Aibu ? Too 'early' to send wedding invitations out?

[HolidayAmaradillo]

Due to get married on the 1st of august. I've been badgering my other half to send out the invitations to his side of the family and his friends.
He claims it's too early. I claim that he just doesn't give a shit - not exactly the best start to our almost married life.
But here's the thing, our venue needs the numbers around the 10th of June, it's also a weekday and we've invited people travelling from 3/4 hours away so I'd like to make sure enough notice is given.
Also I want them out now as I had already sent out invitations but then the venue we had chosen closed down, scampered off with our money meaning that the invitations needed changed and I didn't want people trying to book a room within the previous venue I know that 6/7 months is Still a lot of notice but then if somebody can't make it, it allows us to quickly make up more invitations inviting others. Or am I just being crazy early?

Would save the dates be a compromise? Also why do they need final numbers so early?

I really don’t think it is too early but it is on the early side, I think traditionally it is about 6 months in advance, could you compromise and send a save the date to his side?

Send a 'save the date' card and official invitations in march/April?

Send a save the date, send invites in January.

It is early but if you have already sent out invites re the now closed venue, you need to let people know that the venue has changed before they make arrnagements for the wrong place

Not really as I don't want to waste even more money, people already know the date as like I said I had previous invitations go out already.
I thought 8 weeks in advance was normal? The registry office needs them as well to know what size room we are going to need

You could do a save the date email.

You are getting married in the summer holidays so people will start to book holidays; suggest at least send save the date cards.

Well the schools will be going back about 2 weeks after our wedding so I hope they'd have any holidays out the way lol
They already know the date though? So sending a save the date, that they are already aware of just seems silly?

We sent save the date cards about 18 months before the wedding and the invitations about 7 months before. I think given the change in venue it's wise to send them earlier plus I don't see any harm in sending them early - it gives people a chance to book accommodation, work out childcare, save up if needs be, etc. I do find it odd that the venue needs final numbers so early - ours was 10 days.

Happy to be told it's too early to keep getting on at him frankly it's doing my nut in! I mentioned to him two weeks ago that I was sad that he didn't seem to care, never helps out with any planning ect and would like him to send them out soon, he said he would. But two weeks later and nothing has changed 😡

That sounds like prime holiday time to me.

🤦‍♀️Well it may be but as they already know the date, (none of the guests are Aware of the change in venue, Well the registry office part remains the same, It's the evening that's changed) then I'd hope they wouldn't to booking holidays. It doesn't make sense to me to send a save the date when they already know it

I would just send them. My DH was the same as yours and didn't wanna send them out too early. So we sent them when he wanted them I had to chase everyone for RSVPs as our venue needed numbers! If your venue needs numbers by June and you're gunna send them soon put the RSVP date and around end of feb because if you do it April/may time people will think they've got ages and forget

No ones going to book anything without the details so no need to send it now?

They've got the details of the previous venue though! I suppose I'm just panicking unnecessarily.
We got our old invitations out very quickly so I'm confused by his lack of wanting to do it now, when really there's little time. Especially if people need to put in requests to get time off work. I just don't want loads saying no because of short notice. I'm aware they may say no as it's a weekday and stuff but the notice is always handy

Well do a mass email with the new location and make it very clear about the change as a lot of people might just refer to the previous invitation

If people don't already know the date tell them ASAP. It's peak school holiday time. Many will be booking holidays over the summer. The need to know well in advance if they plan to avoid your wedding dates, even more so over the summer when lots of people at work places are trying to get the same dates.

If they already know the dates and it's a venue change - mass email with a change of venue highlighted clearly.

I don't see the point in save the dates. If you know all your info why not just send an invitation? Who cares if it's sent out with 7 or 8 months to go instead of 6? Surely it's better, then people can organise themselves in enough time.

Well the schools will be going back about 2 weeks after our wedding so I hope they'd have any holidays out the way lol

In my experience people take their holidays throughout the summer break. They don't all just go away for the first week. Especially as many work places won't allow everyone to be off at the same time, so it has to be shared out.

Mid August is also gcse and a level results time, so some guests may have children needing them around in these dates, or guests who are secondary school teachers.

So, yes, dates and venues to be shared ASAP in my experience.

He probably has been teased about sendibg the previous invitations waaaaay too early. Also the fact you have had to change venue - maybe he is being cautious about it happening again. Maybe just maybe you are turning into a Bridezilla before his eyes and he doesn't like it!

Just aend an email to those you invited explaining that the venue has fallen through and that although the date remains the same they will receive new invitations with full details in due course ( probably around April to allow for numbers to be in for June). However most venues need numbers a week ahead!

I've never received a wedding invitation more than 8 weeks in advance of a wedding so I think you're way too early at 8.5 months in advance! And the ones you sent previously were obviously even earlier.

However, given you've already sent invitations out, you do need to let people know about the changed venue. I'd send an email or text to everyone. If there are any people who don't do technology, then a note in the post to those (presumably only a very small few).

I hope I'm not a bridezilla! Just excited, keen to make everyone aware of the change and obviously with enough notice as there will be people needing a day off work. There's no people coming with children older than 5, and no teachers coming. But even if there was it's the summer holidays so they would be off anyway.
Will make a mental note to stop mentioning it. I'd want to look at getting them out in January though, is that still enough notice? As we are going away to visit a family member for the month of Feb

But if you've only received invitations with 8 weeks to go, How do you know you'll be able to go?
I'd imagine train prices would be extortionate leaving it so late, plus possibly needing a hotel, time off work. I'd have palpitations only sending them out 2 month before
Even the registry office said we have to give notice no earlier than 8 weeks before and they'd like final numbers when we come in to do that, we've been booked in for the 24th June so I thought it was just normal

But if you've only received invitations with 8 weeks to go, How do you know you'll be able to go?

I've a much better idea 8 weeks in advance than 8 months in advance 😁.

Close friends or family would obviously have told us when it's on well in advance of the invitations going out so we'd have mentally booked the date.