Is sending a selfie of yourself in A&E to a group chat of friends is a bit..... odd?

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DHs mate sentence a photo of himself in a hospital bed after taking himself to A&E..and then followed up the photo with “they’re taking me into resus”
This mate is diabetic (insulin dependant) so can be unwell.
He was feeling unwell, and took himself in, and apparently they’re concerned with his breathing and are taking him in the resus. Despite being conscious and well enough to send and respond to messages?
But now mate hasn’t responded for 30 minutes
Now DH is in a flat panic and has zoomed off to the hospital, despite me saying a) he can’t have been that bad, as he was sending the messages. B) he’s probably being looked at by nurses/doctors/whatever’s c) the hospital won’t let him in to see his mate, as he’s not family

DH went anyway saying “”phew hasn’t got any family “

Now. The harsh bitch in me thinks this is a huge attention seeking activity.

What are your thoughts?

The group chat is of around 10 guys all mates through a shared hobby

Attention seeking.... Which he has now got. Worked pretty well didn't it?

Your DH sounds like a good guy. It does sound a bit attention seeking but if he doesn’t have family maybe his friends are who he reaches out to?

Not odd at all. He's looking for a handhold though, rather than expecting anyone to race to join him.

In mumsnet land it’s crass and unheard of but in the real world people do send selfies everywhere. My sister sent our group chat of herself off her tits in gas and air when she was in labour. It was actually an hilarious selfie to be fair.

His mate is probably a bit worried and half hoping someone does volunteer to come and be with him if he has no family. I think it's nice your dh has gone.

Afaik they will put people who need close observation in resus, it is t just for actual resuscitation.

Plus people who are having blood sugar issues may sometimes act out of character so it might be that he wouldn't normally consider posting selfies from a&e but because he's unwell he's not in the best frame of mind so is doing? I would cut him some slack.

If he has no family maybe he just wanted to make sure someone knew where he was just in case. I don't it's that unusual to tell someone if you're going into hospital.

I agree with Nico he probably was hoping somebody would come and be with him. Your DH sounds sweet (unless this is a regular occurance)

Do you maybe think he was on his own, scared, but didn’t want to ask directly for help or company. For fear of being called a wimp, or not wanting to put upon people or something?

Your dh has gone, and good on him.

Probably best to say nowt

You'll look a right tit if he dies

If he has no family. He was probably looking to friends for reassurance.

He has no family and sent his friends a picture from the hospital. I don't see anything wrong with it.

In mumsnet world no one is ever truly sick unless they are unconscious and incapable of posting on social media. In real life plenty of people with chronic illnesses (myself included) can be extremely unwell but the reality is being in hospital involves a lot of waiting about and a lot of times when nothing much is happening. If it makes people feel better to post selfies or whatever else on social media does it really matter? Why the need to judge?

Personally I hate hospital selfies.

Don't see the harm in him not replying for a while. But your dp is obviously kind wanting to see him.

Your DH is a lovely person, you should be proud of him. He has no family and no one to go and be with him in hospital so in a very normal human way he's reaching out to share with his closest network.

Totally normal.

He sent a flare out and hoped someone would respond. Good for your DH. I think it is in no way odd to want someone with you in those circumstances. Hope he is ok-seeing a friendly and familiar face hopefully will help.

My Dad is an insulin dependent diabetic and he can be massively unpredictable if his sugar levels are too high or too low.

I think your DH sounds a really nice friend.

He was probably bored and lonely. People can be well enough to use their phone while also unwell enough to be in resus I've seen it happen on casualty. I was reading facebook, playing games etc on my phone in hdu when my youngest was born. Not posting or texting though, I couldn't type properly because of the morphine.

Also your DH sounds nice. It's nice for men to have such close friends who they can rely on when sick/worried.

He doesn’t have any family so sent a message to his friends, who will be his closest support network. I don’t really get the constant need for selfies either but for many people it is completely normal and sending one isn’t a concern but the lack of contact is.

If a friend of mine, who had no family, was ill in hospital, then I would go to do what I could to help them. Unless he is lying, he quite clearly is ill or else he wouldn’t have been going to resus.

Posted my first ever selfie one hour post thyroidectomy. Was bored silly, stoned and it seemed the easiest way to let everyone know I was ok.

I did when my ds was sick in hospital because I was lonely, scared and didn’t know what to do with myself. Yes I was probably attention seeking. But it’s how I deal with things, I like to feel people are around me!

DH, also diabetes type 1, has been to resus a few times now. It’s no joke. I’ll bet your friend knew that and needed a hand to hold. DH is a good sort.

Attention seeking...?! God some people are bitches on here. He’s sick and asking for support.
Op you sound horrible. Your husband sounds lovely though.

Hospitals have Signage up everywhere asking that you do not take photos and selfies in Hospital, well they do in the ones I recently attended in Glasgow, maybe it different elsewhere.