To use headbands on baby?

[AliceMarie89]

The fabric kind? Also pram shoes? I've been judged massively for both recently and want to ask other mums :/

Post this question on Netmums and see if the answer changes.

@PennyMordauntsLadyBrain mentioned not to 'brag' but to prove a point, just because you like to dress a child a certain way doesn't mean you live on a council estate!!!

@swee321 Not offended, feel sorry for you as I think to make a comment that a Mum has 'no dignity' because she choses to put a headband on a baby must come from a person who has seriously low self esteem and personal issues to be honest.

For the very occasional special event such as a wedding I don't see the issue.

For regular I don't see much point don't really see it as chavy etc.

In regard to cot bumpers at a recent mothercare event they explicitly said cot bumpers are for decoration only and should be removed every time baby is put into the cot. My DH said there is no point in those things who has a show home cot and I tend to agree!

At what age do headbands become ok then? I use them on my daughter as it keeps her masses of hair back and out of her face! Surely a clip is far more of a choking hazard.

Yep, as above posters have said. I'm not personally offended in the sense that I don't come from a working class background really - well, my upbringing and family etc don't really neatly fit into the boxes but my upbringing was quite middle class generally and I grew up in a naice area - I don't put headbands on my baby girl, I'm married, and have never lived on a council estate (although many members of mine and DH's families do, and he grew up one one). You don't have to be poor to find other people stereotyping and making gross classist comments about poor people, to be horrible. And as PP said I'm judging those people far more than someone who has the gasp temerity to put a headband on their baby girl when they're out in their pram. Anyway, horrible judgey classist people are not going to suddenly became decent human beings as a result of this thread so I will butt out now. But I hope OP has read these posts because this issue is not as simple as headband-or-no-headband. It's about classism and if she is of a certain working class demographic, headband or no headband, there will be snobby people who will always judge her and never respect her regardless of whether her baby has a headband on or not, it is a sad fact of classism.

Everyone has their own opinion on the headbands on babies

As soon as it becomes dangerous for a baby the argument should end there. Would you rather your baby look ‘girly’ than be safe???

A woman from my NCT class always had her little girl in headbands until one day she didn’t. She came back from the kitchen and it her little girl had pulled down her face and was almost over her mouth, she since then has actively campaigned against them on Social media

ITS NOT WORTH THE RISK FOR PURE VANITY

@Wanttomakemincepies 

I think if you had asked this question on Nethuns, you'd have got a very different response

I use a headband on my DS to keep his hearing aids in place. I would rather be thought of as a 'chav' and be judged. then have him die from injesting hearing aid batteries. Just saying.

It's mostly a cultural thing. I live in a country where almost everyone does it. In the UK, it seems to be associated with lower-income families, so there's a lot of snobbery over it (evidenced by the numerous "chav" comments in this thread).

@loveshinealight I think if they have loads of hair and have the strength and motor skills to take it off themselves if it’s too tight or annoying them, that’s grand.

I reckon most people here are referencing the massive lacy headbands with bows/fake flowers, usually on a baby who is as bald as a coot

I’ve used headbands on my son - he was on a medication from birth that caused rapid excess hair growth and hates having his hair cut. He also has a visual impairment that doesn’t do well with hair in his eyes.

Beyond that, there’s really no benefit to them.

Depends on your definition of ‘Pram shoes’. Heavy shoes or trainer type things, then no, but very soft leather or fabric to keep them warmer then totally fine.

I’ve yet to see a headband on a baby that didn’t look either uncomfortable or ridiculous and mostly both. And yes, I’d judge you as not being someone I’d enjoy spending time with (and I’d hope you didn’t leave them unsupervised with it). But that’s ok, quite feasibly you’d look at me and decide I wasn’t someone you’d enjoy spending time with ‍🤷🏻‍♀️

I've never understood the purpose of a head band on a child without lots of hair, once they are older and it's being used to keep hair out of their face etc fine, still bit too my taste but perhaps because I've always had long thick curly hair and DM would try and put it in buns or very tight plaits etc as a child and it gave me headaches, even now I don't like hair accessories unless necessary eg pony tail for the gym. Pram shoes, as long as they are soft and not restrictive I don't see the issue

I don't like either.

Well. That's OP told.

Or maybe we haven't made ourselves clear?
Maybe it needs spelling out a bit more?

I'm going to get some of these for my baby girl as i think they look adorable 🤷‍♀️:

frankie-lola.com/collections/hair-wraps-baby-toddler

I wasn't aware of the safety risk so will now probably save them for photos and special occasions. Baby has cradle cap which I like to hide and also wears a lot of her brothers old clothes so I like to 'feminise'.

Don't care if others think they look tacky tbh. We all have different styles and I get great joy from seeing my children in cute clothes (although Ds's are usually covered in filth after five mins!). Plus babyhood is pretty much the only chance you get to choose their clothes - DS was very opinionated about what he would wear from about age 2

I also use booties to keep baby's feet warm. Nearly bought her a pair of soft, silver mary-jane shoes but stopped myself because they were so pointless - I just get carried away by the cuteness of things sometimes 😂

Can't see the point for either, but I don't care if you put them.

I'd definitely judge you if you slapped your child or screamed at them for no good reason.

Tired thank you so much, they have some lovely gender neutral ones I can get for my son - his crazy hair is so hard to deal and I need to keep it out of his eyes.

@HugoBearsMummy Hahahaha! Good one! "Not to brag" sure you're not the insecure one?

I’ve been seeing lots of photos of baby girls in little - I think they are called baby turbans? They look adorable.

Not a fan of pramshoes but not something I’ve ever really noticed babies wearing.

Pleas don’t use a headband on your baby. I dealt with the heartbreaking death of a baby at work because of a headband.

Baby was eating a headband and was in a a ear facing car seat.

Hen she was driving mum heard what sounded like baby choking. She pulled the car over, and the headband had slipped forward, the baby had been sick into it, and then inhaled the vomit. She couldn’t be saved

HugoBearsMummy

The thing is most babies who wear headbands or have cot bumpers will be fine, just like most babies won’t die of SIDS or suffocate. But we still need to make sure our babies are safe from these things, and I will judge any parent who doesn’t take the steps to keep their baby safe because their friends babies had these things and they were fine.

Both tacky both pointless

Also I agree headbands are tacky as fuck.