Aibu ? Too 'early' to send wedding invitations out?

[HolidayAmaradillo]

Due to get married on the 1st of august. I've been badgering my other half to send out the invitations to his side of the family and his friends.
He claims it's too early. I claim that he just doesn't give a shit - not exactly the best start to our almost married life.
But here's the thing, our venue needs the numbers around the 10th of June, it's also a weekday and we've invited people travelling from 3/4 hours away so I'd like to make sure enough notice is given.
Also I want them out now as I had already sent out invitations but then the venue we had chosen closed down, scampered off with our money meaning that the invitations needed changed and I didn't want people trying to book a room within the previous venue I know that 6/7 months is Still a lot of notice but then if somebody can't make it, it allows us to quickly make up more invitations inviting others. Or am I just being crazy early?

Just send the invites out.

No big deal.

I'd send them just after Christmas

That seems very early to me, it's usually 8 weeks. Some will be on hols, but that just makes the wedding cheaper!!!

I think 8 weeks would be cutting it fine if you need a final headcount a month before

Too early I think. People are starting to get bogged down with Christmas now as well. I would do it in January.

I am sending my birthday invites out in the new year for a party in October. Like you I have family that live far away, will need to make plans for travel and hotel and I would rather they had the notice and could save money for them in the long run.
As it is almost xmas though, I don't think people will be looking to book things as money will be tight and they already know the date so booking annual leave will be fine.
Leave it until after xmas and then your invite will make january blues a bit less heavy!

I wouldn’t respond this early.

Why can’t you send them if they are so important to you?

Too early they will be forgotten about in the Christmas mess. Wait till the new year people will actually be able to book their holidays then and it will seem more important and imminent

But if you've only received invitations with 8 weeks to go, How do you know you'll be able to go?
I'd imagine train prices would be extortionate leaving it so late, plus possibly needing a hotel, time off work

You can't even book train tickets this far in advance! Plus not may people need more than 8 weeks to book annual leave etc!

For a shift worker you could need a lot of notice for leave

^ That must depend on your industry surely? In my experience shift work was the easiest to get leave from, as sometimes I wouldn't even be rota'd to work that day, and often I could just swap rather than use up leave.

To be honest it all depends on the competence of your manager. I have worked in places where you need a months notice because the manager can only be bothered to log into the leave system once a month.

It's too early. At least wait until the new year 😊

If it's in June, I'd wait till February. The place needing numbers this early is crazy, ballpark figures, yes but actual numbers is daft.

You have already sent out the first invitations and it was exceptional circumstances in the venue changing etc.
I would probably send an informal communication like an email explaining that the date is the same but the venue has changed, further information to follow. And then send the invitations in a few months.

The best way to do this would be by post but if you don't want the extra expense then email (or phone elderly people if they don't use email).

As you said, you don't want people to book the wrong venue or be confused when a second invite arrives.

We've just booked our summer holiday for next year. Two months ago DHs employer opened up the opportunity to apply for annual leave for next year so he applied for his annual leave for summer 2019. Left any later and we would have had no chance in getting the July dates we wanted as its school holidays and first come first served.

So my point is, I don't think it's ridiculously early at all as people will soon be booking summer holidays. And come Boxing Day, all the adverts are nothing but TUI, Jet2 adverts. And sofas.

You’ve already sent invitations out. Don’t send another one out; just send an email saying the details for the evening have changed.

We sent ours 6 months ahead which was “early” to some people (but it was a bank holiday weekend).

I would absolutely send yours now. You can never have too much notice!

Wow yes too early! People will just forget about it. We did 6 weeks before

You need to let people know somehow about the change of venue. Personally, I’d fire off a quick email and promise invitations in Jan/Feb 2019.

Wait until Feb / March. We sent ours a year in advance and it just meant people didn't RSVP very quickly as people don't plan their lives a year in advance. We had one RSVP two days before with an email "just thought we'd like you know we can now come to town 500 miles away on Saturday - look forward to seeing you. Keep your calm - caterers, hotels, registry offices deal with this sort of thing every day

Far too early!

I agree with those saying wait until New Year. We sent ours out in December for a March wedding. Venue wanted final numbers 7 days before.

I would plan to send them in the new year.

with your wedding being in prime school holiday time I would have already booked a hotel room for the old venue. I'd say at least send them a text about the venue change

Also invites in Jan, I would not be happy with 8 weeks prior if I had to book annual leave and a hotel and arrange travel for a school holiday date, especially if I lived 4 hours away (so would likely need more than one day off)