To have not left my DH alone in the communal changing rooms

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Went clothes shopping this morning with DH who headed to the changing room to try his clothes on. I hadn't realised it was communal til we saw a girl walking in before us. I was happily about to walk away to have a wonder round the shop when it hit me that this women could easily accuse my DH of anything & without any witnesses it would be his word against his so I decided to stay with him. I did feel abit silly but since the whole Roxanne Pallet/Ryan Thomas thing on BB I'm just more aware of these types of situations.

WIBU?

Why are you so worried, has your DH been “falsely accused” before?

What a strange attitude.

I'm not "worried" & no he's not been falsely accused ever. It was a split second niggle that I chose not to ignore. I didn't stand there weighing up the statistics of the situation I just feel in that MOMENT my DH was vulnerable I did what my insticts told me. On REFLECTION yes it was an over thought but at the time like I've said I just let the niggle get the better of me. X

It's a misogynist over thought though. It's no more OK than thinking he wouldn't be OK in a changing room with a person of colour or a person with disabilities.

Statistically she is at much more risk from him. And he is at more risk from another man.

That's why people are annoyed. Because it's sexist and unpleasant. And propagates the idea that women are constantly accusing men of sexual crimes. They aren't. Men do kill two women a week though. That's actually true.

Hi MrsTerryPratcett - like I've previously said I did stand there weighing up the stats. The situation I was in was my DH was in a secluded unmanned communal changing room with a female & I felt he was in a possible vulnerable situation. Wether the lady was disabled, able bodied or off colour whatever my feeling would've been the same. My concern came from scenerio not skin colour or disability. X

OP that's crazy

What’s with all the kisses? It’s odd.

So you did what you thought was right at the time. Good. Great. Fine. Whatever...why start a thread asking AIBU when you only want people to agree that you saved your vulnerable DH from being accused of something?

Hi ILoveAutum - I'm only putting kisses on my direct esponses to peoples comments. Why does it matter to you if I put them or not. Apologies if my AIBU doesn't fit your criteria. Maybe don't hang about if you don't like the thread. Xxxxxxx

Kisses on Aibu is unusual I’ll give you that.

Our justice system is based on the innocent until proven guilty. If your DH isn't guilty of anything then you don't need to witness to protect his innocence.

You must have a very low opinion of women op. You do understand
don't you that statistically that woman had a much greater risk of being assaulted by your dh than he had of being wrongly accused.

This is all very bizarre.

You’ve been reading too much Daily Fail Op. random women out shopping aren’t sitting around waiting to falsely accuse men of sexual assault. If there was any risk in a communal change space it would all be risk to women quite frankly. Has you DH been ‘falsely accused’ before it does he have a history of offending? Those are the only circumstances under which you might be sensible to keep an eye on him.

I still say the more believable senario is that she was just really "hot" and she didn't trust him. Along side assuming everyone finds her dh irresistible and will throw themselves at him.

No one I have ever met worries about their dps being falsely accused in a changing room. Not when we are being told on a daily basis it's perfectly safe for mixed sex changing areas

The kisses ffs
Don’t believe this anyway, kisses or not

Imagine if he was accused.

"He didn't do anything, I'm a witness."
"Who are you?"
"His wife."
"Why were you in the changing room?"
"To be a witness in case he was accused..."

Very weird thing to even think about

You were over thinking it.

Was it one changing room or with individual rooms separated by curtains/doors?

It is a little crazy but it comes from a good place, probably. A bit like a husband waiting for his wife in the same changing rooms to make her feel a bit safer.

If may actually have been Roxanne Pallet in the communal changing rooms in which case YANBU.

Fucking what?

You’re nuts. HTH

It doesn’t ‘come from a good place’ at all. It comes from a place that thinks a random woman in a shop is going to make a false accusation, presumably just because she can.