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Slightly embarrased

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Slightlyembarrased · 18/11/2018 20:57

Today I took DD (20 months) to swimming, with a group of mums, we do it every 2 weeks.
One of the mums said infront of everybody "oh wasn't DD name wearing that last week, and she's always wearing it in her photos do you not have any other clothes oh anf shes always wearing the same shoes" " shes growing so quickly, in size 2-3 now, she has all basic clothes from asda/primark- She wears this particular dress as it's not as basic. Now i feel embarrased. Im a bit skint at the moment, quit my job without having anything else, but will be starting a new job end of december.
Any where that sell decent clothes cheaply? I've checked facebook/ebay for second hand but nothing.
Thank you in advance!

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 18/11/2018 22:28

I think you need to reevaluate this friendship. That's something I wouldn't even dream of saying to my worse enemy let alone my "friend".
Not only that but I wouldn't even notice, that someone (a child especially had the same outfit on.
You should have said.
" Oh and youre a cunt again this week. Funny how somethings never change.

Iamtheoneandonly2018 · 18/11/2018 22:43

Awlookatmy perfect response!

mumsastudent · 18/11/2018 22:47

starzig :)

YorkshireBelle3 · 18/11/2018 22:56

Fuck her sideways, you sound really sensible and like you've got your priorities straight while things are a bit tight. Babies don't need excessive amounts of clothes and shoes so why would you waste money?

rainbowquack · 18/11/2018 22:57

What a cowbag. Kids grow quickly and are not accessories. You carry on, get as much wear out of them as possible.

And if she says anything again, tell her you are glad that her only concerns in life are your DD's wardrobe.

TeapotFairy · 18/11/2018 22:57

OP- DP and I earn six figures and our kids will be dressed heat toe in supermarket clothes. They grow out of things in months- they’re messy and dirty and they care far more about how much they are loved than how many branded items they have!

I understand why you felt embarasssd but please know that regardless of how much money had to spend on DD’s clothes - your ‘friend’ would still be a complete wanker!!!

Don’t let her mum shame you! You’re doing the best you can with what you have and nobody has the right to make you feel ‘less than’ over something as trivial as branded children’s clothes

adoggymama · 18/11/2018 23:19

She sounds like an absolute bitch. Tell her to mind her own business next time and that not everyone can afford to fritter money away on clothes. Especially on a baby that is constantly growing! (I recommend you say it in front of her and other people so it increases her embarrassment) 😉

BestZebbie · 19/11/2018 00:39

She'd hate us, as my son grows out of his multipack stuff I buy it again in the next size up! He's been wearing the 'same top' from age 2-5 so far.

halfwitpicker · 19/11/2018 02:15

Total waste of money buying loads of clothes at that age, they grow so quick.

RandomLetters · 19/11/2018 02:41

I'd completely ignore her!! when you do need new clothes or sizes, use eBay!! I do that all the time. Clothes hardly get worn before they're outgrown and you can get some good 2nd hand stuff

Limpshade · 19/11/2018 02:55

Wow, what a ridiculous thing to say! FWIW, I consider myself to be comfortably off and my 2-year-old only has one pair of shoes, and literally a handful each of t-shirts etc. Whenever we go swimming she's always in a dress, too, as it's easy to wrestle her into just one thing afterwards.

Just ignore her. I can only imagine how small her life must be if this is how she occupies her thoughts.

Bluewidow · 19/11/2018 03:12

My kids have only ever had 1 pair of school
Shoes and 1 pair of trainers. As a toddler it was just 1 pair of shoes. Even now as they are at school they only ever wear about 2/3 diff outfits- they don't need many because they in uniform
All week. I'm the same I wear the same cycle of clothes to work week in week out. I'd enjoy child not being bothered by this as when she's a teen it will be a different story. My daughter 7 doesn't even like clothes now I come to think of it.

fieryginger · 19/11/2018 03:23

Your child will not wear out a dress at this age. There is no need to buy stuff you don't need.

When my kids were small, we were super skint back then, my kids had all their cousins hand me downs and I was grateful to have them.

Don't feel embarrassed, she was either thoughtfulness or downright mean. Using your money on what you need, opposed to what you want, is smart imo.

TheSerenDipitY · 19/11/2018 03:25

Total bitch, and i would have replied... oh god no, she loved this dress so much we have 3 of them, so now she wears it when we are not doing anything special, kindy clothes, you know :)

I did this for both my daughter and son, if they loved something when it was on special i got several more and in a few sizes as it meant no arguments about what to wear/getting dressed and it didnt matter if something got ruined while playing as we had another back up dress/top/ fancy yellow raincoat with big pink comic flowers all over it, hat and matching gumboots etc

( kindy is a playcentre place for pre schoolers, run by parents, can get very messy)

Boohissmiss · 19/11/2018 03:27

Honestly she sounds like a nasty bitch who even notices what other people’s kids are wearing .

Bifflepants · 19/11/2018 04:09

Utterly nasty and uncalled for. Charity shops (especially ones in swanky areas) are a sustainable alternative to cheaper new clothes. But it's fine to only have 2 outfits and alternate them too.

plaidlife · 19/11/2018 04:11

OP you have nothing to feel embarrassed about, she on the other hand has plenty.
There are plenty of comebacks you could make but I doubt she is worth the effort.
My DC have always had some second hand clothing as well as supermarket stuff and seem to always be growing out of, or wearing out their shoes.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 19/11/2018 04:46

What a horribly judgemental and smug woman she is!

You have NOTHING to be embarrassed about but HER! She should learn to never open her mouth to say such things. Rude!

I frequently had multiples of the same clothes on both my boys because they often came in multipacks anyway; and MIL made some navy tracksuit trousers for DS1 (that DS2 then used) that were all identical but so comfy and useful in the winter.

Luckily no one I know was rude enough to ever comment!

Endofthelinefinally · 19/11/2018 06:01

For years my dc wore charity shop clothes and handmedowns. One good quality pair of shoes for school , some cheap trainers and some wellies. As long as they fitted and didn't squash their feet that was all that mattered. I couldn't afford anything else at that stage as I wasn't working and all our money went on mortgage and bills.

As my dc spent a lot of time climbing trees and churning up mud it was far less stressful to buy stuff in jumble sales.

The first time DS1 came back from cub camp I binned the lot.

I am shocked that the other mother was so rude.

halfwitpicker · 19/11/2018 12:36

Total waste of money buying loads of clothes at that age, they grow so quick.

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