Slightly embarrased

[Slightlyembarrased]

Today I took DD (20 months) to swimming, with a group of mums, we do it every 2 weeks.
One of the mums said infront of everybody "oh wasn't DD name wearing that last week, and she's always wearing it in her photos do you not have any other clothes oh anf shes always wearing the same shoes" " shes growing so quickly, in size 2-3 now, she has all basic clothes from asda/primark- She wears this particular dress as it's not as basic. Now i feel embarrased. Im a bit skint at the moment, quit my job without having anything else, but will be starting a new job end of december.
Any where that sell decent clothes cheaply? I've checked facebook/ebay for second hand but nothing.
Thank you in advance!

Anyone who thinks it makes them somehow superior to make comments like this must have massive self esteem issues. Decent people don't try to make themselves feel better by trying to make someone else feel bad.

I imagine the other mothers hearing this would feel hugely embarrassed ...for her. Keep doing what you do op ...can't imagine anyone hearing her would want to admit to her being a friend of theirs.

gosh what good manners that woman has - not - and empathy - she is the one who should be ashamed - people who care about you wouldn't try & embarrass you like that. On another point - what I remember is that our little housing estate use to have a bag of children's grown out clothes doing a circuit where you would put in those that were too small & claim those who would fit :) seriously go to the nearest town which is well to do & check out their charity shops if you really need clothes OR go to same charity shops & see if you can get dress patterns (or library to find how to sew books & dress patterns for dc) but if your dc is clean & loved you shouldn't care about what that creature said.

I don't want to sound like an unbridled misogynist...but what a HORRIBLE BITCH! Don't give her ignorant mouth any more headspace, please

p.s. Ebay bundles have been good to me. I put in a reasonable bid and then walk away so i don't get into a bidding war. If I win the auction - great, if not wait for another one

We have plenty of money. The kids still wear the same clothes over and over and over. It is called “their favourites”. Ds particularly does not cope well with change so I buy more than of the same thing. It probably looks like he only owns one outfit. The hilarious thing is that it is the exact same outfit all the way down to his pants. He has a grand total of three pairs that he will wear. And Tesco has stopped selling them so I have to keep washing the bloody things.

What a cow. Just tell her, ‘oh, it’s dd’s favourite dress, she’d wear it every day if she could’ or ‘are you stalking me online? What an odd thing to say’ and give her a very hard stare.

Honestly, if someone said that, i’d Think they were vile and bitchy.

There is nothing wrong with Primark/Asda or any other clothes your DD has. Tell that horrid arsehole to fuck off.

OP - Please don't give that mum another thought. She sounds snobby and insecure. I'm sure some of the others there would have really felt for you, even if they haven't said anything.
Great that you are taking DD swimming. At my local leisure centre the little pool looks and sounds such fun with toddlers splashing about playing games and singing nursery rhymes in their group lesson.
It's a healthy activity, not an opportunity to show off fashion and spending power, she's a shallow daft bitch.

"yes of course - ( child ) has no clothes on washday you silly cow"

Nothing wrong with primark for stuff especially when they're growing
I rotate 3 pairs of trousers for work, they're exactly the same except colour. I mix them with maybe 5-7 tops and a couple of cardigans/blazers and so it always looks slightly different!

Sorry love, but your the mum. If you can’t cope with some twat grumbling about your outfit choices, you really have got a lot Of problems coming your way! Tell her to wind her neck in, and grow a spine.

Wonder what she’d say about me? I wear the same skirt and jacket to work each day (skirt gets washed mid-week) and about 4 different tops. I can’t see why I’d need any more clothes than that for work purposes.

What a horrible bitch
You need new friends ! So what if she wears it all the time as long as she's got clean clothes on who cares! What a really nasty thing to say! Don't go out buying new stuff if you can't afford it.

As a PP said - make fun of her . Call her the Fashion Police in her hearing.
And block from all of your social media.

I think would be saying “it’s swimming, it’s not an activity you wear your best outfit to, is it?”

Or “ah well, you see, DD is growing so fast at the moment there really is no point buying her multiple outfits at the moment as she won’t get the use. I guess If you have a child that isn’t really growing that fast plus judgmental friends then you might feel like you should buy a number of things.” Accompanied by a pitying look.

What a horrible woman to talk like that. Honestly, I feel ashamed for her. A kid might say it (& be told off!), but she's a grown up who should know better.

Pay no attention to the woman. I bet the other parents who heard were embarrassed. She has shown herself up.

I’d say to her that you thought about what she said and on reflection if Kate Middleton can be seen in the same outfit then what’s the problem. Tell her You prefer to focus on being together and being the best mum you can be. So long as DD is safe, loved fed and clean nothing else matters. Then ignore her. Who does she think she is saying that?

How many pairs of shoes does a 20 month old baby need?

Mine only ever had one pair at time at that age!

Or of course you could always go for the head tilt and a patronising tone whilst you say ‘oh dear...did you mean to be so rude?’. Leave a nice silence afterwards for her to flounder in, its fun!

Sadly you'll run into these type of people throughout school etc. Best to learn to ignore those who make themselves feel big by trying to make you feel small. If you don't, you'll make yourself miserable.

She's a silly bitch, ignore.

Play the environment card and mske her feel bad about 1 wear outfits.

Well that lady is sucking the joy out of life isn't she? Did you perhaps look better in a swim suit than her? try NCT sales for decent 2nd hand cheap stuff, but really she's the fool, why waste money? Just smile and confuse her

Do you know what, I commented before but I'm actually disgusted the more I think about this. What sort of malicious cowbag attempts to show you up/shame a BABY for how she's dressed? Ffs. As a teen, my dad used to say 'you're going to school, not down the catwalk'. Well your DD is going to a chuffing swimming class (and good on you for taking her), not modelling for a baby Boden twatalogue.
I'll bet the other mums thought cowbag sounded like a complete prat

What a bitch. Mine never had more than 1 pair of shoes at a time. What’s the point? They’d grow out of them at the same time!