AIBU about being grassed up

[Milliepede]

Not so much of an AIBU but am posting for traffic.
A so called friend has gone to my boss because I said something negative about work on FB. Where I work takes that sort of thing VERY seriously. I don't think what I said was that bad, I expressed I didn't like my job or the team I work with (some of them are ok). I didn't say anything bad about the organisation itself but when asked, I stupidly said where I worked and have "damaged the organisation's reputation".
I am more pissed off that a "friend" has said something and actually screenshotted the post to show my boss.
Just a friendly reminder to be careful who you trust and becareful what you post on social media.

Something similar happened to me, so I understand how you feel. I got an extremely shitty and unwarranted letter from DD's school and posted it on FB. I was told by the Headteacher that one of my friends had screenshot it and sent it to her. She asked me to take it down and I refused to as it was my letter and I said I could photocopy it 1,000 times and stick it to trees around the town, if I'd wanted to. I told them if they were worried it painted them in a bad light they shouldn't have sent it. But I never found out who the friend was and they never owned up to it.

@Millipede, dump the 'friend'.
Not everything we lose in life, is a loss !
Face the consequences of your actions, and hope for the best.

"People confuse private conversations like emails or phone calls with public conversations like FB and Twitter."

FB is not usually public - check your settings.
Yes, there's still scope for it getting back to your boss, but the same is true of an email that can be forwarded on.

"ow many times has something that is posted on a “private” Facebook page gone viral? All round the world in a few days? "

Never seen that personally. I presumed those posts were public. You can't 'share' a private post. You'd have to download it and re-post it.
Same thing can happen with email. Someone could post your email to the web, even though the email was initially private.

"It’s easy enough to imagine a scenario where my Godfather visits my house and glances at an open ipad though isn’t it?"

Well he could look in the person's diary as well, but if it the i-pad was on something private, it would be a breach of privacy. Your godfather would be a dick if he would punish someone for something he's not supposed to know about.

OP You really don't need to warn people about this because the majority of adults already know not to slag their workplace off on social media. Attention seeking is for teenagers.

"Just assume that anything on Facebook might as well be on a billboard and post accordingly."

It's where I communicate with my friends so no, I don't think I'll stick it full of adverts. Better to check your settings. Not much you can do if someone you thought was a friend is actually horrible though.

there's still scope for it getting back to your boss, but the same is true of an email that can be forwarded on.
To be fair it’s safer to err on the side of caution and not leave a paper trail if you are saying something which could be viewed as contentious so I wouldn’t put stuff like this in any format which could be stored.

Also this isn’t really about it getting back to the boss as such it’s about publically damaging the name of the company. So yes an email is bad but it’s one to one not everyone on your FB friends list and potentially Friends of Friends depending on your settings.

"Rule 1 never ever talk about your work on social media. Instant disciplinary where I work"

This is obviously not a general rule. Where I work, we're encouraged to use social media connected to our work (obviously not negative things).

I did once work somewhere that said you couldn't say where you worked, even on LinkedIn. That clashed with official advice from the Job Centre was that you should update your LinkedIn. I think they've changed the rule now.

"there's still scope for it getting back to your boss, but the same is true of an email that can be forwarded on.
To be fair it’s safer to err on the side of caution and not leave a paper trail if you are saying something which could be viewed as contentious so I wouldn’t put stuff like this in any format which could be stored."

Well, lots of people don't have anyone to talk to in their house and NEED to use these formats to discuss with others. In theory, a telephone conversation can also be recorded.

My point was, though, that people are saying that email is private whereas FB with privacy settings isn't, and I was making the point that they're comparable.

"So yes an email is bad but it’s one to one not everyone on your FB friends list and potentially Friends of Friends depending on your settings."

Emails are not necessarily one-to-ones. We used to send mass emails before we all moved to Facebook. I think people do that on Whatsapp a bit more now.
FB is seen by just your friends if you have good privacy settings, same as an email.

Gwenhwyfar
Obviously rule one is meant to be read as rule one don’t talk negatively about your work. Very few companies have it in their regulations not to mention it at all unless there’s a security risk ie schools, social workers, prisons etc.

Of course when your workplace gets rid of you for gross misconduct you’ll be looking for a new job. Recruiters also check out your social media activity yunno.

Obviously you’re not reliant on the wages you are paid, otherwise why would you do something so daft?

Gamer - if you read my other post I did work in one place where you couldn't mention it at all, though I think they've changed recently. There was absolutely no security risk there.

Emails are not necessarily one-to-ones.
Well yes but I don’t think anyone is arguing that a mass email slagging your work off is ok.

"Recruiters also check out your social media activity yunno."

As I've pointed out, recruiters wouldn't be able to see OP's FB post, unless they're friends. I doubt she posted it publicly, she just has one shit acquaintance.

Gwenhwyfar
That’s why I said very few and not no workplaces .....

" I don’t think anyone is arguing that a mass email slagging your work off is ok."

Well, I would argue that slagging off your work is OK. Better than going in and punching your boss. We all need an outlet and we don't all have someone at home to talk to.

I have a rule that you never write anything, anywhere, that you wouldn't want to see on the front page of a national newspaper.

Email is no safer than social media, it can be forwarded too easily to many people.

Oooooh in my job that would be extremely serious and you would probably be sacked for gross misconduct tbh. Check your company policy on social media, we are not allowed to mention work.

And yes re your friend - a snake.

Well, I would argue that slagging off your work is OK
To be fair I do agree that we all need an outlet the problem is what you and I believe isn’t really relevant if the company works for regards this behaviour as a sackable offence.

OP posted how she didn't like her team. The fb friend is also friends with the people OP doesn't like and OP knows this (she says so). It doesn't take a genius to work out it might get back to the people you are slagging off.

That doesn't change the fact that the "friend" is a childish loser. Most people have their own lives and better things to do than grass

Never seen that personally. I presumed those posts were public. You can't 'share' a private post. You'd have to download it and re-post it.

It would just need to be screenshotted and shared. It would take seconds to share a private post.

Have you spoken to this so called 'friend'. I mean how much of a friend is she or is she more of an acquaintance? Is there some sort of back story here because I can't really understand why a good friend would do this.