Slightly embarrased

[Slightlyembarrased]

Today I took DD (20 months) to swimming, with a group of mums, we do it every 2 weeks.
One of the mums said infront of everybody "oh wasn't DD name wearing that last week, and she's always wearing it in her photos do you not have any other clothes oh anf shes always wearing the same shoes" " shes growing so quickly, in size 2-3 now, she has all basic clothes from asda/primark- She wears this particular dress as it's not as basic. Now i feel embarrased. Im a bit skint at the moment, quit my job without having anything else, but will be starting a new job end of december.
Any where that sell decent clothes cheaply? I've checked facebook/ebay for second hand but nothing.
Thank you in advance!

You tell her to fuck off. Children do not need a different outfit everyday.

I think you'd be better off trying to source a new friend than new clothes. She sounds very nasty.

My kids never had more than one pair of shoes until they started school and only then because they also needed runners. Nothing wrong with basic clothes from primark/asda. Kids that age grow so fast, it's pointless buying anything expensive.

There's no need to be embarrassed, the other mum was rude commenting. There's nothing wrong with wearing outfits more than once, it's wasteful not to! My dc are teens now and seem to live in the same couple of outfits that are they favourites , despite having others.

I’d say that every single other person who was there would have thought that the other mum was an utter dick and queen of wankenstein

If you want the new clothes, feel free to ignore me, but in my opinion, she was really rude. If you have enough clothes to keep your child clean and comfortable, that's all you need. Children grow so fast, it seems bonkers to buy loads and only use each item twice! If she bothers you again, maybe suggest that buying less is better for the environment?
I'm sorry she was so rude, that would have really annoyed me!

She’s a bitch, ignore her and don’t be embarrassed. She’s clearly just a spiteful cow that feels a need to point out things to make up for her own inadequacies.

Fucking hell. What a cunt! I would of called her out on it by saying you don't feed into the consumerism that she obviously does and clothes are there for a purpose in life to keep you warm and covered.

Do not go and buy clothes that you can't afford to feed this bitch. Your daughter is loved and warm.

I think most people dress their kids in supermarket clothes so don't worry about that. Nothing wrong with asda and Primark
The other mum sounds a bit weird, people will probably be judging her for that comment and not you!

Agree that no toddler particularly needs more than one pair of shoes.

Even the queen recycles her outfits

Please please ignore comments like that. It’s good that your daughter wears her clothes lots - it’s so wasteful to buy more than we need. Children grow so fast; as long as her clothes are clean* and fit her, you have nothing to be ashamed of!
My children wore a mix of hand-me-downs and charity shop finds and they didn’t suffer at all as a result.

for you, OP.

*when she first puts them on! I know it’s impossible to keep a small child clean...

What an utter bitch. Kids that young don't need more than one pair of shoes. Tell her to fuck off next time you see her.

Ah dont do that man OP. You have nobody to impress here.

You need some backanswers more than now clothes.

That wasn't a very nice thing to say, has she nothing better to do than make snide comments?
If your child is clean and appropriately dressed for the weather, what does it matter what she wears? Only a fool would waste money on buying clothes and shoes for a baby and have them wear only once.
You're quite right, as babies feet grow so fast, they don't need multiple pairs of shoes. Don't waste your time and money buying things your baby doesn't need, its not only unnecessary, but bad for the environment.

*new

My children wear the same clothes over and over, she would be horrified to find out they are the same clothes AND hand me downs. I agree with the pp that suggested telling her to fuck off!

How rude of that other Mum!

Please don't feel you have to spend cash you don't have on clothes your DD doesn't need. When my DD was that age and well into toddlerhood she only ever had one pair of shoes as she grew so fast, the shoes were barely worn. You'll have enough expense when she's old enough to notice herself.

Think people should be like to Queen; apparently when Maggie Thatcher was first made PM, her office contacted the Queen's staff to check their dresses wouldn't clash at a function they were both attending. Answer came back straightaway - "The Queen never notices what other people are wearing". Good advice I feel.

I'd brazen it out and deliberately take your DD in the same clothes week on week.
Not saying you should - but check out local charity shops - our local one has a very good selection of kids stuff - but only do it if your DD needs new clothes, not because some 'Mean Girl' mum tried to show you up at swimming.

I just can't actually imagine someone saying that.

I know why you're embarrassed but honestly don't be, there is nothing to be ashamed of here. Kids don't need tons of shoes or outfits at that age,

And as a pp said, it won't be you the other mums woild be looking down on, it woild be her. They'd think she was a complete and utter bitch. As I would have.

That other mother is a dick needs to fuck off. What an evil evil woman, basically shamed you for no good reason at all.

Even if I noticed this, would never in my wildest dreams mention it.

You don't have anybody to impress, don't even bother looking for new clothing. Look for a new play date companion.

You are doing the right thing.

No need to spend excessively on clothes and shoes for a growing child.

You are looking after the earth's resources by being careful about what you spend.

And she is being a nasty bitch. Shame on her.

OMG that is so rude... did nobody say anything? Not even you?? It is really mean

I can martha, it's been said to me good grief doesn't ds have other trousers! Umm yes identical came in a multipack? He is three years old clean and paid for WTF more do you want?

Fuck that bitch

In fact if this were me, I would make it my mission to have DD in this particular outfit, every. single. time. Just to piss her off.