New guy said this, AIBU to not be happy??

[Heeeeelpme]

Started dating a lovely guy- all going well.

I won't go into details but we're both into certain different sexual things that are completely new to the other person.

He's always been willing and tries my 'thing' but I feel uncomfortable and not ready to do the same yet for his.

He's told me he thinks both parties should be willing to try things and it should be a two way street because he's tried mine even after I've explained that people's comfort levels are different and I'm just not comfortable with the idea especially because we've only just started dating- I have asked if this is a dealbreaker- He assures me it's not- But he does keep trying to work it into conversations even though I've already told him. AIBU to be pissed off?

Nagging isn't going to get him what he wants.

Dump him, OP.

If it's anal I'd run.

Depends on the things-but he’s almost certainly being an arse.

Is your ‘thing’ something like him giving you oral sex and his ‘thing’ anal?

Freakingouthelp9 are you the OP with a name change?

If it's anal I'd run

Not least because he lacks imagination, 🤣

The thing is don't keep him hanging on with the promise you just might do this thing, if you don't want to do it don't and be honest with him. If he's a decent guy it will be fine. If he's not then he will end it and you'll know he wasn't with you for you, he was with you becayse he thought you might just be the woman who said yes to this with him.

I think the most important thing here is that your body belongs to you and it's 100% up to you what you do with it. You don't owe him anything. Please please please don't let him make you feel otherwise.

He sounds like a sex pest. I'd have to tell him I think.

Minister

It is indeed called hard and soft limits.

Really, just bin him and move on. He wants someone who is not just going to agree, grudgingly, to try his kink, but someone who is thrilled at the idea. You want someone who is thrilled with your kink but has no interest in doing the thing that this current bloke loves. Whether or not you have been a bit unfair by saying you might try it 'when you're ready' (which can come across as manipulative and selfish, along the lines of the woman who won't do sex of any kind until she gets a promise of love and commitment, or a substantial piece of jewellery) this relationship doesn't sound like it's working very well for either of you, so move on.

Bloody hell, I get really bored of unimaginative people going "its anal innit"

NotTheFordType not unimaginative women. Its the unimaginative men asking after a few shags 'fancy anal next?'

Am I being dense? How many people actually on here who have tried anal properly? It's not about anal par see, it's about how we communicate as adults.

So many, many people are not taught (or don;t know) communication skills and so many people use this as a willful way of abusing.

Anal is great. Amazing actually but that's not really the point, is it?

Renarde, I think there's a general cultural obsession with anal (men doing it to women) as something that is simultaneously so outrageous that only the truly sexually 'liberated' woman will allow it, and so horrible that only men want to do it to women. Also, we're supposed to believe men never want their own bums penetrated, and all women hate having anything up their bottoms.

Some men love being penetrated anally and, yeah, this is because men have prostate glands and it's perhaps more pleasurable, generally, for a man to have something up his arse than for a woman to do so... except that being done up the bum is not always horrible for women and some women really like it.

But (again) the problem for OP and the man she's had a few dates with is one of communication and expectations, not bumsex.

never got to find out that it was then!