To have not left my DH alone in the communal changing rooms

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Went clothes shopping this morning with DH who headed to the changing room to try his clothes on. I hadn't realised it was communal til we saw a girl walking in before us. I was happily about to walk away to have a wonder round the shop when it hit me that this women could easily accuse my DH of anything & without any witnesses it would be his word against his so I decided to stay with him. I did feel abit silly but since the whole Roxanne Pallet/Ryan Thomas thing on BB I'm just more aware of these types of situations.

WIBU?

That was meant to say her word against his.

They surely would have cubicles within the changing room though.

What would have happened if you weren't there?

Your husband could be falsely accused of anything at any time in any place.

I could claim he groped me in the queue at the supermarket.

So unless you are going to accompany him everywhere then yes, it seems a bit unreasonable.

Thst isn't any way to live your life, is it ?

It's not likely she'd accuse him of sexually assaulting her or raping her assuming he's not a sexual predator.

Your attitude is toxic

Would not have crossed my mind to stay at all. I don't know the people you reference though, what were you worried about exactly? If you don't trust your husband to be in the presence of women i think you've got bigger problems than communal changing rooms.

That was a very odd thing to do IMO

I don’t think that would have crossed my mind.

Honestly, I think that’s really weird. Are you normally quite anxious op?

I guess if I wasn't there I won't have been in that situation & therefor not posting this on mumsnet.

The changing room did have cubicles but as the changing rooms weren't manned by a member of staff the girl could've accused my DH of something if they had crossed paths on the way out.

I realise I was probably over thinking the situation but in the moment my instict just said to hang about to be on the safe side.

I'm not suggesting every women is a "Roxanne Pallett" but surely it's better to be safe than sorry.

Unless you're going to be with him 24/7 from now on you can't protect him

You're totally over Thinking

What a sad, strange and somewhat suffocating way to live your life. You going to follow your partner everywhere incase someone, somewhere (anywhere) accuses him of doing something criminal?

What did your partner think when you told him this btw?

You'd better accompany him everywhere then

Those young women who cry rape could be lurking on every corner

Does he also follow you everywhere in case you are sexually assaulted? As the chances of this happening are of course significantly higher than of him being falsely accused.

What?

You did what you did because you needed to. Sometimes we have a thought and if you don't stick to it you'll blame yourself should something ever happen. You've done no harm to yourself or your DH. Relax and don't over think it and remember, you made the right decision for you, it doesn't matter what all these people think. You're you. Enjoy your Saturday x

Supermarkets have CCTV so not the same.

I don't accompany him everywhere with this in mind it was just this one situation. It was early, the shop was quiet, the changing rooms were unmanned so I just decided in that moment just to hang about.

I know my DH isn't a sexual predator but if she had accused him of something he wouldn't have had a leg to stand on as it would've been her word against his. No CCTV, no staff. I just made a judgement call in this one situation.

Do you think that your DH is likely to sexually assault someone in a changing room?
If the answer is no then dont worry about stuff like this, false accusations are rare and are usually done for a reason (i.e. revenge).
If the answer is yes then you have much bigger things to worry about.

I thought you were going to say that you stayed to ensure the woman did not feel uncomfortable. But you are worried she may have accused your husband of something. Fucks sake!

Thankyou naomibh1. That's exactly it. My instict just told me hang about. Glad someone sees my point if view. Xx

By your reasoning he could equally have accused her, our public swimming pool has a communal changing area, yes there are cubicles for showers and changing but you are all mixed when walking from shower to changing cubicle.

What about spa areas, jacuzzis, steam rooms etc. You’re thinking seems warped.

What possible reason would the woman have for accusing your husband of assaulting her?
Or do you just assume that all women are just waiting for the opportunity to cry wolf?
Very strange attitude. It’s no wonder there are so few convictions for sexual assault if others share your attitude.

Does he have a habit of assaulting young women?

Sorry op, this is very ott, and sounds a little unhinged.. And I consider myself crazy at the best of times.

Honestly this is ridiculous!!