AIBU about being grassed up

[Milliepede]

Not so much of an AIBU but am posting for traffic.
A so called friend has gone to my boss because I said something negative about work on FB. Where I work takes that sort of thing VERY seriously. I don't think what I said was that bad, I expressed I didn't like my job or the team I work with (some of them are ok). I didn't say anything bad about the organisation itself but when asked, I stupidly said where I worked and have "damaged the organisation's reputation".
I am more pissed off that a "friend" has said something and actually screenshotted the post to show my boss.
Just a friendly reminder to be careful who you trust and becareful what you post on social media.

Better to check your settings.

FB settings change. They do so without warning and often without notification. People are regularly caught out by this. Hence treat it as a billboard ie assume anyone might see it.

You may be entirely happy with the risk but most people don't even realise it is there because they trust the privacy settings and FB with their data.

@kateandme

You'd need to check your workplace social media policy for answers. Ours is quite detailed and includes examples of what is/isn't acceptable.

Ours also recommends that you don't put any references to where you work in your profile or posts.

In your example, if there was no reference at all in your content/profile to where you worked, it would be difficult to argue that saying something generic such as 'I've had an awful day at work' would damage the reputation of your employer.

You knew you shouldn't have done it and you don't need fingers wagging at you. Bad idea but my god, what a nasty, lowlife move your 'friend' has pulled. How on earth would your post have offended her? Horrific to try and put you out of a job before Christmas and if she'd have posted on Aibu asking if she should land you in it, she'd have been told so resoundingly.

If it's any comfort, OP, colleagues who 'grass' on each other are pretty low in my opinion. I couldn't do that.

You won't like this, but if you are daft enough to even be on facebook, let alone write something that you know would be frowned upon at work, then, yes!

You ABVVVVVU

Oh my gosh some people are being so mean: it doesn't even matter how old the OP is, and they are entitled to use whatever lingo they like to communicate. I imagine this is a person who is feeling really rubbish, betrayed, confused and angry with themselves and is seeking some form of reassurance that these feelings are normal but some people are just thinking it is ok to put the boot in and condescend to OP...i don't see why that's necessary - just very unkind.

During the BA cabin crew strike, managers tried to gain access to the (closed and private) union members only forum. If I recall, they tried to make the union hand over IP addresses - but not sure how they would have found out who the staff members were as no laws had been broken.

They also tried to get usernames and real names from the union.

A deeply unpleasant company and a reminder what some companies will do to employees.

DH's place.

An ex colleague posted on facebook "see so and so Ltd's management have all got new company cars again and spending millions on machinery while no pay rises for the workers for another year. Bloody typical"

A current colleague replied "lol".

The company gave him a written warning for " lol".

Moral of the story is you never know who's looking.

Mmm, never put work grumbles on FB... but that said your colleague was totally out of order showing it to your boss.

I used to work for Council, Social media was a hanging offence

My sister got fired for emailing my mum from her work email slagging off a decision her company made.

I wonder how the people you slagged off would feel about being publicly bad mouthed on social media?

I don't think friend is out of order of a loser or a bad friend. I think she's shown a huge amount of loyalty to the friend who has done nothing wrong - the person being slagged off.

You admit you you've slated them to your bosses already and you're slating them on social media - you are a bully and you don't like people standing up to you.

if you are completely private and lets say your friends wouldn't ever grass would there be any way then that ur work could find something?
also...what if you put "horrid day of work today"is that still considered banned

As PP have said it depends on your workplace SM policy. Personally I just don't talk about work, except very occasionally in a happy, positive way. I certainly wouldn't say I'd had a horrid day at work - people will only ask what's up and then you're down the rabbit hole.

Basically if there is someone at work gunning for you, they will use whatever means necessary to find ammunition against you. So no logging on to SM from work equipment and no talking about work.

A friend doesn't need to grass - they could lend a synced devise to a partner who then gets access to their FB. It just isn't worth it, for the sake of a moan about work. I know it's wrong, but you don't really want to risk it.

You don't always have to have mentioned where you work. I have heard it argued that's it is enough that family and friends would already know where who you work for.

"but if you are daft enough to even be on facebook, let alone write something that you know would be frowned upon at work, then, yes!"

What?
You know it counts against you now when looking for work if you're not on social media at all?

YABU for

1. Being a complete fool in posting self indulgent shite on Facebook
2. For using the term "grassed up" unless you are Ronnie or Reggie Kray

CaliHummers thankyou.
ScreamingValentathanks really helpful.i never new it was so tight!and frowned upon it explains a few thing to do with things that have happened with family now too.

How do you know it was your friend that reported you?

Did she contact your Company directly to report you or did she mention it to one of your colleagues that she is friendly with and it was your colleagues who reported you?

Where I used to work a woman was pulled into HR to be told off about a similar thing. They forgot to redact the printout the snitch had given them so her name was clearly visible. Something to think about for those who think it's fine to be a tell tale.

Sending printouts of social media is so secondary school

A mum at school announced on fb her dd had been so violently sick she'd practically redecorated the downstairs of the house. Next day was a school trip and in dc walks ready to spend an hour on a coach with 50 other dc. Mum says "oh she's fine now. 48 hr rule is ridiculous." Teacher challenges but dm said "yes, it's been 48 hrs". Teacher knows she's lying as dc was in school the day before.

On fb parents had commented it was a shame she'd miss the trip but Mum had said she was sending her etc. This was in a "private" group.

20 different parents told the head/sent screen grabs to the head. There are 60 dc in the class and not all parents are on fb. That suggests many will "grass". I didn't, just privately seethed and asked head to clarify 48hr rule to parents (which is when she told me she knew about the Fb posts).

If a so called 'friend' did this to me i'd make another public post grassing them up for their shitty, backstabbing behaviour......and then permanently delete/block them from my fb.

You knowingly posted something about your workplace when you were aware they would ‘take it seriously’. I don’t see the issue here.

YABU. My Manager was disciplined for discussing on facebook a work personality clash she was 'tired of refereeing' . One of the people involved in the clash saw it & reported it.

You really should know better. I've always been very careful not to post anything negative on Facebook. I've been through the adoption process and managed not to say anything negative about Social Services, and I have had cause at times believe me! But I've never felt the need to do that, because I like to keep my problems private.