Is sending a selfie of yourself in A&E to a group chat of friends is a bit..... odd?

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DHs mate sentence a photo of himself in a hospital bed after taking himself to A&E..and then followed up the photo with “they’re taking me into resus”
This mate is diabetic (insulin dependant) so can be unwell.
He was feeling unwell, and took himself in, and apparently they’re concerned with his breathing and are taking him in the resus. Despite being conscious and well enough to send and respond to messages?
But now mate hasn’t responded for 30 minutes
Now DH is in a flat panic and has zoomed off to the hospital, despite me saying a) he can’t have been that bad, as he was sending the messages. B) he’s probably being looked at by nurses/doctors/whatever’s c) the hospital won’t let him in to see his mate, as he’s not family

DH went anyway saying “”phew hasn’t got any family “

Now. The harsh bitch in me thinks this is a huge attention seeking activity.

What are your thoughts?

Surely it's simpler to do that with a quick tweet or FB post?

or whatsapp?
they are all social media

I agree it's a hopeful call out to anyone who might be able to pop down for a handhold. Hope he's ok op.

Fair play you have agreed YABU

Your dh sounds like a good mate.

He's in the best place. I messaged my bf when rushed into A&E, I wasn't banned from using my phone and despite being in stupid amounts of pain (bleed in my skull) needed to let her know I wouldn't be in work. She is the cover manager, killed two birds with one stone.

Maybe he is scared and looking for support, they are a group of his friends he is sending the message to, not the entire Facebook community garnering likes. This is the sort of thing, our group of our close friends would do in our Whatsapp group, because we support each other.

I was recently in hospital for emergency surgery. I sent messages to a few a people to let them know, had it been one group I’d have sent a group message. I wouldn’t have sent a selfie though as I looked as rough as a badgers arse 🤣

In a private group chat? That's totally fine. Your OH sounds like a good friend. I've been in resus before and was capable of sitting around and chatting.
I really wouldn't care if a friend was attention seeking when ill in hospital, unsure of what's wrong them and with no family around. I'd want to be there for them. They might have felt like sending private individual messages to friends was causing a fuss or that a FB post was too public.

op.dont feel bad. you arent heartless.x

Friends are allowed to see people in the hospital

And yes you can be in resus, conscious and talking but very ill...

I was visiting my MIL in intensive care a little while ago, and there was one man, sitting up, watching tv and another on the phone.

You can be VERY sick but able to do tasks!

Diabetics can appear well, but be in early stage DKA, which can require resus- purely from a management perspective for nursing staff (multiple infusions, with regular bloods required) your DH seems like a good mate. Whether it's attention seeking, or because he's scared and was reaching out in the hope someone would come down- your DH has acted from a good place, and I hope his mate is ok.

Your DH is lovely! I'm in a WhatsApp group and we always send silly selfies to each other.

Probably scared shitless but perhaps making a joke if it is easier than actually reaching out and asking for support from friends. Been there, done that - T1 diabetic also, very nearly died from DKA earlier this year and spent just short of a week in hospital. Could still hold a rational conversation on admittance though.

Patients send selfies from A&E all the time. The only way to stop it would be to take away their phones.

My Type 1 DH was texting me from intensive care. Texting to say they won’t let him out

Group chat is fine, that’s where we talk about everything in my friendship group. I agree with those who said he probably wanted a hand hold but didn’t want to directly ask

Hope he’s ok, your DH sounds like a good bloke

Well now I feel stupid.
After reading your post I thought "how is he texting that he's ABOUT to go to resus" and found it really strange that he could still message.
Reading further posts then had me even more baffled that people found it normal.
After a quick google I now know resus is not just a ward intended for those who had died and needed to be brought back.

Learn something new every day on MN! 😂

Posting on FB to everyone - yep I'd say attention seeking (I gave a friend who dies similar but usually cryptic comments and gets a chorus of 'you ok, hun?' back
Posting on WhatsApp to a closed group of 10 mates - maybe wanting some attention but you know, they're his mates, with no family who else would he tell?

He is probably scared and looking for a little sympathy. Why not be kind instead of snarky.

Awww bless your dh sounds lovely. I hope his friend is okay.

Some people are tasteless with selfies. A teenager recently had his life support machine switched off and his “friends” had been taking selfies and sharing them on snapchat all week when they were visiting him 🙄

There's a fine line really..

I have chronic illness and disability - I am therefore a frequent flyer in hospital and I tend to take myself in to appointments or emergencies, as it means OH can stay home in comfort with the dogs and stuff to do, and pop in if i actually need him.

So yeah if Im bored I might post on Facey or message friends - but its NEVER a vague-book, its never an 'ooh look at me im sick but im not going to say how sick so everyone panics' its a 'ha, here I am again, bored etc etc'.

Many of my friends also have chronic illness/disability so they get it.

Ah your
DH is a kind man (to his friends anyway)

I think he was too scared or embarrassed to ask somebody directly and was looking for a volunteer. I think your DH is lovely, you were being heartless but glad you have acknowledged that now.

To a group chat witj friends when he has no family, it was probably a joke to seek support without saying he could do with support.

A friend of mine likes to take hospital selfies and put them on Facebook. The more she can get medical equipment or signs of IV lines the better. She's a nice person but far too fond of the hospital updates to get 'you ok hun?' Responses.

Attention seeking? Is that your first thought? Nothing exciting ever happens to me, so when I was in A&E I took a selfie and sent it to my WhatsApp group.

(4 friends who live opposite each other, WhatsApp most days or every few days, come round regularly for wine, go on weekend break abroad yearly)

I was just letting them know.
It would never occur to me for someone to view it as 'attention seeking'!

And yes. I have had extremely brittle and very difficult to control type 1 diabetes, from aged 1, but was actually in hospital with a chest infection.