AIBU about being grassed up

[Milliepede]

Not so much of an AIBU but am posting for traffic.
A so called friend has gone to my boss because I said something negative about work on FB. Where I work takes that sort of thing VERY seriously. I don't think what I said was that bad, I expressed I didn't like my job or the team I work with (some of them are ok). I didn't say anything bad about the organisation itself but when asked, I stupidly said where I worked and have "damaged the organisation's reputation".
I am more pissed off that a "friend" has said something and actually screenshotted the post to show my boss.
Just a friendly reminder to be careful who you trust and becareful what you post on social media.

Did friend report it or just message a friend of hers who works with you in a gossiping way?

Once you put something on social media I'd assume you were being public about it. If you're in a bad mood then step away from fb. I'd be seriously if a colleague wrote about my team. It's damaging to moral to have some like you. But then you'd be sacked at my place.

"Assuming your 'friend' world's for the same place, what do you think would've happened to get if she'd seen it and done nothing, then someone else had reported it and your employer realised she and you are FB friends, you put her in a difficult position where she could've been pulled into a mess of your making. The only one who's done something wrong here is you."

I don't agree that being a FB friend of someone who complains about their job is itself something wrong. There might be lots of people from the same workplace who are OP's FB friends.

"But she published it. It’s not any different that sticking an advert in the local paper saying “X company are useless and so are all their staff”. "

Of course it's different. Only certain people can see your Facebook status. Unfortunately, it seems she has colleagues who are Facebook friends, but the status was presumably not PUBLIC in the same was as a public website.

Well they're not much of a friend. Hope you've deleted them.

OP has now clarified that the 'friend' doesn't work there, so seeing the comments couldn't have affected her own employment.

"OP would you want any future employer to see what you posted? "

A future employer wouldn't see it unless they were among your Facebook friends.

"OP has now clarified that the 'friend' doesn't work there, so seeing the comments couldn't have affected her own employment."

But it wouldn't have done anyway, would it?

Have you asked your friend why they reported it, how do you know it was definetley them?

You already know what you did was wrong and very stupid.

Absolutely none of your friends business though. She's not a work colleague and should have acted like a friend and told you to remove the post instead. Why on Earth would an actual friend try to get you in trouble with your work?

Delete, block and tell her to fuck off out your life.

And never slag off work or colleagues on social media again.

The word ‘friend’ seems to mean vanishingly little. I’m continually baffled by threads on here where posters discuss ‘friends’ they dislike intensely, ‘friends’ they’ve barely met but who’ve added them on FB, ‘friends’ who are distant acquaintances with a mutual friend as sole link, ‘friends’ they’ve had a drink with twice in a large group of school parents, ‘friends’, they occasionally remark on the weather with on a school pick-up etc.

OP, was the reporting friend someone you have known for years and are close to, talk to and see often, and could ask for help from in a crisis?

grassed up

I said something negative about work on FB. Where I work takes that sort of thing VERY seriously. I don't think what I said was that bad, I expressed I didn't like my job or the team I work with

How old are you?

I can't really emphasise this enough but I know I have been an idiot and will accept the consequences of disciplinary action. I just can't understand the actions of the "friend", when it has had no impact on them whatsoever.

People just love to cause mischief, trouble & drama. Jealousy is often at the route of it.
How do you know who it was??
I can only assume she screenshot your post and comments and sent it to her other friends who work with you, they were offended/saw an opportunity to get the boot in and took it to your boss.

Never ever have work colleagues or mention anything about work on social media. It is a sackable offence and at the least you will be disciplined for it with a note in your file/written warning.

Karma will hopefully catch up with the frienemy who snitched, I'm sure you know details about her life which you can in turn systematically destroy if you wanted to. Just see how it goes with work...

I did something similar to what the OP did. It was years ago now but I cringe every time I think about it. At the time when I was called out on it, I was full of righteous indignation and very defensive but in the end had to accept I'd been stupid and not only damaged the company's reputation but hurt my colleagues too. The repercussions of this were various and, while I wasn't formally disciplined, it understandably soured relationships & ruined my hitherto excellent reputation to the point where I had no option but to leave, months down the line. One quick moan online wasn't worth any of the upset that followed. You WBU and need to find another job.

I would go through your friends list and delete everyone that you dont know that well, or have any slight suspicions about. Especially if you post private rantings sometimes or personal stuff.
I do this every now and again. Its necessary

Rule 1 never ever talk about your work on social media. Instant disciplinary where I work

Dear gods the OP doesn't need a bunch of willy waving "managers" or holy joes to tell her she should be on the naughty step. She already knows that.

From the OP:
Just a friendly reminder to be careful who you trust and becareful what you post on social media

Of course it's different. Only certain people can see your Facebook status.

Well who can see your Facebook friends how you arrange your settings, but I take your point that it “feels” like a limited audience.

That’s a fallacy though. How many times has something that is posted on a “private” Facebook page gone viral? All round the world in a few days?

Facebook IS. NOT. PRIVATE.

As soon as you publish something you give other people control over it, you don’t know who is showing what to whom.

The OP explicitly named her company, she deliberately set out to embarrass them.

And you never ever know who knows someone you are connect to.

For example my Dad’s best mate is CEO of the company my husband’s cycling buddy works for. We’ve never mentioned the connection to the buddy, it hasn’t come up in conversation.

It’s easy enough to imagine a scenario where my Godfather visits my house and glances at an open ipad though isn’t it?

Fb isn’t private, you have very little control over your post once it’s out there.

The OP defamed her company, publicly, and she intended to, that’s why she named them.

Of course it's different. Only certain people can see your Facebook status.

Until the settings are changed or you make a mistake. Just assume that anything on Facebook might as well be on a billboard and post accordingly.

I don't think what I said was that bad, I expressed I didn't like my job or the team I work with (some of them are ok). I didn't say anything bad about the organisation itself but when asked, I stupidly said where I worked and have "damaged the organisation's reputation".

I think saying something about the job and the team is saying something about the organisation. But anyway, you know you messed up. I think a genuine friend would have messaged you and advised you to take the post down - I would have done, because I know how these things can blow up.

People are allowed to vent on FB
Check your work SM policy you may well not be allowed to.
People confuse private conversations like emails or phone calls with public conversations like FB and Twitter.
You’re allowed to bitch about your work one to one but you’re not allowed to public broadcast your grievances on SM.
I’ve seen a lot of young people get in trouble because of this including my neice ( which was very embarrassing because I got her the job).
Do not put up negative comments on SM about your work, not only could it get you in trouble in your current job but if your employer at your next job sees them during the recruitment process they won’t want to hire you either.

P.s. I did not report my neice but someone else saw her twitter post and she was fired.

It’s pathetic that someone “told on you” OP!

I wouldn’t post anything on social media about work. But I have in the past moaned about work verbally to people. I also enjoy posting anonymous Glassdoor reviews after I leave a company. Most satisfying!

The "friend" doesn't even work where I work but knows people who do

Your "friend" obviously doesn't like you. I hope you've deleted them from FB and updated your privacy settings.

Nothing to say on the rest that hasn't already been said by PP.

I feel sorry for you, I would be gutted if a friend did that to me, especially screenshotting it to your boss!!

Yes, ok, what you did wasn't right, I think you get that, I'm shocked a friend would do that...

That person is not a 'Friend'. Block!!