to say no to school run?

[Nanaletti]

I'm 4 weeks PP. Usually do the school run once a week to pick up DSS, but my DD is currently quite demanding, I'm knackered, had zero sleep, she's attached to my boob 24/7 and the school run is 20 miles there and 20 miles back.

I'm really stressing about it but know that if I don't do it, DH will be stuck because he's at work.

I'm completely exhausted. WIBU to say no to doing it for the foreseeable future until DD is in a routine?

Sorry I wouldn’t be driving 2 hours a day with a 4 week old , I’m 10 weeks post partum and I’m barely managing the school run 10 minutes from my house .

Oh don’t agree to doing this run in January either.
The child’s mother has moved making the previous arrangements unworkable. Your DH and his ex need to organize contact that is not reliant on you doing long drives.

I'm with the 'don't agree to do this in January or any other date' club

I hope you have a peaceful weekend at your mums and she is more helpful than your useless dh.

Don't do this again. Your dh has to either collect him, putting him in after school club if necessary.

Sorry I wouldn’t be driving 2 hours a day with a 4 week old , I’m 10 weeks post partum and I’m barely managing the school run 10 minutes from my house .
This , I would have taken my kids out of school rather than do that drive with a newborn.

I’m currently breastfeeding my DD. She’s 7 weeks so I’m going through the same thing where she’s always on my boob!

If DSS was YOUR child he would NOT be going to a school 20 miles away. Nobody can ever say “what if he was yours?”, because he’s not. And because he’s not, he comes with different circumstances eg being at a school you didn’t choose and is 20 miles away. No way should you be doing the school run at the moment.

I do the school run for my own children because they are my children, and their school is 10 minutes away!!

Agree with PP - I would tell him you are not doing it again and he will have to make other plans. He sound like a total arse.

What sort of father turns his phone off when he has a new born baby at home?

I hope you have a lovely time at your mums and get time to think.

Hope your ok OP.

I'm stuck on the orange and milk combo #curdle

Hope you both got a good nights sleep.

How can a 40 miles journey be so long?

My work is 17 miles away and can take 60-90 minutes at rush hour. Or 35 when there is little traffic.

Your DH does need to sort this out imo. I wouldn't say that, except that his ex living in a completely different city is something you had no control over whatsoever. Marrying someone who already has children is a bit of a gamble with stuff like this, so normally I'd think.... hmmmm maybe you should just do it to make things as easy as possible for everyone, but 40 miles is far too much to ask of you.

Could your dh sort a childminder or mother's help maybe?

Also, I wouldn't like to put a four week old baby in a car seat for that long every day.

Since DH's ex moved the contact agreement is no longer for purpose and OP is the one suffering most (except DSS). The parents need to revisit it and OP should stop enabling them from ignoring it.

he could have asked DSS's mum to drop him off or something but apparently it was sacrilegious of me to even suggest it

I agree with PP - don't blame DSS's mum here. She's pulling her weight. You're pulling weight, DH's Dad is pulling weight. The only one who isn't... is DH.

Did you go to your mum's OP, or did he talk you round?

How's things, OP?

Yes he should take 6 x half days and collect his son. The if you feel up to it then you can take over.

I see your point but it's not going to be easier when baby is 6 weeks old or 6 months tbh. If it's once a week, feed before you go, leave ultra early so you can park at school and fees before 3pm then the journey home will be easier. Chances are baby will just sleep and if you're not rushing enjoy the peace

I'm with the 'don't agree to do this in January or any other date' club

With bells on.

It will still be unfair on your baby to spend that long in the car. I will guarantee it will bugger up nap times. And playtimes. And they'll still get cranky.

It's too much. Other parents manage the pickups and drop offs on much further distances without involving the step parent. It's down to the H to sort it with his ex.

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