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AIBU?

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Is sending a selfie of yourself in A&E to a group chat of friends is a bit..... odd?

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00100001 · 18/11/2018 22:08

DHs mate sentence a photo of himself in a hospital bed after taking himself to A&E..and then followed up the photo with “they’re taking me into resus”
This mate is diabetic (insulin dependant) so can be unwell.
He was feeling unwell, and took himself in, and apparently they’re concerned with his breathing and are taking him in the resus. Despite being conscious and well enough to send and respond to messages?
But now mate hasn’t responded for 30 minutes
Now DH is in a flat panic and has zoomed off to the hospital, despite me saying a) he can’t have been that bad, as he was sending the messages. B) he’s probably being looked at by nurses/doctors/whatever’s c) the hospital won’t let him in to see his mate, as he’s not family

DH went anyway saying “”phew hasn’t got any family “

Now. The harsh bitch in me thinks this is a huge attention seeking activity.

What are your thoughts?

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AbsentmindedWoman · 18/11/2018 22:30

In early stage DKA you are very much able to hold a conversation and text and appear normal.

In over twenty years of type 1 diabetes, I've only had DKA once (apart from when I was diagnosed) and I caught it early so was very lucky - was kept in hospital overnight, my heart rate was up for a while, which was pretty unnerving, even though I was fine in the end and nothing dramatic happened.

Don't know what 'resus' is in this case but I bet the friend is feeling anxious and with no family, is reaching out to friends.

CartwheelCath · 18/11/2018 22:31

When I was having my cancer treatment I was so bored with all the hanging around etc I would take pics and upload. Usually of myself sat in the waiting room with a witty comment below. I tried to make light of the fact I 2as facing my worst fears. I would often wait 3 to 4 hours before being seen. I was there several days running and it was dull. Social media helped pass the time.
Not attention seeking but bored and it was my life. No more Saturday nights out to post pics up at that time. Actually now 2 years on they come up in my memories and are kind of nice to look back on. Remind me how far ive come.

He posted pics to chat of his mates not a public FB post. Maybe he wanted his mates to know he was in hospital. Your DH sounds kind and like a good mate.

For the most part I cannot get worked up about what my friends upload on FB but then I only have genuine friends that I really do care about and that know me very well and what's going on in my life. I dont see what they post as attention seeking. I imagine if you everyone and their auntie on there you aren't going to give a shit if they are hospitalised though and wonder if it is just attention they are after.

Miscible · 18/11/2018 22:32

If he has no family maybe he just wanted to make sure someone knew where he was just in case. I don't it's that unusual to tell someone if you're going into hospital.

Surely it's simpler to do that with a quick tweet or FB post?

Amallamard · 18/11/2018 22:33

Your DH sounds like a good friend. If his friend has no family then maybe he wanted someone to come and be with him but didn't feel he could directly ask. I hope the friend has a speedy recovery.

LadyPasserine · 18/11/2018 22:38

I would be amazed he could get a signal once he goes deeper into the operational parts of the hospital. Usually they are blocked.

LilMadAgain · 18/11/2018 22:40

I don't blame your husband and I sincerely hope his pal will be OK. Brittle diabetes has killed off the majority of my uncles siblings and it's very worrying for his wife and sons when he's poorly.

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00100001 · 18/11/2018 22:41

Oh, wow I really am hard hearted

I’ll message dh and ask for an update

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Lougle · 18/11/2018 22:42

If he has type 1 diabetes he could quite easily be in Diabetic Ketoacidosis, which means that he has a metabolic acidosis, so his respiratory rate will be very high to blow off carbon dioxide and lower the acidity of his blood. That can work for a while but the patient gets knackered very quickly and then they become very poorly when they can't keep up with the demand for need to blow off the CO2.

So he could be really very sick and still able to post selfies and chat about being taken into resus.

Funkyfunkybeat12 · 18/11/2018 22:43

I take selfies of myself giving blood and send them to my sisters. If I was in hospital, I would do the same. It's not weird at all and he didn't ask your DH to go down there (although it was v kind of him to do that).

tolerable · 18/11/2018 22:43

if people attention seek-its cos they need it.its not an ideal route.but your dh done his mate proud.be thankful.

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00100001 · 18/11/2018 22:45

... iabu...

Waiting to hear back from dh.

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TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 18/11/2018 22:47

I play a team sport, a few days before a big game a teamate hurt themselves, badly enough for an ambulance and gas&air and she sent out a Snapchat of it. It was hilarious, I guess maybe only to us!

gamerchick · 18/11/2018 22:48

I would be amazed he could get a signal once he goes deeper into the operational parts of the hospital. Usually they are blocked

Heh yes, I ways had to squelch myself to an outside wall to get a signal.

You really aren't hard hearted OP. When it happens 5 or 6 times you'll be having stern words.

Missingstreetlife · 18/11/2018 22:48

It is attention seeking. It would have been better to text your dh and say can you come and see me

gamerchick · 18/11/2018 22:55

It is attention seeking. It would have been better to text your dh and say can you come and see me

Indeed!

I'm quite surprised at how many people fish for attention tbh. I'd rather just ring someone or ask directly than throw a hook hoping someone will bite

Onecutefox · 18/11/2018 22:55

I think it's different when we see celebrities posting selfies from the hospital. They would post about anything.

OP, your DH is very kind hearted.

AtSea1979 · 18/11/2018 22:55

Maybe he didn’t feel he could ask but hopes someone would be there for him.
As a single parent who’s been in and out of hospital recently I would have loved the company and to know someone cared.

GaryBaldbiscuit · 18/11/2018 22:59

i dont spose your DH really needed to go hot footing off to hospital but it was a kind thing to do.
whatsapp and others are so easy to do.
i hope his friend is ok

LellyMcKelly · 18/11/2018 23:02

I’m going through some medically tough times at the moment and I always update my closest friends on our groupchat, as do they if something is going on in their lives. The groupchat has seen divorces, affairs, business difficulties etc. It’s how we would talk if we lived near each other, and it’s really helpful to get the support.

ThatOneHurt · 18/11/2018 23:02

How bad are you gonna feel if something terrible happens?

It won't, he'll be fine. It is an ask for a hand-hold though.

On the other hand, I've seen some real OTT messages that are way beyond a HH and just outright attention seeking and it's painfully cringed.

RibbonAurora · 18/11/2018 23:04

If he has no family and this is out of character, maybe he's a bit scared by what's happened and has reached out for some support by way of the selfie but not wanting to admit he's scared and asking for support. Not attention-seeking but bravado perhaps. I see you recognize you may have been a bit unfeeling OP, but don't beat yourself up, the people who do post attention-seeking hospital selfies are numerous enough that it's an easy assumption to make. Your DH sounds like a very good friend for going to see him.

TheMaddHugger · 18/11/2018 23:04

Your DH is a Kind hearted person, I like him.

I hope friend is ok

TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup · 18/11/2018 23:04

I would. Cos it would rally my friends to know I might need some cheering up or why I might not reply. We send each other pics all the time. Lying in bed with a hangover. Cat sitting on our head. Bored in A&E.

If my friend sent me a pic from hospital and I was able to visit then why wouldn't I? It's what friends are for.

Catherineln · 18/11/2018 23:06

If his friend doesn't have any family maybe he was sending the message in the hope someone would go and support him. You don't know what's really happening at the hospital and this guy might be nervous and unsure what's happening. I'm in and out of hospital and know how boring it can be I always take someone in for support x

GaryBaldbiscuit · 18/11/2018 23:06

could you imagine having no family? no mum

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