AIBU about being grassed up

[Milliepede]

Not so much of an AIBU but am posting for traffic.
A so called friend has gone to my boss because I said something negative about work on FB. Where I work takes that sort of thing VERY seriously. I don't think what I said was that bad, I expressed I didn't like my job or the team I work with (some of them are ok). I didn't say anything bad about the organisation itself but when asked, I stupidly said where I worked and have "damaged the organisation's reputation".
I am more pissed off that a "friend" has said something and actually screenshotted the post to show my boss.
Just a friendly reminder to be careful who you trust and becareful what you post on social media.

The "friend" doesn't even work where I work but knows people who do. I am pissed off with them because it's nothing to do with them so why did they do that? I fully accept the consequences of my actions.

That's bizarre, could someone who wants your job have put her up to it?

You can’t control the ‘friend’s’ behaviour. You can control your own — by putting your criticism of your workplace publicly on social media, you lay yourself open to this kind of behaviour, which must surely have been obvious when you wrote your comment?

You're diverting your anger, you should be annoyed at yourself for doing something so foolish. If you hadn't posted no-one could have shared it. Maybe she mentioned it to other friends in a 'i can't believe she'd day this' or 'ugh have you seen she's gone off on another rant again 🙄' , I used to have a colleague like you and frankly it's a kick in the teeth to the people who work their backsides off day in day out to them have the organisation you represent lambasted on social media, when actually most people don't even agree with that perception. You need to get over it and take whatever action is coming your way from management. As I said before in my department it would be dismissal.

Was she a friend or an acquaintance? Many people don't seem to know the difference. Friends are people you would trust with your life, they'd do anything for you and vice versa. Acquaintances are people you might socialise with on occasion, or you might speak to once in a blue moon on FB.

The person who reported you is clearly not your friend. A friend would have advised you to take the post down straightaway.

You were daft to put that online but your friend is an absolute dick, I would never have anything to do with her again.

Have you deleted the so-called friend?

I’m finding it difficult to have much sympathy.

You knew your company’s rules and you deliberately broke them assuming that you’d get away with it.

You were publicly rude about your colleagues assuming that no one would call you on it.

From what you’ve said heat you don’t sound very pleasant. Perhaps your friend thinks you are unpleasant too and got tired of it.

You are an adult, take some personal responsibility for your actions.

Wow! My whole office (and the other offices) hates our company and we regularly take the piss out of it on FB. People are allowed to vent on FB. I would never do that to a friend. Are you in a higher position than her? Does she want your job?

Grow up and get off shitty Facebook

I dont think anybody with half a brain cell needs reminding not to post negative things about their workplace on social media.

Having said that (and having re-read your post) none of us would ever slag off an individual or team, just the overall bad running of the company. If you are bitching about people you work with then that is pretty pretty bad.

incredibly stupid thing for you to do, and incredibly dickish thing for your collegaue to do

Also, companies should not have the right to police peoples opinions/views. How the fuck can they seriously discipline you for that?? Thats crazy!

OP would you want any future employer to see what you posted?

Facebook is not a private space to vent. You can’t publically run down the people you work with and then be surprised when it comes back and bites you on the arse.

How do you know who it was that reported you?

The "friend" doesn't even work where I work but knows people who do.

But you said that you mentioned in your post where you worked so she does know?

Unless you mean she knows people who also work for your company and mentioned your post to them and then they reported it?

Which isn’t quite he same as her contacting your bosses herself.

It’s easy to imagine her saying “OMG did you see what Millipede put on FB* it’s gossip. If she happened to tell a colleague that doesn’t think much of you it’s easy to see what might have happened.

Still no sympathy.

Op named the company, that identifies them. On fb, that identifies op.
If it was anonymous it would be different. Sorry op' I have a big mouth too!

Well you know to delete that friend.

Don't bitch about your company on SM no matter how much they deserve it. It's just not worth it

So the 'friend' doesn't work there? Is this e.g. a school, and you're a teacher, she's a parent?

You were foolish to post the comments, but I can't understand why someone who doesn't work for your organisation would get involved.

A woman I worked with got sacked for posting #sobored #hatemyjob on Twitter - her real name and the company's name were in her bio.

Never say anything about your job on social media!

That being said, your 'friend' should have messaged you and advised you to delete the comment, not screenshot it and send it to your boss.

I can't really emphasise this enough but I know I have been an idiot and will accept the consequences of disciplinary action. I just can't understand the actions of the "friend", when it has had no impact on them whatsoever.

Struggling to see them problem, you don't like your job, you don't like your colleagues and they don't like you. Now is the golden opportunity to find a new job, and you may even have lots of free time to look for one.

Also, companies should not have the right to police peoples opinions/views. How the fuck can they seriously discipline you for that?? Thats crazy!

They aren’t policing her views Sisgal if she’d said it privately among friends or even in the pub it would be fine.

But she published it. It’s not any different that sticking an advert in the local paper saying “X company are useless and so are all their staff”.

She can think what she likes, but she can’t defame the company’s reputation publicly. It’s a standard contract clause.