposite us (but 3 doors down) that did this all the time. It really started to get on my nerves, especially as I'm also in poor health, so struggle walking and lifting heavy things, etc.
I've now stopped taking things in for them as they're unfriendly too and I was sick of being their postman.

OTOH, I've left a parcel at someone's house for several days before, as the delivery guy hadn't put a note through my door so I wasn't even aware it had already been delivered.

Mitzimaybe · 20/11/2018 17:31

we waited 4 days once, they weren’t on holiday, were coming and going all the time etc and after 4 days...

After 4 days when you know they've been home but not come to collect, put a note through their door saying you will charge £10 per parcel per day storage.

BikeRunSki · 20/11/2018 17:32

I have the opposite problem. PO say a neighbour has my parcel. Neighboyr’s lights are on, but there is a high fence round their garden with a locked fence. They’ve had my parcel since Saturday, i’ve been round twice a day for 4 days and can’t get near the front door to knock. I can see that there is somebody in!

CheeseTheDay · 20/11/2018 17:36

We have this with one of our current neighbours (who moved into her house five months ago). There is a parcel for her, sitting in our hallway right now, that has been there for a whole week now.

DH popped a polite note through the door on Sunday, telling her that she really needs to collect the parcel by Thursday at the latest, as we're moving on Friday. Now we're actually only moving a mile up the road, to a neighbouring village, so really not far. However, she doesn't know we're only moving 'up the road', so we thought she might read it and assume we're moving away, and rush over to get it. Nope. It still fucking sits here.

I think I'll politely warn the new owners of our current home, not to take in parcels for, as she takes the piss.

PepsiLola · 20/11/2018 17:47

Can you tell your post man you are no longer accepting deliveries as they are not collecting them from you?

Vampiratequeen · 20/11/2018 17:51

Keep hold of them for a few days if they do t come and collect return the parcels.

HeebieJeebies456 · 20/11/2018 17:53

The thing is they’re really not very friendly or approachable..Whenever I see them I smile and say hello (or try) but they just avoid eye contact or give me a dirty look, get in their car & drive off etc

Yet you and DP are the fools who keep accepting their parcels!
Some people just never learn....

smallchanceofrain · 20/11/2018 17:56

I refuse to take in parcels for one neighbour because I once waited nearly 4 weeks for her to collect some. I walked down to her house to try & deliver them every day. Sometimes she appeared to be in but didn't answer the door. When she eventually collected them she said she hadn't needed them any sooner because they were Christmas presents. I explained that my house is not a storage facility. The downside of refusing to accept parcels for her is that some couriers can be quite rude about it.

Starlight345 · 20/11/2018 18:00

gosh if they aren't even nice. I would refuse.. At least you won't have to deliver them.

Justanothernameonthepage · 20/11/2018 18:05

Stay in tonight. If it's dry tomorrow, drop a note round saying you've got their parcels but it's too much for you to carry round. If they don't pick up in 24 hour (and you know they are there, pop in note no2 and say you'll be leaving them in your front garden from Friday so they don't have to worry about catching you at home.

cheesefield · 20/11/2018 18:05

If it's constantly the same neighbour and they're not even friendly to you why don't you just refuse to take the parcels in?

Returnofthesmileybar · 20/11/2018 18:10

Hang on a second, they aren't even friendly? Stop taking them, dump those parcels you have on them tomorrow and then start saying no to couriers, fuck that for a game of cowboys, they are taking you for a mug

Flowerpot2005 · 20/11/2018 19:14

The solution is very simple...stop taking them in & next time courier knocks with a delivery for them, politely ask them not to knock again.

The neighbours will need to go & collect from the sorting office or rearrange delivery. This really isn't your problem, it's theirs.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Swipe left for the next trending thread