to call this neglect...

[snetters]

My 2 year old won't go to sleep.
He's in a toddler bed now as can climb out of his cot.

He's always been a fab sleeper, from being 12wo.

Now he cries and screams and does everything to not sleep

We've sat in his room and lay beside him for the past 7 nights to get him to sleep which has worked lovely but can't go on like that forever.

Tonight have tried the good old supernanny trick to put him back into bed once he climbs out. Spend two hours doing that for dh to intervene and tell me to come out of his room and close the baby gate

As in... leave him to cry and fall asleep on the floor

AIBU to call this neglect?

Would you have room to move his bed or a temporary one into your room for a while? Just to get some sleep

I tell DS (older) he must fall asleep in his bed but can get into mine if he wakes up in the night

Wondering if the opposite would work for you... let him fall asleep in your room and transfer him when asleep

Thank you all so much for your responses.

Just an update - put DS to bed at 7:30, tucked in as normal, kiss, and goodnight (and left the room, ds didn't cry) AND BY 7:45 HE WAS ASLEEP!

He's listening to an audiobook - Matilda. I assume it's that that has helped, I sat on the stairs out of sight for half an hour just to be sure, he climbed out of bed, messed with his lamp (that I had previously unplugged jic), and then climbed back into bed and tucked himself in!!!! He whined a little, he didn't cry, just moaned and called for me maybe 5 times.

I could burst with pride.

I know it isn't over yet, we still have during the night & all the nights to come but I'm over the moon and needed to share it with all the lovely MNers that helped.

Fabulous snetters and babysnetters!!

This child is only 2. Why not lay with him whilst he falls asleep? It works, so it’s obviously what he needs. Giving your child what it needs is parenting, not leaving it to whip itself into a distressed state. I don’t understand why some parents think this is ok? It’s no better than “cry it out”, which is traumatic for a child. They are little for just a while. Please give your child what he needs.

He’s 2!!!

My DD went through this at 2 as well and I was heavily pregnant too!

It happened a few months after we switched her to a bed at 18 months - she was fine at first and then it must have suddenly clicked that she could get out of bed at will!

Cue several tortuous nights of two hours + putting her back into bed. One night I had it and I held the door shut so she couldn’t come out for the hundredth time - she promptly toddled off to bed herself, didn’t take more than 3 days before I could let her sleep with the door open and not even have to shut it :)